Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Anger Doesn’t Work!

I use my thoughts, words and feelings purposefully.
I know I can choose what to think and say and feel.
I explore what is fun, safe, easy and effective.
I forgive and quickly release that which no longer works.
When you choose what feelings to have and express, choose what works.
When you decide what emotions do for you, experiment with what works.
When you observe yourself and others, look for what emotions actually do.
When you try out the full range of emotions, discover what is really true for you.

Anger hurts giver and receiver.
When you want help, why use hurt to get attention?
When you want to be helpful, why use angry demands to get through?
There must be a better way!

Anger is an expression of withheld energy.
Energy can be used to create or destroy.
When we withhold energy it often becomes toxic.
Toxic energy becomes distorted and destructive.

When we blame, criticize we are angry about what we are withholding.
When we judge or condemn, we are angry about what we are denying ourselves.
When we are abusive or violent, we are angry about our own mistake and inept lives.
When we display anger, we are covering our own guilt about lack of purpose, integrity and change.

Energy is meant to be used for good.
When we use our life energy to do harm, we fear repercussions.
When we attack another, we fear being attacked.
What we give and do to others, we attract to ourselves.

Anger is not justified in any form.  ACIM
Anger is learned from others who cannot see positive possibilities.
When people cannot imagine or believe something beneficial, they may feel frustrated and helpless.
When feeling helpless and powerless, the ego feigns power through angry thoughts, words and actions.

When there is no peace, there can be no understanding.
When there is no understanding, there can be no compassion.
When there is no compassion, there can be resolution.
When there is no resolution, there can be no harmony.

What to do about anger?
Step away.
Breathe and calm yourself.
Forgive your harmful thoughts and feelings.
Choose again with inner wisdom and love.

You know better than to harm another.
When you know better, do better.
Stop hurting yourself and others with anger.
Forgive yourself for denying love and wisdom to yourself and others.

Forgive and you will see things differently.
Betty Lue is always forgiving and loving.
Loving and appreciating you doing the REAL WORK.
This is ours to do for one and for all.
Betty Lue

Do It Anyway by Kent M. Keith

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.  
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.  
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.  Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.  
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.  
Build anyway.  

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.  
Be happy anyway.  

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.  
Do good anyway.  

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.  
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.  

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.  
It was never between you and them anyway.

The Paradoxical Commandments—original version by Kent M. Keith

1.   People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
      Love them anyway.

2.   If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
      Do good anyway.

3.   If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
      Succeed anyway.

4.   The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
      Do good anyway.

5.   Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
      Be honest and frank anyway.

6.   The biggest men with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men with the smallest minds.
      Think big anyway.

7.   People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs.
      Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

8.   What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
      Build anyway.

9.   People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
      Help people anyway.

10. Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.

      Give the world the best you have anyway.