Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Stop Feeding the Problem

The addict may now know his own addiction.
The truth teller may not realize his own truth.
The sick one may not understand his real illness.
If we knew, we would healed and whole.

It is important for us to all stop going to the same well to drink poison again.
It is essential we stop seeking ineffective answers from the same source.
It is foolish to follow the lost, when we want to be found.
It is wise to choose a different path with a successful guide.

Read my Loving Reminders today and consider your own journey.
Blessings are available to you now.
Love always prevails, 
Betty Lue

When in doubt, I stop and listen within.
When upset, I step away and return to my Center.
When I choose Love, I trust in the journey and allow the process.
When I teach, I learn as I go and practice, practice, practice.

Stop Feeding the Problem

Don’t give an addict more of the same.
Don’t give the alcoholic a bottle.
Don’t give the spender more money.
Don’t give a workaholic more work to do.
Don’t give a worrier something more to worry about.
Don’t give a hypochondriac a new illness.
Don’t feed a diabetic more sugar.
Don’t give an obese person  a 3000 cal meal.
Don’t give a violent person a weapon.
Don’t give a crazy person more fear.
Don’t give an angry person more anger.
Don’t add fuel to the fire.

Don’t encourage or support the behavior that is clearly a problem.
IN our desire to make the problem go away, many will give in to make the problem go away.
Hurting ourselves does not stop just because we medicate the hurting.
Soothing is a temporary or momentary fix to what is the real problem.

Co-dependents are defined many ways.
I would say we soothe one another’s addictions.
We collude in the errant or sick behavior.
We pretend like if we stop the pain right now, wisdom will come.

If I cannot handle another’s unhappiness, I will try to make them happy.
If I cannot stand pain, I may take away others’ self – inflicted pain.
When I cannot stand guilt, I may create multiple ways to blame.
When I take the blame for others. pain, I may unconsciously take responsibility for taking away the pain.

My choice for healing with full respect for the differences:.

Observe and expose the problem.
Forgive my judgments.

Stop trying to fix others.
Teach others.

Stop making anyone wrong.
Forgive attachments and dependencies.

Stop covering my errors.
Clean up myself as I go.

Stop adding to problems, by adding complication.
Keep love simple.

Stop judging and worrying.
Learn to trust and set others free.

Stop being codependent.
Give others full responsibility.

Stop supporting and reinforcing the difficulties.
Focus on strengths and encourage responsible behavior.

Stop focusing on the problem.
Start focusing on the solution.

I must listen within to know what to do and not to do.
I must respect and honor each individuals’ path.
I must be aware of when I am handling another’s pain, because of my own issues.
I must trust that we are all doing the work together because we all have the same work.

Loving myself as I do the best I know with each one all the time.
Love your intention and do not depend on controlling the outcome.
Betty Lue

“All Illness is Mental Illness.” ACIM

Show up and pay attention.
Tell the High Truth and detach from the Outcome.
Go to God or Higher Power for the Real Answers.
Let go and Let God and Good Be Done.

Healing Vs. Cure
(Used in the Wellness community)

1.  Cure may occur without healing.
   Healing may occur without cure.
   Healing and Cure may occur simultaneously.

2.  Cure considers the body separately from soul.
   Healing embraces the whole
   (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, relationships).

3.  Cure is acting upon and is based on fear.
   Healing is being with, in love and faith.

4.  Cure isolates.
   Healing incorporates.

5.  Cure combats illness.
   Healing fosters wellness.

6.  Cure fixes the body.
   Healing corrects perception.

7.  Cure is the application of external authority.
   Healing is an inner process.

8.  Cure is a closed system.
   Healing is an open system.

9. Cure focuses on the future.
   Healing focuses on the present.

10. Cure is performed upon another.
   Healing shares with a sister, brother.

11.  Cure manages.
   Healing touches.

12. Cure often issues from fear.
   Healing usually issues from faith.

13. Cure seeks to conquer pain.
   Healing seeks to transcend pain.

14. Cure seeks to hold grief at a distance.
   Healing incorporates grief.

15.  Cure has a beginning and an end.
   Healing is on ongoing process.

16. Cure encounters mystery as a challenge for knowledge and understanding.
   Healing encounters mystery as a challenge to find meaning.

17.  Cure focuses on what is happening to you.
   Healing focuses on how you respond to what is happening to you.

18. Cure rejects death and views it as a defeat.

   Healing includes death among the possible blessed outcomes.