Affirmations:
I am in the right place at the right time with the right
relationships.
I trust my choices and free myself to choose again.
I am kind and respectful in all my relationships.
I forgive every error in my choices, agreements and completion.
(See
Successful Relationships and Honorable Closure Below)
Right
Relationships are respectful.
Right
Relationships ate beneficial.
Right
Relationships are healing.
Right
Relationships are good for both.
How do
you know what is right for you?
When do you
know it is time to move on?
How can you
tell what is working for all?
What do you
do when a relationship is done.
Relationships
change over time.
Individuals
heal and learn and grow.
Relationships
complete their right purpose.
People may be
together for brief, temporary or for a lifetime.
When two
people outgrow each other, they may choose to complete.
When two
people no longer need one another, they may move on.
When two
people are no longer inspired and inspiring, they may say good-bye.
When two
people have healed and learned what they valued, they may finish what was.
When we
stay because we have committed, we may stop growing.
When we stay
because we are afraid, we may feel unhappy.
When we stay
because we don’t want to hurt another, we may feel resentful.
When we stay
because we don’t want to create discomfort, we may limit our happiness.
When we
leave before we have completed our true purpose in being together, we feel
unfinished.
When we leave
because we want to avoid the attachments, we may feel guilty.
When we leave
to stay uncommitted, we may feel selfish.
When we leave
too soon or stay to long, we may miss the lessons we are there to learn.
When a
relationship is right for us, we learn everyday.
When a
relationship is right for us, we are inspired by relating.
When a
relationship is right for us, we keep our agreements.
When a
relationship is right for us, we are honest with ourself and the other.
When a
relationship is not working, both parties may feel afraid.
When a
relationship is not working, both may feel guilty.
When a
relationship is not working, there will be limited communication.
When a
relationship is not working, both will experience limited learning, growth and
gratitude.
Always give
your relationships the opportunity to fulfill their purpose.
Always give
your very best to complete every relationship you begin.
Always trust
yourself to know what is highest and best for both parties.
Always seek to
leave with a win-win decision and honorable closure.
Every
relationship has value.
Every
relationship is work the time and effort to do your best.
Every
relationship is a source of healing, learning and growth.
Every
relationship is a reflection of all we need to know to awaken with love and
wisdom.
Love
everyone enough to complete every relationship with forgiveness and honorable
closure.
Forgive your
errors and the mistakes of others.
Learn from
everything and you receive benefit and growth.
Trust that
everything has a positive purpose when see rightly.
Blessings
of awareness and trust in the Good in all things.
Betty Lue
Keys to Successful Relationships
Joining-Create a common vision or shared goal.
Honesty- Communicate your true intention without
secrets or withholds.
Equality-Each is giving the best they know in each
moment.
Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best for both
parties.
Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond
consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame. Be respectful and
forgiving of mistakes made.
Successful
Relationships
To
have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates,
children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality,
Commitment, Responsibility.
Joining: All parties must share a
common goal or vision for their relationship. This shared vision comes from
communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the
future and what they share in common.
Honesty: Honest communication is
sharing what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest
is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and
appreciation.
Equality:
When both
parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality. Equality
is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness
to give one’s best even when it is less than the other. To quit or hold
back on one’s giving creates inequality.
Commitment:
To commit
to the fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the
relationship requires always choosing what is best for both. Decisions
are based on what is a win/win for all concerned. One must be committed
to what is highest and best for each party.
Responsibility:
Being
fully able and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success
through joining, honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible.
Where there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and
victimization as well as lack of responsibility.
To
be successful requires staying conscious.
To
be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To
be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To
be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.
To
take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the
success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give.,
total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for
the quality of the relationship.
If
you want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe
what you can do to improve them in every way. You need not depend
upon the other changing in order to increase the quality of your relating.
Blessings
for choosing a better way,
Betty
Lue
Honorable
Closure
How
do you complete a relationship, marriage, teaching-learning experience, job or
friendship?
How
do you know you are really complete?
People
may walk away without really finishing the healing work, because it is easier
emotionally.
People
don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is “God be
with You”.
When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.
We
have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.
Honorable closure acknowledges:
1) the learning and growth received,
2) challenges and difficulties experienced,
3) appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4) forgiveness and amends made.
**Acknowledge
within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how
you have grown and benefited from the experience.
**Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred
and perhaps were endured during the time together.
**Offer
your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
**Share
your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or
conscious errors of omission or commission. Often neither party is aware
of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.
This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a
peaceful conclusion.
**And
lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are
leaving.
Honorable closure includes a face to face or heart to heart
connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece
of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in
grief neither person is at peace. If you cannot complete in person,
write out your thoughts and feeling respectfully and with gratitude.
I
am grateful I have learned…
I
am grateful I was challenged……
I
am grateful to have regrets which I can apologize for and learn from.
I
am grateful to see how much I have received and appreciate……..
Do your part when you part.
When
we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are
free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously
repeating the same patterns.
To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires
honorable closure. Begin now!
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound
gratitude and inner peace. Do it Now!