Saturday, May 31, 2014

How To Succeed

Affirmations:  These are written for you to practice everyday,
With focus and intention, I easily succeed.
I appreciate every win for myself and others.
I celebrate my life with never-ending improvement.
I love to succeed for the Good of All.

Get Real.
Focus on Your Goals.
Practice Good Habits.
Work Smart.
Never Slack or Quit.
Have Alternative Plans.
Reward Yourself with Praise.

Take an honest look at where you are.
Don’t deceive yourself with wishing for heroes or miracles.
Acknowledge and forgive all your mistakes and learn from them.
Choose to be, do and have what is true for you.

Focus on your Real Goals.
Want what you want for yourself.
Re-evaluate your goals to see if they still are yours.
Make sure you believe you can achieve what you want.

Practice good habits mentally, physically and spiritually.
Use your mind in positive and creative ways everyday.
Keep yourself healthy with good eating and sleeping habits.
Be motivated with inspirational people, books and media.

Work Smart.
Stop efforting against resistance, negativity and complaining.
Think about how creatively you can use your time, money and energy.
Expend your energy in positive and effective ways.

Never slack or quit.
Getting lazy is a poor man’s excuse.
Just do what is yours to do and follow through to completion.
Those who are persist, always succeed.

Have alternative backup plans.
Life circumstances may change, so be prepared.
Give yourself options and creative ways to success.
Given the situation, be willing to find the most efficient path.

Reward Your Self with Praise.
Give yourself what you really want to keep on going.
You know what you need to motivate and inspire you.
Be willing to Love and support, trust and appreciate you well.

Wanting only the Highest and Best for You in All Things True for You.

Betty Lue

Friday, May 30, 2014

Suffering or Freedom?

I choose to free myself by taking full responsibility.
I no longer need to complain when I am willing to change.
I free myself to see myself and make beneficial choices.
I change my mind easily and choose for win-win solutions.

Have you stayed too long?
Are you waiting for someone else to change?
Are you wishing for a miracle?
Are you attached to being right?

Some believe they have no choice.
Some simply are too depressed to go?
Some are waiting on another to do the work?
Some are simply to stuck to see a way out?

If you believe that suffering is a part of life, you may feel comfortable.
If you are afraid of losing everything you value, you may value the choice to stay.
If you are dependent on the person or the house or job, you may be afraid to let go.
If you just want to complain, criticize and be long-suffering, you may enjoy where you are.

There is no one to blame.
There is no reason to complain.
There is nothing to do, except.
Get up and leave.

Animals know they are free.
People believe they are trapped.
Animals choose what is good for them.
People choose to stay in familiar stuckness.

Frogs put into a hot pot of water will jump out.
People may make it up to be their karma or destiny.
Frogs put into a cold pot when gradually turned up, will cook to death.
Humans may make it up to be good, until its too late.

When we know we are free, we must take responsibility.
Our responsibility can be to stay to protect and provide for others.
When we know we are free, we can be afraid of taking care of ourselves and making a change.
Taking care of ourselves may be to leave or to stay and stop complaining.

Being grateful can be a simple choice to appreciate what we have and where we are.
Being grateful can be tolerant of behaviors and personalities unlike our own.
Being grateful can be to recognize we have made our own choice and choose to make the best of it.
Being grateful can be to forgive the mistake we have made and to forgive others’ mistakes as well.

Is it time to change your mind or change your choices?
Is it yours to take full responsibility for learning the hard way?
It is your choice to suffer or be free.
It is your choice to take full responsibility.

Loving you in choosing what is best for all concerned,
Betty Lue

This is a powerful and effective way to Get Free and Let Free!

Getting Free
(By Setting Others Free)
It is not unusual for us human beings to secretly wish and hope that the people we’re close to don’t become too magnificent. We don’t really want these significant others to be too free or too powerful or too creative or too successful or to dream too wild a dream. We actually prefer that they stay small, “manageable”, non-threatening, tame. After all, we don’t want to be made to feel uncomfortable or inadequate or diminished or challenged by the boldness and joyfulness with which someone else lives his or her life.
But, until we are willing and actively desire that the key people in our lives be totally free and powerful, we cannot be free and powerful ourselves.
So, here is an affirmation-prayer that may help us begin freeing others, so that we can begin to free ourselves.

I, _____(your name)_____ want you, _____(his or her name)_____, to be the highest, clearest, most powerful expression of God that you can be. I would not limit you in any way, knowing that only as I encourage you to expand, explore and grow, can I myself be free. So I fully support you in being and expressing all that you are.
I want you to go where you feel called to go, to speak and act as you feel guided, and to express yourself in whatever ways seem right. There is nothing I do not want you to do, for I know that all movement is contained within God and always leads us to Him.

I am at peace with whatever decisions and choices you make, no matter how they may seem to affect me. Since I know that God loves and supports me perfectly, I know that however you choose to be with me must be a manifestation of that divine love and support. Because I trust God, I trust you. And because I trust you, I trust myself.

So, be free, be powerful, be unlimited. And know that I, _________, want you, _________, to be the highest, clearest, most powerful expression of God that you can be. I fully support you in being all that you are.

Randall Keller, 1985

Thursday, May 29, 2014

All Relationships Deserve Our Best

I treat myself and others with respect, kindness and gratitude.
I give myself my best, so I remember to always give everyone my best.
I forgive my mistakes and others’ easily and quickly.
I trust myself to keep my agreements and make no assumptions.

Did you ever wonder why people seem to give their worst to those they claim to “love”?
Do you ever see how people often ignore their children to speak with their friends?
Did you ever ask yourself why no one seems to give special care and gratitude for elders?
Do you ever ask yourself: What happened to respectful, responsible and cooperative families?

If your relationships are filled with positive attention and intention, I salute you.
If your marriage is a shining example of respectful communication and helpfulness, I honor you.
If your parents feel loved, respected, appreciated and supported by you, I appreciate you.
If you teach your children and all children respect, responsibility and cooperation, I bless you.

It is time for all of us to step up, forgive the past ignorance and neglect and choose again.
It is ours to make a difference in every relationship we have.
We can bring our best caring, listening, acceptance and response to every relationship.
Now is the time to transform the old habits into new means for inspiring respectful Love.

Do you know how to make and keep promises and agreements?
Do you understand the value of your word and your integrity?
Are you aware of how others observe you and learn what they can expect from you?
Do you watch others behavior to get an idea of who they are and what you can expect with them?

Are your relationships based on first impressions?
Do you believe “What you see is what you get.”?
Are you willing to clean up your dress, words and behavior?
Do you want to give the impression of being trustworthy and respectful?

You are making the difference you want to see and live with.
You are attracting relationships which mirror what others see in you.
You are teaching others how you want to be treated and talked to.
You are setting the tone of energy and ways to relate.

First:  Be, demonstrate and model in all your relationships what you prefer.
Remember to use your words, appearance and interactions to teach others.
Live consistently at home and work, in public and in private what you value.
Take time daily to improve yourself and your relationships.

How we relate to one another determines how others relate to us.
When we are respectful, others learn to respect themselves and us.
When we are argumentative or defensive, others prepare to argue.
When we are forgiving and move on easily, others learn to let go.

We are teaching our world with every thought, word and deed.
It is essential that we be clear about what we are teaching.
I would rather be happy that be right.
I prefer and choose to never fight.

Trusting you choose well, for the sake of Goodness and Love,
Betty Lue

Relationship Reminders: (See my  Reminders books on
Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.

Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
Take nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.

Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.

When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.