Tuesday, January 14, 2014

What Is Yours to Do?

I take care of myself and my life with joy and gratitude.
I reach out to others from a place of fullness and love.
I teach with my thoughts, words and living example.
I easily and quickly resolve and heal any and all problems with trust.

When you complain, what good does it do?
When you judge, how does it help or hurt?
When you get angry, how does that change anything?
When you are hurt, who is calling for attention?

Life offers continuous opportunities to choose reaction or response.
Life gives us challenges to handle, experience to learn from and hopefully wisdom to guide us.
When we are fully living, we learn from everything because we gather clarity and wisdom.
When we are fearful, contracted, defensive and avoidant, we often become more insecure and separate.

Let’s observe what really is, without the overlay of our emotional projection and distortion.
Let’s listen to the inner loving responses and the outer fearful reactions.
Let’s gather information, support and encouragement to do and say what is best for all.
Let’s forgive our ignorance and errors and respect and appreciation for choosing again.

Life can feel overwhelming with too many challenges or boring with no drama or urgency.
Life can offer infinite choices or sometimes only one direction seems evident.
Life may feel like it is all for self study with no aids or full to teachers and teachings to consider.
How and what and where we choose to discern what is true for us determines the path we take.

When life offers problems, it is ours to gather information, seek healing  or ask others to handle.
When life shows us our gifts, talents and resources, they are ours to use to contribute and share.
When life keeps repeating or “haunting” us with the same concern, it is ours to seek resolution.
When life gives us people and places to serve and be truly helpful, it is ours to give with ease.

Life is meant to be fun, safe and easy for those who listen within.
Life is an adventure of challenges for those who want to learn and grow.
Life can be healing services to offer for those what are called to comfort and care.
Life can be trial and tribulation for those who resist options and fear change.

What can you do to change the world you see?
What can you do to being peace for those who are in conflict?
What can you to provide for those in need?
What can you do to help yourself today?

We can try to clean up our neighborhood, or workplace, our own family..
We can complain and judge what is wrong with everyone.
We can expect and blame others for not doing their job.
Or we can take care of our own home, our own attitude, our own life.

Let us begin within.
Let us choose to handle out own dirty laundry.
Let us clear our mistakes and make amends for unmet agreements.
Let us pay our own debts and handle our own lives well.

When we live impeccably with all areas resolved with gratitude and love, then we can help with integrity.
When we learn from everyone and everything how to do our own lives better, we are shining examples.
When we trust that our happiness and peace and whole life health is our gift, we see things differenctly.
Life is for giving and we are the gift.

Let us give the gift we are freely and fully and trust this is enough.
Loving you for all you do to live your life well.
Blessing you, 
Betty Lue

Healing Relationships

You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.

Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered.   This shows us where we have work to do.

The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem.  
It is ineffective over the long term.

The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us.  When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.

This is a big job.  
It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.  
Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.

Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself,
the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.
The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself,
the more others will do the same for themselves and  for others.

You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.