Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Change Is Essential!

Row, row, row your life.
Gently down the stream.
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily.
Life is but our dream.

If you fear change, you will resist.
If you judge change, you will resent.
If you stop change, you will get stuck.
If you resist, resent and get stuck, you will feel alone.

Change is a constant and natural.
Life is ever changing flow.
Death stops the flow.
People seem to want to control what is natural. 

Every day is different.
Every thought shifts to another.
The physiology is constantly flowing and changing.
Even rocks, earth and air are alive with transformation.

It is with natural change that we become stronger and more resilient.
When we interfere with the flow of life, we become weaker and more vulnerable.
When we alter the natural order of things, we lose our trust.
When we believe we can make it better, we get caught in creating resistance.

Life wants to go on living.
Beings want to go on being.
Songs seek to be sung.
Love is always flowing to love more and more and more.

Where have you stopped and gotten stuck?
Where to do seek to not fully and freely express?
How do you withhold your love and creativity?
When do you fear harm will come, when you allow natural change?

What would life be, if we lived naturally and effortlessly?
How would love flow if we allowed ourselves to simply love?
What if we seek the best and happiest ways to live?
How would we choose to change if we weren’t so indebted and stuck to houses and jobs and people?

Some fear chaos would occur.
Some simply fear others would leave them wanting and needy.
Some cannot find a positive possibility within, so cling to what they know.
Some don’t want the responsibility of finding our what will happen when they flow with change.

Consider where you are holding back.
Look at how you deny your dreams.
Observe where you shut down your inner guidance and intuition.
Be honest about what you would do and where you would go if you were free.

Loving you in your willingness to flow with what is.   Betty Lue

Change your mind about your life and your life will naturally change.
Change your words about your life and your life will heal and grow.
Change your activities and habits and your life will be renewed.
The nature of change is to heal, grow and renew.

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference 
  how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake. 
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

 If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest 
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

It’s All Good!

I now receive all Good and only Good.
I am open and willing to see the Good in everything.
I love my life and my life loves me.
I choose wisely what is for the highest Good of all.

Could it be what we thought was bad can be used for Good?
Could it be every end is simply and opportunity for a new beginning?
Could it be every upset is really a wake up call to choose again?
Could it be you have been on path all along, learning what does and doesn’t work?

It is possible with a little forgiveness and trust, you will see the blessings in all that is.
It may be you can seek for the gifts by discarding your negative judgments and fear.
You might even see the past as the place you learned what you need to know now.
If all good exists, it must be behind the clouds of a judging and fearful mind.

Take a look at how life shifts when you change your mind.
Try singing a positive song: 
Every little cell in my body is healthy.
Every little cell in my body is whole.
Every little thought in my mind is happy.
Every little thought in my mind is good.

My life is a product of the thoughts I think and the feelings I have.
I can have “loser” thoughts and feel “poor me” feelings.
I can have “winter” thoughts and feel “grateful” feelings.
You can choose to change your thoughts and your feelings, anytime you choose.

Love is letting go of fear and clearing the past.
Happiness is forgiving ourselves for being unhappy.
Gratitude comes for seeking only what we appreciate.
Appreciation is the choice to create the life we really want.

Under every cloud is a silver lining.
Within every mistake is learning to do what works.
With every misperception we can learn to see things differently.
With every problem, we can learn to trust in right outcome.

Have you even begun to stop, look and listen?
Have you stopped your judging fearful thinking?
Have you chosen to look outside and within?
Have you been willing to ask for how to respond with love?

When we stop feeling sad and sorry about the life we have, we begin to understand.
When we give up trying to figure our what went wrong, we have the space to see what is right.
When we lay aside the yucky memories and heavy resentment and regret, we feel better right now.
When we undo what no longer is true and simply live for today, we can see the play of it all.

Time to make a choice: it is your choice.
Choose wisely and well for what you want to think and feel.
Take charge of your life and what is real and good for you.
Be willing to be the one who shines your good feelings and thoughts on everyone.

You are the light, so shine it really bright!
Betty Lue

The 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing
1.       The essence of our being is love.

2.       Health is inner peace, healing is letting go of fear.

3.       Giving and receiving are the same.

4.       We can let go of the past and of the future.

5.       Now is the only time there is, and each instant is for giving.

6.       We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than by judging.

7.       We can become love finders rather than fault finders.

8.       We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside, regardless of what is happening outside.

9.       We are students and teachers to each other.

10.    We can focus on the whole of life, rather than the fragments.

11.    Since love is eternal, change need not be viewed as fearful.

12.    We can always perceive others as either extending love or giving a call for help.

Attitudinal Healing affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience.
Attitudinal Healing encourages us to re-examine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and grievances.
Attitudinal Healing reminds us that perception is a mirror of what is in our mind.

Monday, July 29, 2013

Are You Where You Want To Be?

I am here to be truly helpful.
My life supports me in living my purpose.
I love being fully alive and freely sharing my gifts.
I am here to relinquish all apparent blocks to Love.

Are you happy with yourself and your life?
Have you accomplished what you set out to do?
Is it time for something new to choose for you?
Are you willing to set new goals and grow into them?

Often people work hard to get where they are.
Once the goals are accomplished they quit or retire.
Often folks plan for a future where they get to do nothing.
Sometimes they decide what they will do, when……..

If there is nothing more for you to go for, why keep going?
If you are done with life as you have created it, what now?
When you are complete, are you secretly waiting for the end?
Can you imagine a life in paradise or heaven or retirement?

Has your get up and go, given up and went?
Are you out of fresh ideas and ideals?
Have you stopped dreaming and scheming?
Have you quit on yourself and your life?

I notice when anyone quits, their physical, mental, emotional and social life fades away.
I have observed those who lack meaning and purpose, are adrift in the sea of life. 
I recognize that a lire without purpose and meaning may seem worthless and empty.
If this describes you, it is time to wake up and choose again.

Help someone.
Look for the good stuff.
Have some fun. 
Realize your old life is done.

Things have changed.
We can have many lifetimes in one:
Many jobs and many different places to live.
Many relationships and many different ways to give.

It is likely when you think you are finished, you have only just begun.
It is possible you have satisfied your own ambitions and now it is time to give.
Life is meant to be lived, to burn out and not rust out.
Have more adventures, meet new people, learn something of value.

Here is a process that may be good for you to take your time to do.
Make long lists on one page each.  
When complete, put the pages away and come back in one year to see how much you have fulfilled!  You will be amazed how simply writing it down begins the process.
Things I have always wanted to be and never been:
Things I have always wanted to do and have never done:
Things I have always wanted to have and have never given myself:
Projects left incomplete.:
Communications never delivered:
Promises made and not kept:
Plans made and not fulfilled:
Ways I have not lived true to myself:

Where we are not done, we are incomplete until we have fully played our part.
We are not done, until we have finished our holy assignments.
We are incomplete, until we have forgiven and created peace in all relationships.
We are not done, until we are truly done.

Living fully and freely is giving our all until we are done,
Betty Lue

Prayer Song
May all Beings walk in Beauty.
May all Beings live with Grace.
May all Beings share their Wisdom.
May all Beings give with Faith.

May all Beings hear their message.
May all Beings teach with respect.
May all Beings learn their teaching.
May all Beings forgive to resurrect.

May we all remember our own Heart Song.
May we all remember to be true.
May we all remember to give with humility.
May we all remember You are Me and I Am You.

Betty Lue, February 13,  2013

Sunday, July 28, 2013

No Excuses and No Complaints

Life works for me, when I do the work to create my life.
I am free to choose and fully responsible for my life.
I know what I want and I go for it.
I can have the life I want by being the person I love, trust and respect.

When you justify not having, you may get stuck in not having.
When you give endless excuses for not being happy, you will likely stay unhappy.
When you complain about what you didn’t get, it is unlikely you will create it now.
When you regret the past and fear the future, it is likely you will continue this pattern.

Give up the mental blocks and self sabotage.
Undo the meaningless beliefs you have created to keep you stuck.
Let go of limiting thinking and choose for a better way.
Relinquish attacks on people, places and past experiences and choose again.

Excuses and lengthy justifications only help you believe you are a victim.
Thinking and speaking about yourself, as though you are not responsible, disables you .
Believing that others make you life be what it is lets you off the hook.
Take full responsibility and reclaim your own life.

Complaining is the habit of blaming what you have decided you deserve.
Whining about what didn’t happen or you cannot have is depleting and defeating.
Children complain, blame and act out until they get what they want.
Mature adults take responsibility for their choices, forgive mistakes and choose again.

Complaining is draining. 
Blaming is hurtful.
Whining is childish.
Acting out is foolish.

If you are still engaged in any of this behavior, it is time to grow up!
If you find yourself unconsciously playing victim, it is time to take charge of your life.
If you become aware that you use playing weak, helpless, needy to get your way, stop.
If you know you are behaving like a child or drama queen,  step away, breathe and choose again.

Yes, you can choose again.  
You can be responsible.
You can forgive your past.
You can begin to have the life you really want.

If you leave your life up to others, you will have what others have.
If you let others control your choices, you will relinquish your own dreams and desires.
If you take full responsibility for your thoughts, words, decisions and actions, you will learn.
If you observe what no longer really works for you, let it go and seek to find a better way.

Getting clear of limiting thoughts and negative emotions is key.
Having a clear and focused mind allows you to choose wisely.
I want…..   I am willing………
When you are willing to have what you want, you will do what you need to do to create it.

It is time to create the life you want with self love and respect plus inner happiness and freedom of choice.
Betty Lue

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Meaningful Life

Grandparents’ Summer Camp
The grandkids (4 girls and 2 boys, 8 yrs and unde, have spent the week here at the Lake House with us.)
Sewing, crafts, games, harvesting from the garden, searching for treasures, deer bones, special rocks, blackberries and swimming in the lake.  Every Friday night is a small town rodeo and two kids went to every morning and we have family movies every night. We are all happy and tired.
Life is full of giggles, jokes, questions and great ideas.  For three weeks every summer (5  days each month), this is our joy. We choose and create meaning and learning, fun and gratitude in our lives.

When life has meaning, it is focused and fulfilling.
When life is meaningful, it is filled with learning.
When life is rich with learning, it matters to us.
When we have a meaningful life, we have chosen wisely.

When life is meaningless, you may feel empty and useless.
When life feels senseless, you may lose momentum, intention and direction.
When you have lost your way, you may get caught up in distracting activities.
When you are bored or have no direction, you may create inner and outer drama.

Life with purpose and meaning usually flows around all obstacles.
A meaningful life easily and gently flows past distractions, detours and delays.
Being on purpose allows shifts and changes without upset or distress.
Knowing your life matters encourages flexibility and resilience.

When we are committed to something that matters to us, we are accepting.
When committed to our mission, purpose and goals, we are allowing.
When we know what is real and important, we are understanding.
When we live in integrity with our own higher purpose, we tend our own garden.

Those who may have forgotten or have no purpose may envy or judge others’ lives.
Those who are focused on healing may get caught in an endless loop of fretting and fixing.
Those who are distracted and tempted by the world may be consumed by temporary pleasures.
Those who are fatigued with fear and worry about the future may withhold and hide.

Seek what brings you lasting joy.
Explore and experiment with what provides a focused forgetting about time.
Live one day at a time seeking for everything that you believe in and enjoy.
Look for what is inspiring, creative, fulfilling and fun for you.

When we want money, we get money and trying to get the money we want.
When we want approval, we get approval and the need to get approval.
When we want achievement, we may get some achievement and the effort to achieve.
When we simply want meaning, we find we are giving meaning to everything we see.

It may be time for you to find meaning in all your choices.
It may be your calling to choose those activities that inspire and fulfill you.
It may be your healing to set aside others’ choices for you and choose your own way.
It may be your learning to pay attention to what you say and do and dream everyday.

You are your own greatest resource to find meaning and purpose.
You have all your own answers within you.
You need not see outside confirmation, when you are true to you.
You can affirm your inner knowing and enjoy the choices you make today.

Loving you in all the ways you live and love and give.
Betty Lue

What do I really want in my life?
(Make a list of at least 20 wants. Freely write down everything that comes to mind, with no censoring or limits.)
What does your heart want for you?
What is your simplest wish for yourself?
What do you really want to have?
What do you really want to be?
What do you really want to do?

What do I love to do?
What makes me the happiest?
What is my secret ambition?
What has given me the most satisfaction in the past?
What excites me about life?
1      _________________________________________
2      _________________________________________
3      _________________________________________
4      _________________________________________
5      _________________________________________

What am I good at?
What have others told me I was good at?
In what areas of life have I excelled?
What are some of my strengths?
1      _________________________________________
2      _________________________________________
3      _________________________________________
4      _________________________________________
5      _________________________________________

What is important to me?
What would I be willing to sacrifice for?
What do I stand for?
What would I commit myself for regardless of the obstacles?
1      _________________________________________
2      _________________________________________
3      _________________________________________
4      _________________________________________
5      _________________________________________

What was I born to do?
Where in life can I make a difference?
What unique opportunities have been placed in my path?
What specifically does God want me to do?
1      _________________________________________
2      _________________________________________
3      _________________________________________
4      _________________________________________
5      _________________________________________

Based on the answers above, develop a short paragraph outlining your purpose. Take the three top priorities from the four areas to which you just committed answers. Construct a statement that explains what you are beginning to sense in your purpose. This can be a work in progress. What is important is to commit to something in writing. Your purpose can be anything you want it to be and it can include anything that is important to you.

My Purpose Statement:

Friday, July 26, 2013

Family Matters

Get involved or not?
Give advice or not?
Take over or not?
Criticize or not?
Help out or not?
Loan money or not?
Bail them out financially or not?
Let them live with you rent free or not?
Ask them to help you or not?
Care for elders or not?
Live with adult children or not?
Listen to gossip or not?
Blame others or not?
Feel guilty or not?
Regret past mistakes or not?
Love them anyway or not?
Forgive everyone or not?

Believe it!  You hold the key to happiness and healthy relationships.
Believe it!  You can teach trust and freedom.
Believe it!  You can let go and let Good unfold naturally.
Believe it!  You can forgive everyone for mistakes and choose.

What really matters? 
·     Never quit on love.
·     Forgive mistakes and return to Love.
·     Allow everyone to be different.
·     Trust that each one is doing the best they know.
·     Mind your own business.
·     Learn to listen without trying to fix.
·     Wait to be asked for help.
·     Stop jumping in to rescue.
·     Never sacrifice your own well-being.
·     Your peace and love is most important.
·     Clear the fear and upset before communicating.
·     Develop the habit of allowing others to choose.
·     Let people learn from their own natural consequences.
·     Do not make some special good (right) and judge the others bad (wrong).
      Love everyone in exactly the best way for them.  (
·     Give others what they appreciate, no more and no less.
·     Stop giving more to get the love and approval you want.
·     Realize that you are teaching others with your thoughts, words and behavior.
·     Observe what you are teaching and stop if no longer helpful or inappropriate.
·     Freely apologize for everything that does not work for yourself and others.
·     Ho O Pono Pono= I’m sorry.  Please forgive me.  I love you. Thank You.
·     Be open to continue learning from each one and everyone.

Loving you as you love each one you encounter in the family of humanity.
Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships 
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. 
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Thursday, July 25, 2013

When Life Hurts or Scares You……..

No one and nothing can harm me.  
Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. ;)
I no longer need others approval or protection.  I now take care of my whole self.
Whatever is best for me is best for others.
I take impeccable care of myself.

How do you soothe yourself?
How do you find your center?
How do you come to peace?
How do you return to love?

When life gives you lemons, do you know how to make lemonade?
When you feel lost and confused, do you know how to find direction?
When you feel no one understands, do you suffer in silence or listen inside?
When you feel scared and hurt, do you know how to soothe yourself?

Life has ups and downs, twists and turns, that require navigation.
When you know how to handle the stormy weather, you are at peace.
When you are not prepared for difficulties, you may feel hurt and scared.
It is appropriate to learn the most effective ways for you to hold your course.

When we are on purpose, living in integrity with our highest truths, we are centered and calm.
When we are off purpose, not being honest with ourselves, we are easily bumped, hurt and frightened.
It is essential that we learn to stop our mistaken and ineffective reactionsto find a better way.
Each one must seek their own self soothing, centering and calming processes.

Resisting what is may cause pain.
Being a victim may cause fear.
Giving up and giving in may feel weak.
Fighting and pretending may create conflict and confusion.

What do you do to take impeccable care of you?
First find your inner peace.
Stop and breathe deep into your belly.
Meditate or do yoga or other calming activities.
Take a nap or a walk.
Distract yourself with reading or movie.
Extend positive energy to someone or something.
Listen to soothing music or write a thank you note.
Write out all your fears and feelings and then burn it.
Use affirmation and denial to clear your limiting beliefs.
Speak calming and loving words out loud to yourself.
Get you favorite blanket or PJ’s and  curl up in your favorite place.
Get out in nature and let the wind and sun and trees and birds love you.
Hold a  baby or watch children playing in a park. 
Sit by the ocean or up on a hill and look our at the wonder.
Pray or talk to the Infinite Source of all Good.’
Do what you would suggest to someone you love.
Rock in a rocking chair and sing to yourself.
And find what is best for you.

You deserve the best of Love.
You deserve inner peace.
You deserve to know you are not alone.
You deserve to remember you are always Loved.

Loving you now and always, Betty Lue

Monday Evening class “Discovering the Real You” July 29, August 12, August 26 

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Light, Light, More Light

I am light in my thoughts, words and relationships.
I shine the light and clear all darkness, ignorance and fear.
I am filled with deLight as I share the happiness inside.
The more I forgive, the Lighter I Am.
It is the most natural thing in the world to be Light and give Love.

“What would you say to a person who says the world is growing darker every day? “
Let there be light!  
And the light begins in YOU!

Be happy and spread sunshine all over the place....
Breathe and blow the clouds of darkness away...inside and out!

The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.
When we have forgotten or neglected or denied Love, our inner light feels diminished.
When we have judged, resented, feared or attacked, we may experience inner darkness.
When we are consumed with the collective endarkened thinking and feeling, we deny the Light.

It is time to awaken.
It is our job to enlighten ourselves and our world.
It is our calling to be the One who dispels the darkness.
We have volunteered to show the Way to lift the veil and be the Light.

What else is there to do?
Shine our Light, our gratitude and joy.
Share our Love, our forgiveness and trust.
Give Freedom to one and all, including ourselves.

And when our work is done, more will come inviting us to show the way.
And when the work is done, the dark will disappear and we will know only Love.
Yes, it appear a long long ways away, but it is not our place to do our work.
No one else can do it for us, we must walk the path of forgiveness and love by ourselves.

And what do we use to remember?
How do we stay true to our path?
What can we do to feel supported?
How do we handle moments of doubt?

For each one is different in path and process.
We each have our own loving reminders.
We stay true when we are open and willing.
We listen within to our courageous and committed heart.

I am willing to bring the Light.
I am willing to remember Love.
I am willing to awaken others.
I am willing to appreciate my Self.

When we are willing and open, all guidance is given us.
When we are committed to do good work, all provision comes to us.
When we have asked, ”How can I be truly  helpful?”
We listen within to the answer of wisdom and Love.

We are here to enlighten humanity….one person at a time.
It is fun, safe and easy to inspire and love others.
It is joyful to give the best within you to all. 
You are a gift of light and Love.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!
This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.
This daily practice will heal and transform your life
With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.

Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.
Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.
Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.

Daily Practice:

Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.
Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind. 
Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within. 
(No need to understand or feel anything.)
I forgive you for being mean.
I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.
I forgive my body’s limitation.
I forgive myself for being late.
I forgive everything.
Make the sound “AAAH” for 1minutes.
Imagine that you are opening your mind.
Now write and say 30 Choices. 
I choose to be happy. 
I choose to be free.  
I choose to do what I love. 
I choose to forgive….

In the Evening (before bed)
Write and say 30 Gratitudes
I appreciate the energy I have.
I love being happy.
I am grateful I have you in my life.
I thank God.
Make the  sound “OM” the Universal sound for Love and God for 1 minute.

PS Even a few of each is better than none.  
Do what you can and trust it is working.
Even when you are driving to work, you can do this process aloud.
The key is your willingness to DO THE WORK!

Loving You always, 
Betty Lue

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Energy Creates More Energy

The more I love, the happier, healthier and more productive I am.
I am highly energized by everything I think, say and do.
I release all fear and relinquish all attack: I live at peace within myself.
Life works for me as I do the work.
Everything works together for good, when I remember this is my truth.

Love begets more Love.
Kindness generates more kindness.
Happiness creates more happiness.
Each time we give, extend, share demonstrate, we are creating more of the same in our world.

Depletion comes from using energy without love, joy and gratitude.
When energy is used for good purposes with full appreciation, there is more energy.
When we are happy doing what we do, our energy increases.
When we are inspired by what we do and give, we have more useable energy.

When we are tired, it is because we have been judging or blocking the flow of energy.
When we worry, doubt or fear, we block positive energy.
When we complain, whine or appear needy, we block to flow of energy to us and from us.
When we are resentful, regretful, guilty or angry, we stop the flow of goodness to and from ourselves.

Whatever we give comes back to us multiplied or more obvious.
What we give is what we receive.
When we give good energy, we receive good energy.
When we give negative energy, we experience negative or depleted energy.

Our energy is unlimited when it flows fully and freely.
Our energy is limited when the flow is blocked or constricted.
Our energy is unhealthy and unhelpful when we are thinking and feeling negative thoughts and feelings.
Our energy follows our intention, choice and direction.

Fill your thoughts with gratitude and your energy will increase.
Think positive thoughts and your feelings will be happy, peaceful and loving.
Fill your thoughts with judgments and your energy will decrease.
Think negative thoughts and your feelings will be unhappy, conflicted and unkind. 

Use your mind to create more good.
Express feelings of gratitude and joy.
Use your body for loving purposes.
Energy will be inspired, increased and focused.

Love is trust and freedom.
Love trusts all things work together for Good.
Love frees us to be open and willing to follow our heart.
Love is the way we demonstrate gratitude.

Let your energy show you where you are constricted.
Forgive all blocks to limiting your gratitude and love.
Erase thoughts which are negative, fearful and doubting.
Allow your heart and mind to open to the highest and best way to think, speak and behave.

Loving you everyday in everyway.
Betty Lue

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference 
  how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake. 
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

 If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest 
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Monday, July 22, 2013

Relationships Are For Healing

I cannot see what I think cannot be.
I choose to see what I believe can be for me.
My mind now automatically erases everything that is not wholly true and loving.
I erase all fear and doubt and live and teach what love is about.
I now choose to treat everyone with kindness and respect all the time.

Relationships are for learning.
Relationships are for healing.
Relationships are for creating.
Relationships are for growth.

Relationships show us what is working and what is not working.
Relationships give us clear feedback on what we want and don’t want.
Relationships are a computer print out of our thoughts, words and behavior.
Relationships represent exactly what we have asked for, chosen and created.

Relationships are a mirror of our inner self, thoughts and feelings, beliefs and history.
Relationships out picture what we have not erased from our past.
Relationships are projections of what we believe is possible and true, and deserve.
Relationships demonstrate where we have blocks to the awareness of Love.

Recommendations for Harmonious and Respectful Relationships
~Stay conscious and in control of your words and emotions. (Stop using drugs and alcohol.)
~Take impeccable care of yourself. (Get adequate rest and food and eliminate work stress.)
~Meet your own needs. Encourage independence. Show others how to meet their own needs.
~State your requests of others respectfully and concisely. Don’t expect others to guess!
~Be silent until you can speak respectfully. If necessary, write to each other.
~Unless you want to fight or argue, do not engage until both parties are calm.
~Give what you want to have.  Never treat anyone with less than you want for yourself.
~Stop expecting something different from others.  It is a setup for disappointment and frustration.
~Appreciate what you receive. Everyone is giving their best.
~Give more to have more. Recognize those who have less can only give what they know and have.

Most disharmony comes from guilt over not being able to give what the other wants to have.
Most guilty people withdraw and withhold, blame and resent, or try harder and make more mistakes.
Most arguments come from two people who want to be “right” and no one listening to find agreement.
Most disrespect comes from not trusting, respecting and loving ourselves.

Stop complaining, withholding, criticizing, nagging, pleading, resenting, regretting and controlling.
Start appreciating, contributing, valuing, requesting, being kind, forgiving, trusting and letting go.
Find a better and happier and healthier way to relate to everyone.
Healthy Relationships are respectful, responsive, co-operative and fulfilling.

My choice:
We are in a relationship which I value and want to keep at the highest level.
I commit give you my best and want only the best for you.
I share with you the Highest Truths I know.
I appreciate both of us, as we give our best in all circumstances.
I take full responsibility for the quality of our relationship.
I never quit on Love.

Loving you,  
Betty Lue

Relationship Perceptions

· Perception is a mirror, not a fact.
·   What we see in another is a projection of our history and our internal judgments.
· Therefore, we see what we want to see in the moment, what fits with our current ideas, beliefs, and attitudes.
· Relationships are an opportunity to become a spotless mirror.
· Relationships show us where we are stuck in our opinions and self-judgment.
· Healing our perceptions, clearing our relationships, loving everyone equally, and cleaning our mirror is the purpose of the world and physical experience.
· Present moment experiences reflect past similars. We recreate past patterns until we come to peace and clear our misperceptions.
· The major portion of all relationships with lovers, spouses, children, employers and friends is to clear the past.
· Awareness with no judgment is healing. Simply notice.
· We are responsible for our experience and receive what we have asked for exactly as we have asked.
· Everything works together for good.
· To consciously give ourselves and our relationships to Spirit is to allow the undoing to occur in an easy, natural way with trust in the outcome.
· To the degree we respect ourselves, we are respected by others.
· To the degree we abandon ourselves, we are abandoned by others.
· To the degree we listen to and honor ourselves, we are listened to and honored by others.
· Also, to the degree we love and trust ourselves, we can love and trust others.
· So, it behooves all of us to clean up our own relationship with ourselves—to let go of everything that blocks us from respecting, being with, listening to and honoring, loving and trusting ourselves. Indeed, this is the cure-all for relationships.
· The simple truth is that the outer reality is but a reflection of our inner kingdom.