Monday, June 17, 2013

Neediness Invites Anxiety and Depression

It has come to my attention that some may think Loving Reminders are “free therapy”.
They are free.  
They are not therapy.
They are loving reminders.
They are written to be truly helpful.
They are shared to be inspiring and educational.
They are useful only when you are open and willing to change your mind.
They will work only when you let go of your comfortable and unhealthy ways of relating and living.
Please use them for improving the quality of your life choices and relationships.
If they do not work for you, simply let them go quickly and easily.
I trust you and believe in You, Betty Lue

Neediness Invites Anxiety and Depression

Who do you need?
How dependent are you?
Can you survive without the ones you “need”?
Can you rely on your whole Self?

Is it possible that your dependency creates vulnerability?
Is it likely that the more dependent you are, the weaker you become?
Do you realize that neediness only exaggerates the problem?
While weakness may be powerful in getting help, it is debilitating in terms of whole life health.

Being dependent on a person or relationship gives a false sense of security.
If I have you, my life works.  
If I have a partner, I feel safe.
If I have this job, I can take care of myself.

How does one create a life that works?
How do we feel safe with or without a partner?
How do you take care of yourself, even with no job?
Can you imagine being self sufficient?

Some children never grow up.
Some people never feel safe, secure and sufficient.
Some partners never can be separate.
Some human beings rely anxiously on an ever-changing world.

Is it possible you are ready to emancipate from your parents?
Are you willing to grow up, become adult and totally responsible for yourself?
Are you willing to live on your own, pay your own bills, make your own choices and invest in your future?
Are you open to become independent and rely on your own inner wisdom and your God Self?

Anxiety comes from lack of confidence in your ability to be responsible for your self.
Depression comes from being fearful for not being able to take care of your own needs.
Withdrawing from dependency on others often creates both anxiety and depression.
Recognizing that you are not prepared to take care of yourself without needing others is upsetting. 

Begin where you stopped growing up and start where you left off.
Learn to pick up your clothes, wash your own dishes and keep your room clean.
Learn to cook, do laundry, go shopping, be helpful to others and take care of you.
Learn to pay your own bills and handle your money and time wisely.
Learn to forgive your mistakes and always learn from them.
Learn to always tell the truth and be confident in your choices. 
Learn to let go of unhealthy people, situations, habits and ways of relating.
Learn to be self reliant, self disciplined, self motivating and self confident.

If you don’ t have productive work, get a job(s) that supports you.
Live within your means and take care of your own things.
Be reliable, dependable, accountable and responsible.
Trust yourself and others will trust you and count on you.

If you want to be clear, confident and successful, grow up and be self reliant.
Trusting and respecting you in creating a life that works for you!
Betty Lue

“Our Greatest Fear” 

Our greatest fear
is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light,
not our darkness,
that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
“Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented and fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that others won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some of us,
it is in everyone,
and as we let our own light shine
we unconsciously give other people permission
to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear
our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson, 1992