Friday, December 07, 2012

Create the Relationships You Want!

Do you want to be taken for granted?
Do you want to be respected?
Do you want to be admired and valued?
Do you want to be dismissed and demeaned?
Do you want to be loved and appreciated?
Do you want to be helped and supported?
Do you want to be heard and honored?
Do you want to be treated with sensitivity and kindness?

When we are dismissive and demeaning, we teach others to treat us the same way.
When we take ourselves for granted, others may take advantage of us with little or no appreciation.
When we deny ourselves what is best for us, others may neglect to give us their best.
When we blame ourselves or feel guilt and regret, others may accuse and blame us.

When we respect ourselves, others will learn to respect us.
When we admire and value ourselves, we remember to admire and value others.
When we love and appreciate ourselves and others, we create a world of love and appreciation.
When we help and support others and encourage others to help and support others, we feel benefitted.
When we hear and honor our own inner voice, we listen to others and help them honor their inner voice.
When we treat ourselves and others with sensitivity and kindness, others learn to be sensitive and kind.

It is our thoughts, words and deeds that create the relationships we want.
Respect and kindness begin within us.
Everyone is teachable when we offer safety, peace, patience, respect and kindness.
Everyone learns with positive reinforcement and loving respect.

When we are angry or resentful, openly or silently, others feel the negativity.
When we are loving and forgiving, others feel safe to open to new behaviors.
When we live in a toxic relationship, we may need to remove ourselves to return to peace.
When we forgive ourselves for getting hurt or fearful or resentful, we can heal the relationship.

Love is letting go of fear.
Love is returning to peace.
Love is extending gratitude.
Love is seeking the Good within all of us. 

To create the relationship you want, be the change you want to see.
To create the relationship you want, give the love you want to receive.
To create the relationship you want, be the best you know you can be.
To create the relationship you want, appreciate what you have created.

Relationships are for the purpose of healing all that is healthy and whole for all parties.
Healing begins within you and me.
Loving you, loving me, loving you,
Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships 
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. 
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Blessings to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of relating,  
Betty Lue