Wednesday, September 12, 2012

If It Works, Keep Doing It!

If It Doesn’t Work, Stop!

You would be amazed how many people keep doing what doesn’t work!
·     Maybe because they don’t know what else to do?
·     Or because they just get stuck with trying again and again?
·     Or maybe because they don’t notice it doesn’t work anymore?
·     Or maybe because they think some magical change will occur and it will change?

If you are one of those people who are still banging your head against the wall, stop!
Stop hurting yourself!
Stop frustrating yourself?
Stop disappointing yourself?

It is time for a change!
To make healthy changes, you must forgive, erase and wash away the past.
You must relinquish a need to attack or criticize or blame anyone, including you.
You must stop and get off the old cycle and have a fresh start, creating on a new canvas.

If you are one of those folks who stop doing what works because things are better, please continue.
Continue doing what is effective and helpful.
Continue with what works for you and others.
Continue the way that seems to make everyone happy.

It is time to persist with what yields success.
To have a good life, keep on doing good things for yourself and others.
To have a happy life, keep on being happy and making others happy.
To have an abundant life, keep on giving and receiving only Good with Gratitude and Joy.

If you feel uncomfortable, anxious, angry, hurt, guilty, upset, stop doing what you are doing.
When we are living in integrity with our highest values and best self, we are happy and content.
If you have secrets or are embarrassed or withholding, you know you are not in integrity.
When we have no secrets, a life that is lived with self respect and gratitude is a successful life.

The coping skills and defenses we learned as children or teens are not valid, as we become adults.
The behaviors and language that our adolescent society displays are not respectful nor honorable.
“Ordinary” behavior on media is not to be admired, emulated nor amusing, when seen in the light.
When we ask ourselves if we want our children to copy this behavior, the answer will be “NO”!

When we hurt our loved ones with our thoughts, words or behavior, we are off purpose.
When we intentionally use aggressiveness and power to get our way, we lose love and respect.
When we interfere with other’s happiness and creative expression, we are hurting our relationships.
When we stop people from living their dreams, because we are envious, we are demeaning ourselves.

We are given choices in every moment.
When we share toxic and inane stuff, we lost the audience and they see us as toxic and inane.
When we share kindness and inspirations, those who hear see us as kind and inspiring.
We choose what we want to sell and how we want to be seen and heard.

Simple recommendation:
If you want to be appreciated and admired, share your best ideas, respectful language and behavior.
If you have stupid, arrogant, mean or poopy stuff to express, do it in private where no one can hear or see.
If you want to feel good about you, unload the negative “Poop” alone and don’t pick up anymore to carry.
Negativity, criticism, hatred, jealousy, anger, fear, etc are too heavy and toxic to be carrying with you, Stop!

“If you can’t think of anything positive to say, don’t say anything at all.”  Grandmother’s proverb.
Loving me and you for setting a good example. Betty Lue’

I am sorry. Please forgive me.  I love you. I thank you.
These are all powerful words which begin to change everything in the positive direction.
Consider using them regularly for yourself and for others.

Loving life and all its learning value,
Betty Lue