Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Healing Relationships

Relationships are for the purpose of healing, forgiving and learning to love unconditionally.
In every relationship the healing needs of both individuals will come up (eventually).
When you expect perfection or romance or continuous loving, you will be disappointed.
When you know there will be many opportunities to forgive mistakes and fears, you will practice.

We are here to learn how to love unconditionally.
We are here to let go of our separateness and see life through the other’s eyes.
We are here to undo our past unconscious guilt  and stop projecting our stuff onto others.
We are here to change our minds by changing our thoughts and choosing to trust and set free.

Within every relationship is the opportunity to reveal our needs, demands, mistakes, and our fears.
Love provides a safe place to expose our past wounds, faulty thinking, desires and dependency.
Relationships will eventually (sometimes soon) expose all the unconscious would of early infancy.
When we are committed to love no matter what, the healing is done through continuous forgiveness. 

The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.

When we forget to love, we become angry, hurt, resentful, fearful, suspicious, hurtful and resistant.
When we forget to love, we project our inner pain out on our loved ones.
When we forget to love, we imagine that we have fallen out of love and we are RIGHT not to love.
When we are not loving, we have lost our way, our purpose, our essence and reason for Being.

Love, real Love is who we are and our reason for being in relationship with everyone.
We are here to clear the fear to love.
We are here to undo what is not true.
We are here to heal whatever is revealed.

The Love I speak of is not romantic or attached or needed or dependent.
The Love I speak of is powerful and healing and forgiving and helpful and respectful and kind.
We need not marry, live with or even be friends with those we love.
We can love and bless and be kind and respectful of our differences and personality triggers.

When we demand another is what we want or desire in order to love them, we are trying to GET.
When we simply give love, respect, kindness, generosity, appreciation, gentleness to another, we love ourselves more.
What we give to others is given to ourselves.
When we forgive another, we have forgiven ourselves.

Taking total responsibility for the quality of our relationships is key to recognizing thoughts create.
When we know that others hear our thoughts and respond or react accordingly, we stop blaming.
When we realize that our unloving and unkind thinking is received, we forgive ourselves.
When we forgive ourselves and choose to love no matter what, our relationship change.

What would it take to love unconditionally?
How do you feel when you love yourself unconditionally?
How much to your expand your joy and inner peace, when you forgive?
How good is the gift of your respect, gratitude and love  when you love another?

Let us undo what is not loving within ourselves.
Let us fully enjoy the peace and happiness in life when we life.
Let us let go of hurt, anger, fear and neediness and find release in Love.
Let us love ourselves enough to forgive all things for the sake of healing.

Loving you,  
Betty Lue
LOVE
There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference 
  how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake. 
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest 
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox