Friday, September 02, 2011

Stop Correcting and Criticizing

Correct and change yourself where needed. 
Seeking drama or seeking peace?

Irritated with others mistakes or focused on what works for you?
Playing small and invisible or obvious in living in integrity?
We are teaching by our example.

How we speak and think and act is actively building the world we live in.
The way we treat ourselves and others is the way they learn to treat us and themselves.
The world is a clear and obvious reflection of our own behaviors, and interaction.
We are responsible for the quality of our relationships, our choices and how we live.

When we are at peace within and in our language and activities, we create peaceful relationships.
When we are blaming others and trying to correct them, we teach them to blame us and correct us.
When we love, trust and respect ourselves, we teach others to love, trust and respect us.
When we take care of others and expect them to take care of us in return, we may be disappointed.

Learning to teach by example is key to successful relationships.
Taking impeccable care of ourselves we demonstrate to others how to take care of themselves.
When we try to tell others what to do without doing it for ourselves, they often resent the hypocrisy.
When we show others how happy we are with our own lives, we inspire them to make themselves happy.

The more we love, trust and respect ourselves, the more we love, trust and respect others.

(When I am not loving and respecting myself, I tend to judge, criticize and try to change others.)
The more we love, trust and respect ourselves, the more others love, trust and respect us.
(When we are not loving, trusting and respecting ourselves, others tend to treat us without love, trust and respect.)
The more we love, trust and respect ourselves, the more others love, trust and respect others.
(When we are not living in integrity, others learn to not live with love, trust and respect.)

We must forgive ourselves quickly for our mistakes and learn to forgive others for theirs.
We can be the change we want to see now..
Communicate with those close to you the changes you are making.
Be patient with them in undoing the habits of years and making the changes to adjust to yours.



These shifts in how we relate change how we see ourselves and how others see us.
These shifts produce inner peace and outer happiness.
These shifts begin to build patience, acceptance and understanding in our relationships.
These changes may not always be believed by others, so apologies and consistency are the key.

Trusting you and me in building a better world, one person at a time.
Always begin with ourselves!

Betty Lue