Friday, July 31, 2009

How to Listen

Are you willing to really listen to another’s truths?
Are you able to heart their most heartfelt feelings?
Are you able to understand the meaning beneath the words?
Can you tell when there is something more to be shared?

Do you hear between the silence between the words?
Can you feel what really matters?
Are you able to see through their eyes and experience?
Do you know that love seeks only to respond with love?

Somehow we think we need to correct others misperceptions.
We believe it is helpful to clean up their messes.
We try figure our how to fix them, rather than be with them.
We go for the “right” answer, rather than respond with kind words.

It is always up to the most conscious person to do the work in communicating.
It is usually going to be YOU, the one caring enough to read this reminder!
So take a deep breath when you are going to really listen with your heart.
Let go of your “thinking” mind and simply be present with trust in the other.

Join them wherever they are in thoughts, ideas, feelings and beliefs.
In order to really listen you need to know what they mean by the words used.
In order to understand, you need to see with their perception, different than yours.
In order to communicate, you must clarify what they are saying and meaning.

To really hear another, it is essential to create a “safe” space for them to speak.
To create a ‘safe’ place, there can be no disagreeing or judgment in your mind or your words.
To build a safe place, there needs to be unconditional positive regard for the speaker.
To give room for full free expression, there must be a willingness to hear it all without interfering.

It is through fully communicating our deepest feelings, that we discover how we are accepted.
It is by being listened to with love that we come to know we are safe.
It is with total acceptance of our experience that we feel someone is there for and with us.
It is in being trusted and given the freedom to express that we truly realize we are loved.

Make it a practice to listen with you heart with a quiet mind.
You will be surprised how deeply you connect with the speaker.
More healing occurs. More trust is established.
More honesty is revealed. And you need to nothing more than listen……….

Loving you and listening,
Betty Lue

Thursday, July 30, 2009


What do you intend to communicate?
How can you get your message across?
Is it the responsibility of the sender or the receiver to be heard?
How can you deliver your message so it will be received?

As the sender, it is your responsibility to do everything you can to be received.
If you are simply focused on you and your message, unless the receiver is open, you will not be heard.
If the receiver is defensive, hurt, afraid, angry, unhappy, etc, your message will be distorted.
If the receiver is busy trying to send their own message or receiver another, you will not be heard.

As a sender of communication, it is your responsibility to send your message with consciousness.

First, clarify your own message and your underlying intention.
What do I want the receiver to hear?
Send your message only when there is an open line of communication and the other is listening.
Is the receiver ready and willing and able to receive my message right now?

As much as possible eliminate all distractions and noisy interference.
Turn off music, TV and outside conversation or go to a quiet non-distractive place.
Create respect for both sender and receiver, by first getting permission for the communication.
I prefer email because the receiver chooses his own time to receive and respond.

Ask directly if now is a good time for a “brief” or more lengthy communication.
I would like 15 minutes to share with you. When would be a good time?
Keep your communication brief, direct and non-attacking.
I feel…… I want (prefer, desire, intend)……. I am willing………

Watch and listen to the response of the receiver and even ask what they think they heard.
What did you hear me say? And how did it feel to you?
If in any way your message is being distorted or misunderstood, simply restate with your apology.
Wow! So sorry. What I intended to say was,………….

Communication means coming together as one or finding common ground.
If in your communication there is further separation and upset or conflict, it is the responsibility of the sender to check their own intention and make corrections.
Too often the sender is busy reacting to the receivers reaction and loses the basic responsibility of clarifying their sending and their message.

When you communicate, make sure you desire win-win outcome or a respectful connection.
When you set a high goal and do not quit or become defensive, you will succeed.
Bless yourself and the receiver when you both achieve a higher level of respectful connection.
Appreciate your willingness to take responsibility for the quality of your communication.

I respect you for being willing to learn, to find a better way,
Betty Lue
Notice that the Wednesday evening group twice monthly is about ALL respectful healthy relationships!

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

What Do You Want?

Are you wishing, hoping and praying?
Are you filled with ideas and dreams?
Do you think someday you may “get” what you want?
Do you hold pictures of what could be?

Are you surprised by how easy it seems for some to live their vision?
Are you envious of those who seem to get everything they desire?
Do you believe it can happen to you, if you just keep praying?
Are you stuck in the belief that good happens only to the special few?

Let’s look at a few of the simple steps for realization and manifestation.

Vision: Hold the image in your mind as clearly as you can.
Faith: Have confidence that you can and deserve to have.
Passion: Allow your body, emotions, thoughts, finances and relationships to support you.
Commitment: Make a commitment that you will persist and not quit on your vision.
Strategy: Listen within to Spirit, to intuition, to the Joy in your heart for guidance along the way.
Action: Do what you need to do to clear all obstacles and act fearlessly on what you know.
Gratitude: Be grateful for your willingness, your consciousness and your energy every day.
  • Make sure you write down what you vision for yourself at 20 years or more, 10 years, 5 yrs and 1 yr.
  • Share only with those who say YES, who believe in you and will not sabotage with doubts and fears.
  • Be willing to acknowledge and erase your own doubts, distractions, detours and delaying tactics.
  • Give yourself permission to dream big and bold.
  • Trust your process and see how you are supporting your own life purpose.
  • Give yourself the freedom to let go of friends, finances, and funky attitudes that get in your way.
  • BE vigilant only for the Good stuff, the God stuff, the Goodness that comes from living your vision.
Peace of God…your Piece of God is your goal.
Happiness is the indicator you are living on purpose.
Your function and your work is to forgive, undo and release what inter-fears with living your Piece.

It is that easy.
(You will love the Tuesday evening class: “Create Your Life Consciously!”)

You can when you believe you can!!
Loving you,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Who Are You?

Are you the product of your family system?
Are you fitting in with your culture?
Are you what your mate wants you to be?
Are you conforming to other’s expectations?

Are you pleasing to yourself?
Are you someone you admire?
Are you a gift of Love and Joy?
Are you a blessing to all?

Is it possible that you are imprinted with others beliefs about you?
Could you be controlled by habits that are simply ingrained?
Have you gotten lost in what society has taught you to be?
Are you lost in a sea of conflicting and confusing possibilities?

What will it take to free yourself to be yourself?
What do you need to undo to be true to you?
How long can you stand without taking a stand?
When will you be willing to hold your own hand?

Life is our choice.
How we live it, ordinary or extraordinary, is our call.
Blending in or standing out is the choice to be or not to be.
Are you real yet?

If you really knew what you believe, would you live it?
If you could give yourself the freedom to choose, would you do it?
If you allowed yourself to imagine your ideal, would you go for it?
If you believed you could be and do anything, would you allow it?\\

I invite you to begin with the exploration wherever you may be.
Who do you admire? (Make a list of five.)
What are the qualities in them you value? (List 5-10 qualities for each.)
Recognize that what you see I those you admire are qualities in you which you can nurture.

Then list your own qualities that you admire.
Begin to actively appreciate each one and watch it grow in strength.
As you discover qualities in you which you dislike, actively forgive them.
I forgive myself for acting ………. I appreciate myself for …….

When we do the work to uncover and discover, we are really chipping away at the defenses, limiting beliefs and false self image, we have been taught.

Know what you find inside is an unlimited, beautiful, radiant Being. I can see the Real You!! So let go and you will, too!

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Monday, July 27, 2009

Summer Response-Abilities

Take one day of summer vacation to spiritually vacate the ordinary and explore the extraordinary.

Our challenge:
· Know Who You Are,
· Discover why You are here.
· Clear the blocks to freely being You.
Each one of us has our own unique gifts and calling to bring forth.
In this lies our Happiness and our Piece of God.

It matters not your age or your education, your background or your beliefs.
You owe it to yourself to live your potential.

Live authentically.
Live whole and happy and free.
The fullness of God’s Peace,
the Abundance you want,
the Happiness your seek,
cannot be reached until you freely live and share Your Truth.

So discover and uncover. Let’s do it.
Forgive the past and choose to appreciate yourself in the Present.

We are here to serve…to be responsible…to be able to respond to all with Love.
How you serve….whom you serve…what you serve are your choices.
· Let’s be servants of Goodness.
· Let’s serve only Love.
· Let’s serve all those seeking to remember Love.

We are building a community of Love….One moment, one person, one choice at a time.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Highly Recommended: 1995 Movie "Powder”
Even if you saw it before, watch and listen again.
We shared it with our Unity congregation yesterday and I was amazed and deeply moved!
Listen to every line of dialogue, right from the beginning. Multiple topics addressed.
Pay attention to what moves you.
It will help define "who you are”, “why you are here” and “what your blocks are to fully being You.”

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Recipe For Loving

Question from a reader: How do you make yourself love when you don't feel it?

My response:
“Love is not an emotion.
Love is our life force, the energy that breathes us.
Love is trust.
Love is freedom.
Yes, when you are loving, you feel alive and radiant.
Love is flowing the energy within us without blocks or withholds.
Love is having no fear.” Betty Lue

Follow-up question from this reader: "If love is not a feeling, but the flow of energy through us (makes sense), you could also say that when you feel alive and radiant (a powerful flow), you are loving. Then how do you make yourself feel alive and radiant, so you could be loving? Do you have a recipe for that, Betty Lue?"

Recipe for Loving

Love is action, not thought or feeling, not words, but deeds.
“I am loving You.” Means I see You. I trust You. I free You to be You.
The You I see and trust and Love is whole and holy.
The You I know and Love is the Essence, the Reality, the Truth of Who You Are.
The You I Love is the God, the Good within, the True Creation.

I free you with forgiveness, the spiritual eraser that remembers only the Love You Are.
I breathe Love for you as I am Loving, respecting, honoring God and Self.
I hold you in my thoughts and prayers as my brother and my Self.
I flow the Love from Source to all creation without specialness, knowing All is One.

When I remember I am Love created by Love as Love for the purpose of Loving, I realize my whole life is an activity of flowing Love.
When I know my purpose (Loving) and myself (Love ItSelf), then I realize so are You.
Our holy work is to remember and remind One Another of the Truth of our Being.
We are each and all here to clear all blocks to the awareness of the Presence of Love.

We are here to forgive, to undo what is not true, to erase what is not Loving.

Our work is not to try to Love.
Our work is to let go of the block and be aware of Love.
Our work is not to try to be radiant and alive.
Our work is to release the clouds of fear and misunderstanding.

In our relationships, we become aware of the blocks to freely flowing the Love we are.
Our emotions (self consciousness, withholding, disappointment, fear, anger, hurt, etc.) show us where we are remembering past judged experiences and learned separation from ourselves and the Love We Are.
In our life experience, we are here to actively clear the past and return to Love, only Love.
Live, only Live. Be truly happy and shine our inner Light on all in all ways. Where we shut down our life flow, our Love flow, we feel not alive, and not radiant. Where we clear the clouds and polish our light of Love, letting it shine forth , we feel alive, radiant and in the state of Love.

So it is.
We are the Sun of God, the Light of the world.
I am loving you.
I am shining on You and your Life.
I am seeing you whole and Holy Loving.
I am happy with you and for You.
Betty Lue

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Summer Responsibilities

You have been given this life.
Your life in a body on this earth is your responsibility.
You are here to be a good steward of your whole life….mind, body, spirit, relationships, finances, environment, work…..all of it…..
Our responsibility is to manage with consciousness all we have been given for the One who gives.

Some Guidelines that will benefit your Stewardship:

1) Live Simply.
Lighten your distractions. Undo complexity, complications and conflicts.

2) Live freely.
Rid yourself of debt, duty and “do-do”.

3) Live in integrity.
Seek reasons, resources and responsibilities that resonate with you.

4) Live in service.
Live, love, let go and laugh as though all life matters, honoring all beings and all creatures on the Earth.

5) Live with forgiveness.
Respect what is and release what isn’t.

6) Live with gratitude.
Appreciate how Good Life Is.

7) Live with enjoyment.
Share the Wealth of Wisdom and Abundance of Goodness fully and freely with great Joy.

What are your Spiritual Responsibilities?
Take a vacation from worldly planning, providing and protecting to ask inside.
· Who are You?
· Why are You here?
· What can You do or undo to fully Live your Purpose in Being on this Earth?

And last, I would ask, “What are you willing to do to live true to your Self?”

Life is a conscious adventure into being alive, awake and enthused by being able to Respond.
With Joy and Appreciation,
Betty Lue

Friday, July 24, 2009

Judgment Creates Stuckness

What you judge, you get stuck with.
Where you criticize, you cause resentment.
When there is resentment, there is guilt.
When there is guilt, there is the tendency to do it again.

Guilt is an ineffective deterrent.
Fear is a block to love and kindness.
Resentment builds resistance.
Hurt feelings cause separation.

While most have been taught to judge, admonish, criticize, demand, blame and threaten to get our way,
this is an ineffective way to change behavior.
These forms of communication cause reactions of defensiveness in the form of withholding, secrecy,
explanation, justification, distraction, stubbornness, counter-attack, blame, aggression and withdrawal.
When our communication causes a negative reaction, it is not productive or helpful.

Those who feel guilt rarely say “I’m sorry” and choose to change their behavior.
Those who feel guilt most often withdraw or blame the one with whom they feel guilt.
Guilt is an ineffective teacher or motivator.
Guilt will not produce the desire results of positive change.

The ego, the learned personality uses guilt to get its ways.
The ego uses guilt as a way of proving itself “Right”.
The ego causes guilt in others as a form of punishment.
The ego sees guilt in another as an admission of wrong-doing.

When we allow someone to hurt us or do harm, we set them up to feel guilty.
When we believe we can be harmed, we teach others to be careful with our feelings.
When we ask others to be careful with our feelings, we believe we are vulnerable.
When we believe we are weak, we allow ourselves to be victimized and hurt.

The work of the ones who seek to be spiritually helpful is simple.
  • Love ourselves and others in all circumstances.
  • Bring forth love no matter what.
  • Forgive ourselves for letting anyone hurt us.
  • Recognize there are no sinners, but rather those who are mistaken, feel lacking and unloveable.

When we rise above the belief in our own victimization, we take responsibility for healing.
When we seek to heal our belief in lack, littleness and limitation, we forgive and release all mistakes.
When we undo what is not true, we come to realize we are unlimited in power, in peace and in love.
When we extend our loving power to ourselves and others, we are free and can trust Love prevails.

Blessings of trust and freedom that comes from forgiving all that is not,
Betty Lue

Thursday, July 23, 2009


Do you give to those who give to You?
Do you recognize you are creating when you give?
Do you know you are teaching others by your giving?
Do you realize that giving strengthens both the giver and receiver?

When we give, we are amplifying and increasing.
When we give, we are honoring and appreciating.
When we give, we are flowing and trusting.
When we give, we are nourishing and prospering.

Whatever we give, is given to both to giver and receiver.
However we give, is received by both giver and receiver.
Giving and receiving are opening the circle, the flow.
Giving is a gift of Prosperity when given with Gratitude and Joy.

It is the gratitude in the gift that benefits.
It is the emotion of the giver that is transmitted.
It is the blessing of the giver that blesses both.
It is the trust within the giver that inspires.

“Love makes the world go round.”
It is in our Giving that we keep life flowing.
It is in our Giving that we benefit all humanity.
It is in our Give that we empower ourselves.

When we live in a state of Giving, we fulfill our life purpose.
When we remember to give the Gift we are, we increase our own Givingness.
When we expand and express our True Self, we teach others to do the same.
When we celebrate all Gifts, given and received, we Love Life.
Every bill paid can be seen as a gift.
Every contribution given is your gratitude extended.
Every act of service is a gift of your loving kindness.
Every statement of appreciation and respect, is a gift which increases what is valued.

Every breath you take with thankfulness, is a gift to life itself.
Every meal you eat with respectful awareness is a gift to that which provides.
Every care you take to create beauty and order in your home, your car, your world, is a gift of Love.
Every moment you honor your self (mind, body and Sprit) with the best you know, is a gift to Creator.

Every “thanks” you give to those who take the time to serve you, is a gift of all who serve.
Every dollar you contribute to that which inspires you to be your best, is a gift of encouragement.
Every moment you spend in positive prayer adds to the world more healing and grace.
Every act you give of gratitude and respect, teaches humanity to remember Life is for Giving!.

Our Power is in Giving.
Our Protection is in Giving.
Our Presence is in Giving.
Our Prosperity is in Giving.

May we all learn the Value of Joyous Giving,
Betty Lue

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Formula for Inspired Living

Goal: Peace of God = KNOW YOURSELF
To have the simple and single focus of being the Piece of God We Are.
No inner conflict. No doubt. No fear. Clarity about who You are.

Purpose: Be Happy
Happiness is Freedom. Freedom is Choice. Choice is Being True to OneSelf.

Function: Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness and Inner Peace.
Forgive everything and everyone. Clear all obstacles to peace.
Create a life that supports and sustains inner peace and happiness.

Signs of Peace:
When you know this and live this, you will be whole, happy and free giving the Love you are wherever you are to everyone. You will be free to release and erase all “mistakes and choose again to trust yourself.
You will Love yourself and your life.
Yu will choose the life that is fun, safe and easy.
You will remember You Are Love.


While all of this sounds a bit esoteric, you might begin with the basic and essential questions.

Essential questions to begin your spiritual journey:
· Who Are You?
· Why Are You Here?
· What do you do everyday to discover and remember?
· Who or what do you trust to guide you?
· What do you need to support you in living your Holy Purpose?

Know ThySelf has been stated many times by many philosophers and teachers.
To Thine Own Self Be True has been related for many generations.
What will it take for us to realize, this is your holy and healing work!

Life is an adventure.
We can attach to winning or succeeding at the worldly games………
Or we can identify with the spiritual goal of achieving the Peace of God.
We are free to choose again anywhere along the path.

Enjoy the worldly challenges and delight in the spiritual journey,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

I Am Not a Body. I Am Free.

When we know we are not our body, we are free.
When we know we are not our personality, we are free.
When we know we are not our education, we are free.
When we know we are not our family, we are free.

I am not a body.
I am free.
I am as God created me.
It is only this my mind obeys.
(From A Course in Miracles.)

“We are spiritual beings having a physical experience.”
If this is so, then we can stop attaching to our physical experience.
We can let go of the pain, of aging, illness and physical disability.
We can remember first we are here to be Love in our world.

When attached to physical ability, looks and energy as our Being, we become afraid and depressed.
When we lose sight of our spiritual Essence we forget to reclaim the power of Love within us.
When we focus on our health based on what we do and make, we lose our value and self worth.
When we judge and compare our achievement, fame and finances, we miss the Truth.

Life is enjoyed when we are capable of doing what we are called to do.
We may get stuck in fulfilling the expectations of others.
We may believe the ways of worldly competition.
We may hold judgments of ourselves based on others’ opinions.
We may neglect our spiritual nature and shut down our inner light.

When we listen within, there is always a way to return to the essence of our Being.
We are endowed with many gifts and talents.
These gifts may change form throughout our lives.
And when we honor who we are and the love we came to share, we know great peace and happiness.

This is a life lesson requiring us to let go of the world’s evaluation and beliefs.
This comes with forgiveness of our own self judgments and letting go.
This is learned when we realize our lasting value on earth is the heritage of Love we leave.
This is remembered when we know Love created us as Love for the purpose of Loving.

And so it is, I concede.
I am here to be a Loving Reminder,
And so are You.
Each in our own way…….

Life is for Giving.
You are the Gift.

Betty Lue

Monday, July 20, 2009

Awareness with Love is Healing!

When you tell your story, tell it with the intention of forgiving all judgment.
When you listen to someone’s problem, listen with the intention of releasing all fear.
When you are helping someone, help by extending your inner peace.
When you ask for healing, request that the listener erase the fear and hold you in love.

Where there is judgment, there we are stuck with memories, pain, suffering and the archived history.
Where there is fear, we are left with the residue in our body and in our mind.
Where there is guilt or self-condemnation, we simply sit in the pain of the past.
Where there is blame, anger and resentment, we are locked into the negative energy and cause dis-ease.

The healing is in clearing what was.
The healing is in undoing what no longer is.
The healing is in receiving the gifts in the present.
The healing is in forgiving what is not true.

Often we think by commiserating with someone we are helping.
We may believe that is in emoting our strong feelings, we will be healed.
Or we may want someone to agree with our judgment and help us get even.
We may even believe we are righteously right about our perceptions.

When we agree to judge, we both get stuck in withholding Love.
When we agree to blame, we lose the power of healing.
When we agree to remember the story to learn a lesson, we are not free.
When we agree to a fixed opinion or diagnosis, we get locked into our believed outcome.

If healing is wanted:
When you listen to pain or problem, seek a way to forgive all judgments.
When you tell your story, ask that it be released and forgotten.
When you seek to help another, let go of their beliefs in harm, disaster and a fearful perception.
When you ask for healing from another, ask them to see you healed, whole and holy.

If being stuck in pain, problems and disease has some value:
Listen to others seeking agreement with their story.
Seek friends and therapists who will honor your perceived judgments.
Help others by remembering and reminding them of the history and what was their truth.
Seek out healers who are fixated on fixing the problem because they are more scared than you are.

Now if I am helper and healer, what can I do to be truly helpful?
I listen with peace and understanding comes.
I listen with love and respect for their perception comes.
I listen with forgiveness on the situation and I see the goodness, the gift and the blessing.

If I am in need of help and healing, where do I go?
I seek one who is faithful to Truth.
I seek one who knows all things are possible to those who believe.
I seek One who has chosen to love, not fear.

For I know, Awareness (shining the spiritual Light on what is) with Love (the forgiveness of all fear) is healing and reveals the gift and blessing of Spirit.

And so it is, I am grateful to be free to see and experience the Truth!

Loving You,
Betty Lue

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Live Your Purpose

Live Your Purpose
Honor Your Mission
Be the Love You Are

I just finished reading the book, Gandhi The Man by Eknath Easwaran.
It reminded me of the power of living the Truth of our Being.
All of us are here to Love.
Our purpose and our mission are simple: “We are here to be Love in our world.”

When we remember to Love, we are strong.
When we remember to be Love, we are energized.
When we remember to Love, we are guided.
When we remember to Love, we succeed.

Love is taking action.
Love is doing what fulfills and enriches us.
Love is bringing joy by being Joyful.
Love is healing, because it offers Peace.

Love is for everyone and everything around us.
Love is for our creator and all creation.
Love must include ourselves to be valid.
Love is being grateful for the gift in every challenge.

Love is respectful of difference.
Love honors where people are in their awareness and willingness.
Love is persuasive by our loving example.
Love is always present and easy to access.

We are glad to be alive, when we Love.
We remember the Truth, when we Love.
We celebrate life’s mystery without understanding, when we Love.
We appreciate the opportunity to learn and forgive, when we Love.

Remember, your mission is to uncover the Love within you.
Your purpose is to find the inner happiness and peace that come from bringing forth the Love in You.
You remember the piece of God you are, when you remember to Love..
Love unconditionally. Serve from your heart. Remember always God and the Love You Are.

Loving You always,
Betty Lue

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

What Is Important?

When you remember what really matters to you, above all things, you can maintain your focus.
When you live what you value, you will know great happiness.
When you give what you love, others will receive your joy.
When you are the person you want to be, you will be respected.

It is only when we emphasize the things that don’t matter that we feel lack of respect.
It is only when we give out of obligation that our gifts are not appreciated.
It is only when we live others’ values that we find unhappiness.
It is only when we forget what is important to us that we are confused and lack confidence.

When you live giving the best you have, others feel the importance of your gifts.
When you speak with words that tell your highest truth, others know you are loving them.
When you hold pictures which create the world being the way you want, your thoughts make a difference.
When you behave and do what you believe in and admire, others respect your choices.

Peace of mind is important.
Only when at peace do I think clearly and openly and trust in my choices.
Happiness is important.
My inner joy tells me I am choosing what is highest and best for all.

Loving kindness is important.
Treating others with gentle respect teaches my world to treat all with compassion and caring.
Forgiveness is important.
Willingness to undo, erase, release all mistakes allows people to observe and learn a better way.

Trust is important.
With faith and trust, I can safely allow myself to move forward in confidence.
Freedom is important.
Giving everyone acceptance and respect to be and do as they are called sets us all free to fully be.

When I live in accordance with what matters and is important, I am living in integrity.
I am confident, trusted and respected for who I am and how I live and love and give.
When I know what I value and hold it with respect in all my transactions, I trust myself.
When I believe in myself and my choices, I am happy, at peace and successful in all I do.

Life works when I respect myself and my choices.
Betty Lue

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Good Life

Heaven or hell?
Your attitude will tell.
What we seek, we find.
When we look for Good, we see it.

When we look into the light, we see light.
When we look with delight, we feel delighted.
When we want to be right, we see no wrong.
When we believe we can sing, we hear a sweet song.

Life is Good, when…….
We believe it can be good.
We know we deserve Goodness.
We look for the Good.
We appreciate all the Goodness we see.

Life is “yucky”, when…..
We believe it is difficult, dangerous and serious.
We think we are bad and undeserving.
We look for the pain and problems.
We dismiss the Good and wait for the bad to Come.

How can we change our attitude?
We must envision the Good Life we want.
We must believe it is possible to have.
We must really want to have a Good life.
We must forgive ourselves and feel deserving.
We must consistently seek to see the Good in all things.
We must actively live in a Godly and good way.
We must appreciate every Good deed, Good word, Good idea and Good experience.

Life is a co-creative experience.
We are creating our experience with our imagination, our words and affirmations and our activities.
We are here to create what is good, healthy and beautiful for all, including ourselves.

Loving our creativity,
Betty Lue

Monday, July 13, 2009

Rich, Wealthy, Prosperous and Abundant

How you see yourself is how you feel.
When you see yourself as needy, you feel needy.
When you see yourself as failing, you feel failure.
When you see yourself as limited, you feel stuck.

Can you see yourself as rich?
Are you willing to acknowledge your wealth?
Do you enjoy your prosperity?
Do your fully appreciate your abundance?

As I walked this morning, I was honored by how rich I feel.
I received the blessings of my prosperity.
I claimed the wealth of my Spirit and the riches in my life.
I own and celebrate with gratitude the Abundance I feel.

So how is it that I am wealthy, rich, prosperous and abundant?

I use everything I have to serve the Good of all.
I share wisdom and money, knowledge and love, goods and favors.
I freely give all I have and enjoy the opportunities to contribute.
I always say ”yes” to whatever I am asked unless it might do harm.
I believe I own nothing for everything comes from Source and returns to Source.
I know I am a faithful steward of my time and possessions while here on Earth.
I listen within for how best to disseminate the material goods and spiritual truths.
I give without expectation of reciprocity or getting something from another.
I see gifts as merely my holy healing work and a tribute to God and Goodness.
I honor each opportunity to create beauty, laughter, love and peace in my world.
I let go quickly of any perceived “wrongs” or “mistakes” and move on with trust.
I forgive all judgments and condemnation to open the flow of prosperity for all.
I step away from the temptation to compare, evaluate or second guess anyone’s choices.
I release myself from the worldly beliefs in lack, littleness and limitation.
I believe in natural abundance, inherited magnificence and responsible freedom.
I clear my mind of false teachings, forgive my history of unfulfilled dreams and give thanks for all.
I am grateful for who I am, what I have and all I give.
I value the inspiration I receive, the life energy I have to do what is being called forth and the fun I have.
I am happy.
I am grateful.
I am loving.
I know great peace.

Try it.
You’ll like the results.

Betty Lue

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Messages for You from Spirit

“I feel like I have been receiving messages from Spirit through you and the last few days your emails have come right when I needed them most. Thank you for taking the time to share.”
A Loving Reminders’ reader

How does it happen that these messages fit with so many who receive them?
How can it be that they are sent to now thousands of people who feel that they are personal?
How can the one who receives and shares them be giving to all people through all time?
How can we all seem to have the same healing lesson and holy purpose at the same time?

"Yes, Dear Ones, you are all interconnected, a family you might say. All coming from the same place for the same Holy Purpose and yet, each one individual expressions of the same One. Get clear that as each one embraces Truth and remembers Truth, everyone is awakened and blessed. There is no one left out, except perhaps in their own consciousness or lack thereof. They have forgotten their connection with All That Is. For What is True and Whole and Loving can have no opposite, no lack, no needed Lesson.
What seems to be given is merely the remembering of what has always been and will always be True.

When Betty Lue simply turns herself over to writing (or speaking) what comes to her and through her, she is merely playing her holy healing part. Just as each one of you plays your healing and holy part in forgetting, in asking, in offering, in remembering, in sharing, in reading, in caring, in giving and receiving, All are blessed by your willingness and gratitude in doing and being what is perfectly true for you.

Alas, there is so much and so little really happening in this world of seeming complexity and creativity, one can hardly keep up with the outer stuff and things, but You need only be still for a moment to be clear about what is real. What it takes to remember is to undo what is not true and lasting, healing and whole.

Yes, humanity entertains itself while it waits to answer the great mystery: “Why Am I here?” Perhaps the answer is found within the cosmic knowing: “I am here simply to remember.” And then “What need I do after I remember? How one uses their time, space and energy is simply a choice to be or not to be, to awaken or to sleep, to help or to hinder, to laugh or to cry, to do or to die, to know or forget, to be real or pretend, to express or withhold, to love or to fear, to be confuse or be clear, to sing or to moan, to create or destroy.

When one is healed, all are benefited. When one is blessed, all are blessed. For you are One in the collective sense, interconnected and forever loved as One by the One. There is no need to take anything personally, because each one carries their part of the Grand Undoing. Each one lifts those around him.
Each one moves a piece of the God puzzle into place. Each one remembers their own Holy and Healing Part. Each one is a sacred part of the All One. And so it is, that you are each and all receiving what is yours to remember."

Give yourself time today and each day to lift yourself with Love,
Respect and Gratitude into the place Most High in your heart and mind.
Grant yourself the place of High Honor and own your Holy Place in the Circle of Consciousness.
Love your willingness to be Who and How and where You Are.
Forgive your doubt and fear and be clear You Are the One You seek.
You are essential to the completion of God’s Plan for Peace and Earth and Good Will toward All.

Blessed be and Blessed are We All.
Loving you always,
Betty Lue

Saturday, July 11, 2009

Are We Safe in the World?

We are safe when we have safety in our minds.
We are safe when we have forgiven all harm.
We are safe when we remember we are Love itself.
We are as safe as we think we are, because our thoughts create our experience.

Our bodies we wear for a brief period to communicate Love.
Our bodies we have to undo and erase all fear.
Our bodies we cling to in order to demonstrate Love is Real.
Our bodies we utilize to teach and touch and learn and heal.

Our personalities are computers holding the unconscious thoughts of humanity.
Our emotions are consumed with the feelings of our historical experience.
Our thoughts are the compilation of our memories over life times.
Our activities are the programming of false beliefs and fearful teachers.

Our work is to delete faulty messages from our minds.
Our work is to clear the fear left in the cells of our bodies.
Our work is to release the accumulation of emotional memories.
Our work is to heal the world of its distrust and belief in death.

Safety comes from the total relinquishment of all attack.
Safety is present when we hold no grievances and defensiveness.
Safety is our experience when we live with love in present time.
Safety is the gift of remembering our function is to forgive.

When we know only Love is Real, we can dismiss the fearful teachings.
When we remember we are the cleanup crew, we can begin to do the work
When we acknowledge our acquisitive habits, we can commit to let go.
When we laugh at our self-made boogey men, we can free ourselves of fear.

There is nothing really to do, but stop believing we are here to protect our body.
We are here to utilize our bodies for healing and holy purposes.
We can remember that life is a stage on which we play out our beliefs.
We can forget what is fearful and remember only Love.

Yes, I am safe when I live in accordance with my inner guidance.
Yes, I am safe when I breathe in the breath of God’s Peace.
Yes, I am safe when I extend Peace to everyone, every where.
Yes, I am safe when I know that I am Love, the Love of God.

Invincibility lies in recognizing that I am not a body.
Limitlessness lies in the freedom of choice I have.
Perfect peace comes from perfect Trust in Spirit Within.
True and Lasting Happiness I know when I give only Love.

And so it is, I am safe.
Betty Lue

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Friday, July 10, 2009

Do You Remember?

Do you remember only Love is Real?
Do you remember your holy purpose?
Do you remember that you are Spirit in a body?
Do your remember this world is temporary?

Do you remember your True Self and Your Source?
Do you remember all the Good you have done?
Do you remember the Abundance you are receiving?

Do you remember to be grateful?
Do you remember how it feels to be happy?
Do you remember the Love is within you?
Do you remember to forgive what is not Loving?

Do you remember to bring peace to conflict?
Do you remember to tell the healing and holy Truth?
Do you remember to let go of the false and impure?
Do you remember to see perfection in what is?

Do you remember to give the Best you have?
Do you remember to encourage others’ best?
Do you remember to value what is valuable?
Do you remember to ignore all the rest?

Do you remember to listen within for answers?
Do you remember to honor what you hear?
Do you remember to sing only love songs?
Do you remember to keep your heart truly pure?

Do you remember to be your Real and True Self?
Do you remember the rest is false learning and not true?
Do you remember to give your Goodness and Kindness?
Do you remember to forgive what is fearful untruth?

Do you remember to remember?
Do you remember to remind with Love?
Do you remember to bring together?
Do you remember to live in Present Time?

I know you remember!
Because I do?
Betty Lue

Thursday, July 09, 2009

Listen Inside

Whether you call it intuition or inner guidance, it matters not.
Whether you believe in a “God: or the “Universal Principles of Creation”, it matters not.
Whether you trust in inner knowing or a path of Love and Grace, it matters not.
What matters is that you take the time and space to be present with your Whole Self.

Give yourself time each day in a quiet way with no distraction, to sit and just be.
Give yourself a sacred few moments each day to fill yourself with gratitude for the Good.
Give yourself the gift of respite with no worries, no planning, nothing to keep you from Being.
Give yourself a little of what is truly the freedom and trust to “do” nothing and “be” at peace.

I invite you to bring a pen and paper to the moment to write down what you hear and see, feel and know.
I invite you to receive the gifts of creativity and hope that come from the quiet.
I invite you to know you are guided from within just as I am.
I invite you to recognize that except for worldly distractions, you have a GPS system inside you.

Here is some of the story of these Loving Reminders and how I began listening no 33 years ago.

Origin of Inner Listening
In 1976 it was suggested I sit and do nothing for just five minutes daily by a spiritual mentor/teacher.
I chose 5AM in the morning and immediately saw/felt and heard a vision of a Home of Infinite Love available to all people. (Over the years, I have co-created many such Centers and Homes with the guidance of Spirit within.) The next morning I brought a pad of paper and a pen to sit, and as I was simply breathing, I knew words were coming into my mind and I wrote them down. When I later read them, I saw they had great spiritual meaning. As an innocent, trusting and ‘True Believer’, I then quieted myself every morning and began to follow what I heard within. My life became fun, safe, easy and miraculous in so many ways. I learned, forgave and grew spiritually daily from every relationships. This is was the origin of what I call “inner listening” and have taught to hundreds of willing learners over the last 30 years.

The Origin of emailed Loving Reminders
In the winter of 1998, having just moved back to the Bay Area in California, I asked Spirit within what was my purpose and calling. I was invited to sit at the computer and write down my daily inner listening and send it to those who requested it of me. Since Dec, 1998 I have sat at my keyboard, everyday to write exactly what Spirit within guides. I do not edit, correct spelling and embellish what I hear. I simply send what is given to me to share with the now thousands around the world.
This is my inner listening given to all who choose to receive them. Often it gives people what they need, practical spiritual and inspiring reminders, so they need not spend money on hours of therapy or endless seeking for spiritual answers. They seem to awaken and remind individuals who are willing and ready to change their lives for the Good of All. I also have put many of the reminders into three little books, Loving Reminders, Peaceful Reminders and Relationship Reminders. There are two other books waiting to be published, Healing and Healthy Reminders. It is my joy to contribute to the healing and awakening of my spiritual family, all humanity.

May be all be benefited and blessed by every good and kind intention of everyone everywhere.
Blessed be. Betty Lue “True B’Lue”

Remember: The blessings already are and we are now awakening to enjoy them.

Loving you and encouraging you to listen to your own inner voice, your spiritual guidance system!
Betty Lue

Wednesday, July 08, 2009

Seeking an Answer?

The answers always come when there is Peace in the mind and Love in the heart.

When you are confused and conflicted, do not make up answers.
When you are afraid and judging, do not think you know.
When you are angry and resentful, do not speak from your emotions.
When you are hurt and depressed, do not believe your thoughts.

Don’t go to others to find your own spiritual answers.
Others will answer from their own experience and life lessons.
You will hear from others what you hold in your own mind reflected back to you.
You will believe what you want to hear and hold to be true and reject the rest.

If you need to air your grievances, confusion and fear, write them down until you are clear. There may be someone you can talk to who will not hold your feelings as true.
Usually people will try to tell you what to do based on their own history and life lessons.
You may find someone who will listen spirituallyfor you, but even with professional psychics, intuitives and channels, there will be the filter of their own perceptions, understanding and verbage.

The understanding and answers we seek, come through when our fear-based ego is silent.
The work is to silence our own thinking, to step aside and let love reside in our heart/mind.
When we have found a place of peace, there is clarity of purpose and room to listen.
When we experience stillness, we can simply be present and aware of what we receive.

Our work in life is to undo what is not true and loving.
Our work is to release the blocks to our awareness.
Our work in reality is to clear the debris of the past.
Our work in truth is to be open to see and know what is now.

Rarely do we discover the essence of our work until we have dissolved the drama.
We are so often distracted, detoured, delayed, discouraged, depleted , we cannot know.
When emotions overlay our experiences, right perception is clouded and wisdom absent.
When we set aside our fear, and see with forgiving eyes, we see clearly and know Trust.

This is our healing and holy life work.
Remember the answers will come when we are peaceful, happy and in Love.

Blessings of Truth,
Betty Lue

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

Change and Transformation

Full Moon Lunar Eclipse

· Utilize Nature to heal and fill your life energy and bring peace.
· Utilize Forgiveness to clear any mistakes or misunderstandings.
· Utilize Gratitude to fully experience and enjoy the Goodness that is.
· Utilize your whole and Holy Self to remember the Love You Are.

Change and Transformation

If you don’t like the way your life is going, stop and change direction.
If you don’t like the emotions you have, stop and forgive your self.
If you don’t like the thoughts you are thinking, stop and choose another focus.
If you don’t like the words you are speaking, stop and find respect and kindness within.

You see it all begins and ends with the choices you make.
There is never anyone else who is in control of your life.
No one can make you feel or think, speak or act anyway except You!
You are the author of your life.

When you know that your Will sets the direction and focus of your life,
you may discover that you don’t always know what is best for you.
When you forgive your errors, you will then give your Spirit and inner guidance the lead.
You will trust your Will be aligned with the Will of God, the Highest Good.

You may notice that I assign different names to this Highest Power.
I choose to call It by no name and many names, so you will know it matters not.
Higher Power, Inner Guidance, Holy Spirit, God, Goodness, Love ItSelf, All That Is.
No matter to what you assign your direction, always give it to the Highest for All.

Our error is to think from our little and limited human perspective, we can know.
Our mistake is to believe that our history will teach us how to avoid obstacles.
Our undoing is to defend ourselves against the offenders we have created.
When we can forgive our judged and feared miscreations, we can choose again.

It is in recognizing what is real that we can do.
It is in owning our connection with Source we must make.
It is in erasing our wrongs we can easily choose.
It is in changing our minds that our lives will be found.

Changing course by honoring the course of happiness and inner peace is our direction.
Changing our minds will heal our lives and our relationships with others.
Changing outer authority and history to inner authority and present moment Loving will transform us.
Changing our lack, littleness and limitation into abundant Goodness, true Greatness and freedom will guide our way.

Indeed life can be fun, safe and easy, when we stop struggling, seeking and stressing.

Life is Good when given to the All Good,
Blessed be,
Betty Lue

Monday, July 06, 2009

When to Say “No”

Where there is doubt, the answer is unclear, confused and split.
Even if you go ahead with your direction in question, it will lack energy, commitment and total success.
Where there is confidence, the answer is clear, confident and 100% committed.
When you proceed with your direction in certainty, there is power, commitment and successful outcome.

Doubt, hesitation and fear drain and deplete energy.
Certainty, action and love inspire and increase energy.
When in doubt, there is a call for forgiveness.
When in doubt, there is a call for inner listening.

There is a voice of intuition, loving wisdom, and clarity of Spirit within everyone.
Our usual listening is for the voices of humanity, our friends and those around us.
These voices represent their own biases, past experiences, and the current cultural beliefs.
Our inner listening is for our path and our benefit and does not involve others’ opinions.

A Course in Miracle says, “Whatever a brother asks, do it, unless it does harm to him or to you.”
Yet, how do you determine what might do harm?
Does it cause the other guilt because it will be a sacrifice for you to say “Yes”?
Does it cause you to withhold love and feel resentful to say “Yes”?
Can you say “Yes” to giving without expecting anything in return?
Does this transaction lead a bad example for others to follow?
Could saying “Yes” lead to the other misunderstanding your act of giving?
Could you be establishing an unhealthy or co-dependent relationship?
Are you saying “Yes” because you feel indebted or guilty?
Are you allowing your pity for another to lead you to say “Yes”?

There are many questions which may not be answered or understood.
Because we cannot see all sides to a question, we must seek the answer from a Higher Place.
Because we cannot judge what is harmful or helpful except by our history, we must seek guidance.
Because we do not know, we must listen inside for One Who Knows.

Sit quietly and ask in your spiritual center, what is for the highest Good of All concerned?
Your spiritual Center may be in your heart, your mind, your body as it differs for each one of us.
Practice listening until you recognize the Voice for Peace, for Healing for being truly helpful.
Let go of the Ego’s need to demand, be judgmental and opinionated, protective and defensive.

There is a place in you where you can trust.
There is a place in you where you can be free.
There is a place in you where you will love your brother as yourself.
There is a place in you where you know God and the Goodness of Love.

Trust this place and respond with peaceful and unconditional Love.
This is a place where you can say “No” with Love as easily as “ Yes”.
This is a place where you are clear, confident and certain, because you come from Love.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

Sunday, July 05, 2009

What You See

When you can see the beauty in another, it is in you, too!
When you see the perfection in life, it is in you, too!
When you know the Truth of Love, it is in you, too!
When you feel the warmth of being loved, it is in you, too!

We are part of everything and everything is a part of us.
When we have forgiven and cleared the yucky stuff with forgiveness, “the cosmic enema”, (Laugh*)
we see with innocent eyes only the Love and the call for Love.
When we trust in the Love in us, we see it in everyone.

Yes, the Love in which and for which we are all created,
Lives in every one. even those who are afraid, angry and hurting.
Yes, the Love you know you have withheld at times, is hidden in so many.
Yes, the Love in you will shine through when you remember it is safe to Love.

This essence of Life, the Love we are is the God Presence.
It is not absent, but everywhere present, even where we can see it not.
This Love Power is inviting us to know it, to see it, to reclaim it, to be it.
This Love (God) is all powerful and all present and all knowing.

It is our work, our spiritual vocation to call it forth.
First we must encourage its appearance and emergence in us.
We must let go of all blocks to giving Love and receiving Love.
We must undo the fears and tears, the resentment and anger.

From a place of knowing our own Loving Essence and removing our blocks to love
We can understand and have compassion for others who are withholding their Love.
Then we create a safe place of trust and freedom where others can release their barriers.
We invite the Love Light to shine in everyone by shining our own ever bright.

When you know the Truth, you can see it and believe the Good in all.
When you remember you are Love, you can see it and believe Love in everyone.
When you live the Truth of Love, you can call out the Truth in Love in others.
When you are what you know, you remember when others have forgotten.

What you see is what you believe.
Believe in Love and you will see Love.

I believe in you,
Betty Lue

Another view of Sofi’s first ballet recital.
See what 3 and 4 yr olds can do. So precious. May we all be stars in our own life show.
Let it be exactly the act we enjoy and appreciate. Remember what you see is in you, too!

Saturday, July 04, 2009

Loving and Letting Go

For those who easily and quickly let go of fear, loving is easy.
For those who undo what is not true, trust comes quickly.
For those who give with gratitude, life is truly abundant.
For those who respect and honor themselves, God is ever present.

When we release what we fear, we remember Love.
When we let go of the false, we see what is true.
When are seek to give rather than get, we know we are rich.
When we deeply and profoundly love ourselves, we know God.

Life offers us many distractions which complicate our vision.
Life gives us detours which lead us away from our personal path.
Life scares us into delaying our action which teaches us procrastination.
Life tempts us to be comfortable by giving up on living our highest potential.

To truly Love is to fully trust and free ourselves.
To really know Abundance we must give fully.
To be free is to be absent fear and to live with trust.
Our independence comes from our complete dependence on a Higher Power and intrinsic creative Good.

This Higher Power and Goodness live within each and everyone of us.
When we free ourselves from scary stories, false beliefs and limited thoughts, we find the Higher Truth.
In this we know where there is Will, there is a way.
And when we let go of the worldly limitations and follow our inner voice, we find fun, safety and ease.

Life is meant to be a source of joy, not of struggle.
Life is meant to be a path of peace, not a place of conflict.
Life is meant to be a homecoming, not a meaningless journey.
Life is meant to be full of abundance, love and joy, not pitiful poverty, fear and sorrow.

How can we undo what we have seen heard and learned, and choose again for what we deserve?
How can we forgive our past and that of unconscious teachers, and find what is best for all?
How can we right the wrongs and choose a right livelihood as a model for those who follow?
How can we create what is good, beautiful and holy for all humanity?

This is the calling.
We are beginning.
We honor the willing.
We celebrate the vision.

Blessed be.
Betty Lue

This beauty is Gia’s little sister, just 3 1/2, but precocious and very verbal...
She is truly trusting and free, loving herself unconditionally.

Wednesday, July 01, 2009

Clearing Judgments

Yesterday in our afternoon Miracles, Messages and MasterMind group, we asked how to clear our judgments.
Someone asked me to share my inner guidance, so I will share it with all of you as well.

What can I do to clear the judgments I continue to hold about some people I judge to be crude and disrespectful in their care for others?

Behold, look upon each one as truly behaving in ways they were taught by the world.

Perhaps if you knew only what they know, you could see easily how their choices belie what they perceive and believe.

Perhaps if you felt as confused, afraid and needy as they do, you could see why they might rely on anger or threats or harsh treatment and talk to get their way.

Perhaps if you judged yourself with the same harshness, shame and pain as they do, you would see why they are so attached to continue their behavior and words.

Perhaps if you knew only what they know and saw what they have seen, you might act out in their ways as well.

Leave not your Source, your inner Sanctuary, your Center of Love for anyone’s sake.
Give yourself now and always only to Love.
There is no need to fear anyone, nor to allow another’s fear to become yours.

Be free to see only the Goodness which God created in you and through You.

The Good Life is found solely in seeing with forgiving eyes.

So see it and be it!

May this message serve as a Healing and Loving Reminder to all who read it that “Love is the Way.”

Blessings to us all in our willingness to perceive things differently and choose again for Love.
I forgive myself for judging anyone for anything. I cannot know why.
I can only forgive my judgments and be willing to love them anyway.
And when I am willing to see the goodness beneath the Love, the Truth comes through.
Thank God and Good in us all.
Betty Lue