Monday, April 30, 2007

Help Needed!

And sometimes, Not Wanted!

Many folks, both young and old need someone to care enough to dare to be helpful.

If you have family members or find yourself, sick, troubled or simply angry or depressed, help is needed.
People often cannot verbally ask for help or express their needs. Their behavior speaks for them.

Observe what their behavior is telling you.

Are they depressed, tired or lethargic most of the time?
Are they tearful, easily frustrated, quitting before they try?
Are they alone, anti social, addicted to video, internet or TV?
Are they sullen, defiant, verbally abusive?
Are they using abusing drugs, prescription, over the counter, or illegal to cope?
Are they angry violent, doing harm to themselves, to animals or stuff?
Are they making threatening statements and suggesting ways to harm others?

Everyone is communicating to the best of their abilities.
We must be conscious and loving enough to listen and respond respectfully.

Human Needs:

More sleep
Most adults and teens are sleep deprived in our culture. 8-10 hours is the usual norm.
If you do not wake up naturally rested, you need more sleep.
Practice same bedtime and wakeup hours, except on special occasions. Your body loves regularity.

Better Nutrition
Three meals daily plus healthy snacks are important for all of us. The body and brain need fuel to function efficiently. You wouldn't put cheap gas in a Mercedes. Treat yourself with the best nutrition, especially, lots of purified water, fruits and vegetables and whole grains. Protein and healthy fats are especially important for children and teens.

Physical Activity
Natural play and work, sports, daily chores and walking are the best. Physical movement that is enjoyable and non-stressful energize and produce a sense of well-being.

Loving Relationships
The deepest desire of all human beings is to love and be loved. When those around us are too busy, pre-occupied, stuck in their "need" to make money, or needy too, there is little or no love exchanged. Every loses and no one feels valued, respected and loved.

Meaningful Activities
Being creative, and productive, learning and teaching, caring for another are all meaningful activities. When we spend our time in front of a screen, use drugs to keep our emotions sublimated, spend our time worrying, feeling guilt or resentment, we are lost in a sea of despair, helplessness and hopelessness. Life becomes a trial, a prison, a living hell to endure until we can get out or get help.

Take a look today.
Is there someone needing you to help them help themselves?
If you don't know what to do, ask for help to effectively help.

Most people need someone to care, deeply and listen beyond their behavior.
Most people need someone who is willing to take the time and love enough to do what it takes.
Most people need someone to teach them how to love themselves well.

There are professionals who care.

If not you, then find someone who is loving, wise and willing.

Blessings of healing,
Betty Lue