Monday, January 22, 2024

Mature Adult Behavior




I think, speak and act with respect and consideration for everyone.

I treat others as I want to be treated.

I live my life with respect, responsibility and cooperation with others.

I forgive all immature, emotionally reactive behavior.

Mature Adult Behavior

Some say “Less than 5% behave in mature responsible ways."


Are You a Conscious Adult?

Are you behaving like a mature person?

Are you able to control your emotions?

Do you respond with respect and kindness?

Are you listening to what others are really saying?

If you are “conscious”, you will behave like a mature adult.

If you are aware of where others are coming from, you will be responsive to their needs.

If you realize that reading this email is a sign of maturity, you will step away from childish behavior.

If you recognize you are the source of Love in your relationship, you will remember to give Love. 

Mature adults do not behave like children or critical parents.

Mature adults speak and act in ways that create adult responses.

Mature adults are respectful and considerate, compassionate and kind.

Mature adults seek creative solutions and offer responsible responses.

If you are a conscious adult, you will not think, talk or behave in childish ways.

If you are a mature adult, you will respond with love to those lacking in love.

If you are a conscious adult, you will give your best to everyone, beginning with yourself.

If you are a mature adult, you will remember to clear fear and judgments with forgiveness.

If you are awake and aware, you will step away from useless arguments and fighting.

If you are respectful and responsible, you will seek solutions in which no one loses.

If you are caring and compassionate, you will take time to listen and learn what is truly helpful.

If you are giving what you want to have, you will see the needs and fill them in yourself and others.

Crying, complaining, and criticizing are coverups for what is your responsibility.

When you see a need in yourself and others, it is yours to fill.

When you feel a lack in yourself and others, it is yours to clear the limiting emotional patters.

When you hear a call for love, it is yours to find the Love in you to awaken the Love in others.

We are here to erase habits that caused us to behave as a child, needy and dependent.

When we are waiting for someone else to do it for us, we have forgotten who we are.

When we are blaming someone else for what is missing, we have neglected to take responsibility.

When we are allowing us to be hurt, scared and alone, we must remember what is our choosing.

You are responsible and capable.

You are good enough.

You are smart enough.

You can grow up.

It is time for us to grow up and take responsibility for the entirety of our lives.  

No more whining, blaming and feeling sorry for ourselves. 

Cleaning up the past is easy if we begin now without blaming anyone.

Start new each day with Being Clear, Certain, Consistent and Sincere.

Love being capable and responsible.

It works!

Betty Lue

10 Signs of Emotional Maturity

1. Being Flexible- It’s all too easy to assume things will go according to plan, or that a situation or event will go smoothly because it has each time in the past. When it doesn’t (and that is often a “when” than an “if”), an emotionally mature person is able to think things out and come up with a viable Plan B or even C as needed so that a situation can be dealt with, and still move forward not letting the bump in the road ruin the entire plan.

2. Taking Ownership & Responsibility- An emotionally mature person is able to own up to their own mistakes and not immediately look to blame others. This takes a level of self-honesty and acceptance. If things keep on going wrong, an emotionally mature person will look inwards for answers as to what thoughts or actions may be contributing to the situation and works towards a better understanding and course of action moving forward.

3. Knowing That They Don’t Know Everything- An emotionally mature person knows what they don’t know, and also knows that their own way of doing things may not be the only way or even the best way. They don’t argue “just to be right” or to show dominance to be in charge. They keep an open mind and have open ears and eyes to look for situations where they may be able to learn something, as well as know when they may have something positive to contribute to a situation that can help others. 

4. They Look for Learning and Growth From Every Opportunity- An emotionally mature person is on the lookout for what can be learned from any situation or opportunity, and searches for the growth opportunity within it, asking “How can I learn and grow from this?”

5. They Actively Seek Out Multiple Points of View To Help Inform Their Own- Emotionally mature people actively seek to inform their own opinions by actively seeking out the points of view of others. They don’t feel threatened by disagreement, but look to be informed by people, and aren’t afraid to question both their own convictions, knowing that they don’t exist in a vacuum. It’s not about an argument to prove who is right; it’s about wanting to be informed by different points of view to further clarify their own points of view or recognizing that perhaps their point of view may even be wrong.

6. They Stay Resilient- In the face of upset, setbacks, or disappointments, an emotionally mature person will acknowledge their feelings, identify what can be done, and then decide what steps to take to move on. 

7. They Have a Calm Disposition- Emotionally mature people do get mad but do not let the emotion dictate their response. They aim to have a clear mind with the goal of having rationality dictate how to effectively deal a situation and also see all of the available options to come to a successful resolution. They know that when emotions override rationality, clearness of thought gets blurred and can limit the options for dealing effectively.

8. They Believe in Themselves- Emotionally mature people don’t have a false sense of self that is ego-based and deluded. But they do have optimism in their own ability to use effort and patience as a way to establish the belief that they are equipped to deal with whatever life may through their way.

9. Approachability- Emotionally mature people are able to and prefer to talk WITH people, not AT them. They have genuine empathy for others, an open mind, and work towards not being judgmental of others, knowing that judgments are often based on preconceived notions can impede their ability to know someone and their truth.

10. A Good Sense of Humor– Emotionally mature people realize that all of life can’t be taken seriously. They do realize the importance of getting done what needs to get done, but they realize the importance of having fun and laughter in life as a great coping mechanism and pressure release from stress.