Friday, August 12, 2022

"Grand" Children


I extend my best to all, especially our children.

I spend quality time, give encouragement, offer hugs and respectful affection to all children.

I offer inspiring gifts and helpful acts of service to my grandchildren and all I encounter.

I know that every child deserves my best and I feel blessed.

Do you have a child inside you still longing to feel safe and special!

How To Love All Children

If you love who they are, they will feel loved.

If you dislike how they behave, they may feel unloved.

If you show them love and respect them, you will have little people who love and respect you.

Children want to be loved and want to learn how to love you.

Children can be “GRAND” when they feel safe and loved.

Children can be “respectful” when feel they are respected.

Children can be “helpful” when they see others being helpful.

Children will be happy when they feel safe and know how to love, respect and help others.

Children learn primarily through experiences, not words.

Children copy what they see that works and what doesn’t work.

Children get confused by changing rules, different teachers, and ever-changing punishments and rewards.

Children want to feel safe, happy, loved and valued.

Every child is totally unique.

Every child is curious and open to learn.

Every child responds to words, behaviors and people differently.

As parenting adults, we must be open and willing to love each child in the unique way that works.

When parents, grandparents and caregivers are tired, hungry or frustrated, we don’t respond well.

Our primary focus must be to love, respect and be helpful to ourselves first.

When we have taken impeccable care of us, we can more easily respond with love to others.

We only pick on children, because they do not have the ability to speak up for themselves.

Adults need to recognize that children copy the adults that “bully” them.

Children learn to play victim or"Bully-er" from the grownups who threaten, demean or shame them.

Adults need to learn how to treat all children with respect and kindness.

We need to learn how to teach and learn, appreciate not criticize and demonstrate the values we want.

Love the children in your care and those you see or interact with.

  1. Some children like positive words of kindness and appreciation.
  2. Some prefer quality time and being listened to and encouraged.
  3. Some children want hugs and affection and gentle interaction.
  4. Some kids really want acts of service and helpfulness.
  5. Some children prefer presents, gifts…even small ones.

 It is important that we observe and listen to what each child needs and wants.

It is valuable to give them our very best and keep our promises.

It is essential that we make no assumptions and do not take their misbehavior personally.

Everything is communicating their love or their need for a loving response.

We are always called to be the most conscious one and teach with our very best words and actions.

Loving us all to create a better world.

Betty Lue

When I see and hear cries for help with misbehavior, resistance, and self harm, 

I listen, observe and learn how best to show love and respect to each child and adult.

Thank you for being willing to respond with sensitivity to yourself and others.

Dr. Betty Lue. (Offering teleheath via FaceTime and zoom)