Friday, June 10, 2022

Stop and Listen Within!


When in doubt, I stop and listen within.

When upset, I step away and return to my center.

When I choose Love, I trust in the journey and allow the process.

When I teach, I learn as I go and practice, practice, practice.

Stop Feeding the Problem

Don’t give an addict more of the same.

Don’t give the alcoholic a bottle.

Don’t give the spender more money.

Don’t give a workaholic more work to do.

Don’t give a worrier something more to worry about.

Don’t give a hypochondriac a new illness.

Don’t feed a diabetic more sugar.

Don’t give an obese person a 3000 calorie meal.

Don’t give a violent person a weapon.

Don’t give a crazy person more fear.

Don’t give an angry person more anger.

Don’t add fuel to the fire.

Don’t encourage or support the behavior that is clearly a problem.

In our desire to make the problem go away, many will give in to make the problem go away.

Hurting ourselves does not stop just because we medicate the hurting.

Soothing is a temporary or momentary fix to what is the real problem.

Co-dependents are defined many ways.

I would say we soothe one another’s addictions.

We collude in the errant or sick behavior.

We pretend like if we stop the pain right now, wisdom will come.

If I cannot handle another’s unhappiness, I will try to make them happy.

If I cannot stand pain, I may take away others’ self- inflicted pain.

When I cannot stand guilt, I may create multiple ways to blame.

When I take the blame for others' pain, I may unconsciously take responsibility for taking away the pain.

Observe and expose the problem.

Forgive my judgments.

Stop trying to fix others.

Teach others.

Stop making anyone wrong.

Forgive attachments and dependencies.

Stop covering my errors.

Clean up myself as I go.

Stop adding to problems, by adding complication.

Keep love simple.

Stop judging and worrying.

Learn to trust and set others free.

Stop being codependent.

Give others full responsibility.

Stop supporting and reinforcing the difficulties.

Focus on strengths and encourage responsible behavior.

Stop focusing on the problem.

Start focusing on the solution.

I must listen within to know what to do and not to do.

I must respect and honor each individuals’ path.

I must be aware of when I am handling another’s pain, because of my own issues.

I must trust that we are all doing the work together because we all have the same work.

Loving myself as I do the best I know with each one all the time.

Love your intention and do not depend on controlling the outcome.

Betty Lue

Show up and pay attention.

Tell the High Truth and detach from the Outcome.

Go to God/Higher Power for the Real Answers