Friday, October 15, 2021

Living Well with Children

Affirmations:

I speak with respect and kindness to everyone, young and old.

I honor children as I honor myself.

My example is my best teaching.

I pay attention, show up and speak the highest truth I know.


Secrets of Living with Children  (of all ages)


Do you understand what it means to be there as “a parent”?

Do you get what it feels like to be a child?

Are you even vaguely aware of what this world seems to be to a child?

Do you listen to what children say and want you to know?


When you come into a new place, you want to feel safe and secure.

You want to know the rules or limits so you can fit in and feel cared for.

You want to feel able to express yourself and what you need.

You want to know there will be food, a bed and bathroom and someone to be there for you.


This is true for young and old, rich and poor, informed and uninformed.

All of us have a need for the basics to develop in a healthy way.

Yet, we neglect and deny many of these to our children and youth and elders.

Stop and recognize what you need when you are in a new environment.


Let’s give our infants, toddlers, children and youth the basics.

Access to healthy food and clean water when they are hungry.

Safe place to rest and sleep in quiet.

Water & bathroom to stay clean and dry.


Children need attention and someone to listen to them.

They need opportunities to explore and experiment.

They need ways to be creative without judgment.

They need places to be quiet and noisy, active and passive.


Why do we forget to give them what we want?

Why do we so often treat kids like pets instead of people?

Why have we relegated children and elders to second class?

It is time we treat them like guests, customers and invest our best.


When we talk with our children, they talk with us.

When we tell or demand of our children, they talk back and demand of their adults.

When we listen to and honor their requests, they listen and honor our requests.

They seek to be treated with respect, trust and appreciation, just like we do.


Set simple basic rules of etiquette for all members of your household.

These are mine. Choose your own.

1) Yelling & rough housing belong outside.

2) Everyone cleans up after themselves in all common areas.

3) No hurting of self, others or the space.

4) Everyone helps.


What if we all simply “Treat others as we want to be treated.”

Loving us all in remembering to love our children.

Betty Lue


If Children (and Adults) Live With………. 

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,

They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy. 


If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

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From Dr. Wayne Dyer 

What Do You Want More Than Anything For Your Children? 


          Value Themselves

          Be Risk Takers

          Self-Reliance

          Freedom from Stress and Anxiety

          Have Peaceful Lives

          Celebrate Present Moments

          Experience a Lifetime of Wellness

          Creativity

          Fulfill Their Higher Needs 

          Feel A Sense of Purpose