Thursday, July 09, 2020

Relationship Healing

I am here to love and heal what is needs love.
I am responsible for the quality of my relationships.
I begin with treating myself with respect, trust, appreciation and love.
I want all my relationships to be treated well and so I treat them all with respect.

Heal Your Relationships! 

You will heal your relationships by healing yourself.
All upset is a wakeup call.
Everything that is not right for you is calling you to look at your past for healing.
When you are at peace with yourself, you know that others who are not OK are asking you for help.

When I am not at peace with myself, it will show with others.
When I am unhappy, I will project it on others.
When I am disrespectful with me, I will disrespect others.
What is upsetting in me, I tend to project and perceive in others.

We project our healing needs onto others.
We give advice to others that we need to hear.
We blame others for what we have guilt about.
We seem to look for outside cause, rather than heal what is hurting within us.

When you complain, see what you can do within yourself to stop complaining.
When you are angry, consider what you can do to stop trying to hurt and blame others. 
When you are needy, ask yourself how you can fill your own needs.
When we depend on others to take care of us always, we will have intermittent results.

When people love us, they can and will do it well when they are loving themselves well.
When people are feeling hurt, scared, upset, lonely, angry, they will have difficulty in loving anyone well.
It is essential that we learn to take responsibility for our needs and ask for help from those who are able.
We must learn to discern who is able and willing to be truly helpful for themselves and others.

We may find that unconditionally loving and giving people are rare in our experience.
We may see that we need to become unconditionally loving for others who are in need.
We may even feel drained by hurting and needy others, especially when we have denied ourselves.
It is essential that we forgive ourselves for not appreciating, loving and caring well for ourselves.

What will it take for you to be responsible for our own needs?
What do you need to do to create partnerships, families and friendships that are healing and healthy?
What can you do to start everyday tuning into what you need and fulfilling that need first?
How do you love yourself every day in every way you are aware?

When you awaken, ask yourself: “What do I need to do to fulfill myself today?”
“What will make me feel happy and valuable today?”
“How can I give myself what is good for me?”
At the end of the day, give yourself a list of “gratitudes” and own them as your loving responsibility.

You have created your life as it is.
You can change your relationships, communication, thinking and emotions.
You can stop judging, blaming and feeling guilty.
You can let go of past errors and begin again today in the healthy and positive way.

You can, because you want to heal your relationships with yourself and with others.
I trust you and me to always look for the best ways to heal ourselves and others.
I give my best because you deserve it and so do I.
Betty Lue

Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.

FOUR AGREEMENTS by don Miguel RuizTake nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.

RECOMMENDATIONS FOR ALL RELATIONSHIPS With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.