Sunday, July 26, 2020

Parenting Responsibilities

I talk with children and youth as I want them to talk with me.
I ask children for help and respect.
I learn from what I see children trying to say to us.
I am open and willing to be truly helpful and respectful.

How Do You Teach Children Well?

Do you observe yourself with children?
Your children and all children deserve to be carefully taught.
Children watch adults and copy them.
Children practice the words and behaviors of adults.

Children learn the language of adults.
Children watch the manners of adults.
Children pay attention to the lifestyle of adults.
Children are imprinted by adult behavior.

Children watch TV and UTube.
They pay attention to their teachers and elders.
Children watch and listen to the parents of their friends.
Children try to do what seems to be the most accepted behavior.

Do adults learn from their children?
Do parents blame, punish, criticize and curse their kids?
Do parents see themselves in how they relate and communicate?
Instead most parents try to stop unacceptable behavior in their children.

Adults often tell their children what to do.
Adults often drink too much, swear too much and behave inappropriately.
Adults may say “Do as I say and not as I do.”
Adults may nag and shame and threaten without results.

Then children learn to tell others what to do.
They learn bullying behaviors with swearing, shaming and threatening.
Children often defy authority if they see in in adults.
Children may rebel, get even and purposely fail to upset their parents and teachers.

What is a better way?
Let the adults clean up their behavior, words and relationships.
Let the adults listen sincerely when they ask the kids, “What would work better?”
Let the adults be the examples and role models before they judge our youth and teens.

Ask yourself,
Do we like to be told what to do?
Are we motivated by being threatened and punished?
Do we respond well to angry tones or respectful requests?
Are you able to understand the need for routine schedules and regular meals?

Would we want to learn from a smiling teacher or resentful critic?
Would we enjoy our life more in a family where parents were responsible.
Would we feel more secure and appreciative with healthy meals prepared by a loving parent?
Would we like to learn how to fix a meal, do the laundry and clean up after ourselves if our parents did?

Listen to your children and all children to see what they want and need.
Observe what make children feel safe and happy and inspired to do well.
Give everyone the best you have every day, including yourself.
You can be a better parent and a better example.

Loving every child by giving them our very best with listening, loving, learning and letting go.
Betty Lue

If Children (and Adults) Live With………
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.