Monday, January 07, 2019

Words Matter

I delete all negative communication and send positives.
I forgive any mistake I make with my words.
I quickly listen and respond with words that heal.
I choose to speak with a kind and respectful intention.

Words Matter

Words can heal.
Words can hurt.
Words can connect.
Words can disconnect.

Listen closely first.
Listen for the true intention.
Seek for love.
Seek for the call for love.

When there is lack of love, there is fear.
When there is hurt expressed, there is hurt within.
When there is fear expressed, there is fear within.
When there is anger expressed, there is fear and hurt within.

When we listen to words, we must be aware of what is beneath them.
When we hear words of anger, fear and hurt, there is call for love.
When we allow the anger, fear and hurt to penetrate, we react with anger, fear and hurt.
When we love and forgive consistently, we always respond with love.

Be aware of what is being said.
Be aware of what is the need.
Be aware of what is true.
Be aware of what you can do.

In families, friendships or change encounters, words are shared.
Use your words wisely and with clear intention.
When you hear words, listen with compassion.
Use your heart to hear the deeper calling.

Respond with Love.
Stop reacting with Fear.
Response with an open mindedness.
Stop reacting with defensiveness.

Time to change the verbal messages we share with others.
Stop looking for what is wrong and seeking what is right.
Time to eliminate negative reactions and respond with willingness to be helpful.
Take nothing personally and always give your best.

Give yourself time outs to center yourself.
Give yourself love and appreciation to fill yourself.
Forgive yourself to give yourself with good intentions.
And remember you are here to teach and learn, give and receive.

Be open and willing to be your best and always Good will follow.
Trusting we are all doing our best with what we know.
Betty Lue

Successful Communication Keys:
Calm tone of voice and be on the same level.
Ask permission to speak
Tune in to where they are with desire to understand.
Give what will create the greatest safety and respect.
Talk with kindness and in private.
Step away until both parties are calm.  Use time-outs as needed.
Defuse the stress, urgency and upset, before attempting to talk.
Be clear when you don’t have time or patience to listen.
Write communication to avoid confrontations and arguments.
Allow all parties time to think about their needs and possible equitable solutions.
Encourage using “I feel….., I want…… and I am willing………
Seek cooperative agreement, rather than punishment, threat or demand.
Open your heart to understand (“Walk in their shoes”)
Choose an outcome where everyone wins.