Saturday, April 02, 2016

Relationships Teach Us How to Love

I am learning from everyone I encounter.
I learn and teach love with my thoughts, words and interaction.
I respond to the call for love with the love I have within me.
My greatest resource in all situations is to listen and follow the loving guidance within.

Relationships Teach Us!

What are you learning?
What are you teaching?
What you think, say and do are teaching everyone.
When you are learning, you are teaching.

Every relationship offers teaching and learning opportunities.
When you are upset, there is something to learn.
Whenever a relationship has a positive or negative charge, there is something to learn.
Your attraction or repulsion in a relationship is inviting you to learn.

Look deeply into your relationships and see their value.
Learn to love more, trust more, accept more.
Learn to be more sensitive, patient and understanding.
Learn to be more kind, gentle and considerate.

Consider that there is something within you to heal, understand, handle differently.
Consider that your relationships are showing you how to speak up, stand up and show up.
Consider that your relationships are giving you a cause, a reason, an opportunity to grow up.
Consider that all relationships will show you what it is in you that you need to heal and learn.

Stop trying to teach others until you have learned what you need to learn.
Stop thinking you know what is best for the other without understanding what is best for you.
Stop expecting to get back what you give when you are giving and doing with conditions of “getting”.
Stop making up that you are right and the other is wrong expecting criticism to help things get better.

Guilt and blame never work.
Criticism creates guilt and blame makes matters worse.
Embarrassment, name-calling, shaming, threatening, ridiculing and hurting others is all judgment and fear.
Judgment of others creates separation and stuckness from which only forgiveness will set free.

Think about what sets you free to learn easily.
Imagine how you want to be seen and treated to be open to learn.
Give yourself and others the conditions for healing the past and learning in the future.
Treat others with respect, helping everyone learn by your example of giving your best.

Let us forgive ourselves for using, abusing and confusing our relationship.
When feeling unable to be kind, it is time to step back and be kind to ourselves.
When experiencing anger, upset, fear, judgment and unkind feelings, we are in no condition to be helpful.
When unable to teach and learn, heal and be helpful, it is best to withdraw and help ourselves.

Emotional reactions only increase the blind spots.
Sharing negative feelings creates more friction.
Dumping toxic thoughts and feelings make everyone sick emotionally.
Choose to heal yourself and seek  better ways to live, learn and love.

Everything I share with you I am learning, reminding myself and reviewing again and again.
Learning and healing never end for we are all in this  learning univers-city together.
Betty Lue

If you care about creating better relationships, begin to practice improving yourself.
It only takes one to make a difference......and that one is YOU!
See the recommendations below as well.  
Focus on one at a time and practice in All your relationships.
Ask for additional help from me when you need it.
Betty Lue

Recommendations for Successful Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.