Affirmations:
I
am learning from everyone I encounter.
I
learn and teach love with my thoughts, words and interaction.
I
respond to the call for love with the love I have within me.
My
greatest resource in all situations is to listen and follow the loving guidance
within.
Relationships
Teach Us!
What
are you learning?
What
are you teaching?
What you think, say
and do are teaching everyone.
When you are
learning, you are teaching.
Every
relationship offers teaching and learning opportunities.
When you are upset,
there is something to learn.
Whenever a
relationship has a positive or negative charge, there is something to learn.
Your attraction or
repulsion in a relationship is inviting you to learn.
Look
deeply into your relationships and see their value.
Learn to love more,
trust more, accept more.
Learn to be more
sensitive, patient and understanding.
Learn to be more
kind, gentle and considerate.
Consider
that there is something within you to heal, understand, handle differently.
Consider that your
relationships are showing you how to speak up, stand up and show up.
Consider that your
relationships are giving you a cause, a reason, an opportunity to grow up.
Consider that all relationships
will show you what it is in you that you need to heal and learn.
Stop
trying to teach others until you have learned what you need to learn.
Stop thinking you
know what is best for the other without understanding what is best for you.
Stop expecting to
get back what you give when you are giving and doing with conditions of
“getting”.
Stop making up that
you are right and the other is wrong expecting criticism to help things get
better.
Guilt
and blame never work.
Criticism creates
guilt and blame makes matters worse.
Embarrassment,
name-calling, shaming, threatening, ridiculing and hurting others is all
judgment and fear.
Judgment of others
creates separation and stuckness from which only forgiveness will set free.
Think
about what sets you free to learn easily.
Imagine how you want
to be seen and treated to be open to learn.
Give yourself and
others the conditions for healing the past and learning in the future.
Treat others with
respect, helping everyone learn by your example of giving your best.
Let us
forgive ourselves for using, abusing and confusing our relationship.
When feeling unable
to be kind, it is time to step back and be kind to ourselves.
When experiencing
anger, upset, fear, judgment and unkind feelings, we are in no condition to be
helpful.
When unable to teach
and learn, heal and be helpful, it is best to withdraw and help ourselves.
Emotional
reactions only increase the blind spots.
Sharing negative
feelings creates more friction.
Dumping toxic
thoughts and feelings make everyone sick emotionally.
Choose to heal
yourself and seek better ways to live, learn and love.
Everything
I share with you I am learning, reminding myself and reviewing again and again.
Learning and healing
never end for we are all in this learning univers-city together.
Betty Lue
If you care about
creating better relationships, begin to practice improving yourself.
It only takes one
to make a difference......and that one is YOU!
See the
recommendations below as well.
Focus on one at a
time and practice in All your relationships.
Ask for
additional help from me when you need it.
Betty Lue
Recommendations for Successful
Relationships
With
mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep
your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate
changes honestly and immediately.)
Give
more than you expect to receive.
Do
more than your “fair” share.
Receive
everything with open appreciation.
Express
your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live
your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify,
communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be
responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t
expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop
using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop
making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate
effectively and respectfully.
Request
a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be
your best self in all circumstances.
Focus
always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or
neglect.)
Use
your time together wisely.
Focus
on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend
time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste
nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or
negativity.