Wednesday, March 02, 2016

Happy Healthy Relationships

I am here to be truly helpful in all my relationships.
I naturally receive all I give, so I give my best.
I know what makes me whole and happy and free is within me.
I release and I let go and have what is right for me.

Happy Healthy Relationships

Respect, Responsibility and Cooperation are the building blocks for good relationships.
Parents and children, friends, partners and all relationships have the same basics.
First, we must learn to be in a respectful, responsible and harmonious relationship with ourselves.
We cannot consistently give what we do not know and have within us.

We have a tendency to bypass the essentials and go to expectations and pretenses.
When we have no examples or role models, we must pretend or makeup what is best.
When we are expecting to get what we want without knowing how to give it, we may be disappointed.
When we believe that what we wish for will come simply because we love, we may feel disillusioned.

Learning to relate with respect requires that we be respectful of ourselves and others.
When we associate with others who are not respectful, we will learn falsely.
Respect means seeing beneath personality behavior to the inner call for love.
When we respect another, we treat them with respect no matter how they treat us.

It is easy to respect others when we do not take their behavior personally.
It is simple to respect others when we treat them as we want to be treated.
It is natural to respect others when we are taking impeccable care of ourselves.
It is healing to respect others when we understand what they need.

Life teaches us what we need to learn through conscious relating.
Life gives us the perfect teachers who challenge us to learn and grow.
Life often shows us what is feels like to be in others’ positions.
We are here to learn to relate in positive and helpful ways.

When we are consistently happy with our own lives, it is far easier to be helpful to others.
Learning to give ourselves the best, we have the best to share with those we encounter.
We stop expecting to “get” from another and consistently learn to “give” to others.
Those who are not needy naturally share what they have to create fulfilling relationships.

Learning the purpose of relationships is key to allowing ourselves to receive.
Everything we give is a gift to ourselves.
When we give with joy and gratitude, we receive what we have given with joy and gratitude.
Relationships are constantly refilling us with the best we have given.

Learning to forgive withholds and mistakes will clear the fear and blocks to love.
Releasing attachment and clinging to what has been will free us from disappointment.
Undoing false expectations and fantasy clears the way to enjoy the reality of relationship.
We are in relationship to learn that we are teaching with everything we think, say and do.

Give to others what you want them to learn.
Teach others with you heart and mind and soul.
Learn from others what is good and  true and lasting.
Be willing to be happy and be healthy in all relationships.

Relating to one and all with the best in Love I know
Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships + Partnerships

Joining-Create a common vision or shared goal.

Honesty- Communicate your true intention without secrets or withholds.

Equality-Each is giving the best they know in each moment.

Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best for both parties.

Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame.
                             Be respectful and forgiving of mistakes made.

Successful Relationships

To have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates, children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality, Commitment, Responsibility.

Joining: All parties must share a common goal or vision for their relationship.
This shared vision comes from communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the future and what they share in common.

Honesty: Honest communication is sharing what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and appreciation.

Equality: When both parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality.  
Equality is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness to give one’s best even when it is less than the other.  To quit or hold back on one’s giving creates inequality.

Commitment: To commit to the fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the relationship requires always choosing what is best for both.  
Decisions are based on what is a win/win for all concerned.  One must be committed to what is highest and best for each party.

Responsibility: Being fully able and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining, honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible.  
Where there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and victimization as well as lack of responsibility.

To be successful requires staying conscious.
To be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.

To take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give., total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for the quality of the relationship.

If you want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what you can do to improve them in every way.  
You need not depend upon the other changing in order to increase the quality of your relating.

Blessings for choosing a better way,
Betty Lue