Affirmations:
I
am here to be truly helpful in all my relationships.
I
naturally receive all I give, so I give my best.
I
know what makes me whole and happy and free is within me.
I
release and I let go and have what is right for me.
Happy
Healthy Relationships
Respect,
Responsibility and Cooperation are the building blocks for good relationships.
Parents and
children, friends, partners and all relationships have the same basics.
First, we must learn to be in a respectful,
responsible and harmonious relationship with ourselves.
We
cannot consistently give what we do not know and have within us.
We
have a tendency to bypass the essentials and go to expectations and pretenses.
When we have no
examples or role models, we must pretend or makeup what is best.
When we are
expecting to get what we want without knowing how to give it, we may be
disappointed.
When we believe that
what we wish for will come simply because we love, we may feel disillusioned.
Learning
to relate with respect requires that we be respectful of ourselves and others.
When we associate
with others who are not respectful, we will learn falsely.
Respect means seeing beneath personality behavior to
the inner call for love.
When we respect
another, we treat them with respect no matter how they treat us.
It is
easy to respect others when we do not take their behavior personally.
It is simple to
respect others when we treat them as we want to be treated.
It is natural to
respect others when we are taking impeccable care of ourselves.
It is healing to
respect others when we understand what they need.
Life
teaches us what we need to learn through conscious relating.
Life gives us the
perfect teachers who challenge us to learn and grow.
Life often shows us
what is feels like to be in others’ positions.
We are here to learn
to relate in positive and helpful ways.
When
we are consistently happy with our own lives, it is far easier to be helpful to
others.
Learning to give
ourselves the best, we have the best to share with those we encounter.
We stop expecting to
“get” from another and consistently learn to “give” to others.
Those who are not
needy naturally share what they have to create fulfilling relationships.
Learning
the purpose of relationships is key to allowing ourselves to receive.
Everything we give
is a gift to ourselves.
When we give with
joy and gratitude, we receive what we have given with joy and gratitude.
Relationships are
constantly refilling us with the best we have given.
Learning
to forgive withholds and mistakes will clear the fear and blocks to love.
Releasing attachment
and clinging to what has been will free us from disappointment.
Undoing false
expectations and fantasy clears the way to enjoy the reality of relationship.
We are in
relationship to learn that we are teaching with everything we think, say and
do.
Give
to others what you want them to learn.
Teach others with
you heart and mind and soul.
Learn from others
what is good and true and lasting.
Be willing to be
happy and be healthy in all relationships.
Relating
to one and all with the best in Love I know.
Betty Lue
Keys to Successful Relationships + Partnerships
Joining-Create a common vision or shared
goal.
Honesty- Communicate your true intention
without secrets or withholds.
Equality-Each is giving the best they know
in each moment.
Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best
for both parties.
Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond
consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame.
Be
respectful and forgiving of mistakes made.
Successful Relationships
To
have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates,
children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality,
Commitment, Responsibility.
Joining: All parties must share a common
goal or vision for their relationship.
This
shared vision comes from communication regarding the needs of each individual,
their vision for the future and what they share in common.
Honesty: Honest communication is sharing
what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest
is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and
appreciation.
Equality:
When both
parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality.
Equality
is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness
to give one’s best even when it is less than the other. To quit or hold
back on one’s giving creates inequality.
Commitment:
To commit to the
fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the
relationship requires always choosing what is best for both.
Decisions
are based on what is a win/win for all concerned. One must be committed
to what is highest and best for each party.
Responsibility:
Being fully able
and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining,
honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible.
Where
there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and
victimization as well as lack of responsibility.
To be successful requires staying conscious.
To be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.
To
take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the
success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give.,
total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for
the quality of the relationship.
If you
want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what
you can do to improve them in every way.
You need not depend upon the
other changing in order to increase the quality of your relating.
Blessings
for choosing a better way,
Betty
Lue