Affirmations
I am here to be truly helpful.
I watch and listen for what works for everyones’ benefit.
I choose to treat everyone as I want to be treated.
I am respectful, helpful and conscientious in my
communication.
(Communication Keys for Success Below!)
Does It Work?
Do you keep expecting a different result?
Are you
stuck on criticism and negativity?
Do you want
to see the reaction in others?
Do you ever
ask, “Is this working?”
It is insanity to keep doing the same thing expecting a
different result?
When we say
the same thing again and again, we are nagging.
When we
start yelling to get attention, we are not listening.
When we
believe making people feel afraid or hurt is helpful, we are crazy.
It is time to discover what actually works.
If what we
are doing does not work, it is time to stop.
We can
learn new ways to be helpful and effective.
We can
change our mind easily because we are wise.
Let’s be creative about what works.
Let’s learn
to observe our communication methods.
Let’s watch
to see the response in others.
Let’s
notice how effective we can be.
More often than not, people like to be loved and
appreciated.
Usually our
family members like smiles, not frowns.
Most people
want pleasant tones of voice rather than shouting.
Usually
children like to be encouraged rather than scolded.
When people use crude words or rude behavior, most feel
disrespected.
When
parents use put downs, shaming or blaming, children feel unloved.
When
couples yes, criticize or speak badly to one another, they feel bad.
We each can
look for what will work.
Learn to speak and behave with respect.
Choose to
listen to one another.
Give quiet
focused time to any important sharing.
Treat others
as you want to be treated.
What works is thoughtful communication.
What works
is being positive with your words.
What works
is caring enough to be calm in speaking.
What works
is being helpful and encouraging.
What works
is loving yourself enough to always give your best.
What works
is looking for the underlying good intentions.
What works
is valuing the attempt to do better.
What works
is being present and caring for others.
Life is for giving……so always give your very best.
Wanting
only the best for us all,
Loving You,
Betty Lue
Successful Communication Keys:
• Calm tone of voice
and be on the same level.
• Ask permission to
speak
• Tune in to where
they are with desire to understand.
• Give what will
create the greatest safety and respect.
• Talk with kindness
and in private.
• Step away until
both parties are calm. Use time-outs as needed.
• Defuse the stress,
urgency and upset, before attempting to talk.
• Be clear when you
don’t have time or patience to listen.
• Write communication
to avoid confrontations and arguments.
• Allow all parties
time to think about their needs and possible equitable solutions.
• Encourage using “I
feel….., I want…… and I am willing………
• Seek cooperative
agreement, rather than punishment, threat or demand.
• Open your heart to
understand (“Walk in their shoes”)
• Choose an outcome
where everyone wins.