Tuesday, February 09, 2016

Happy Families!

I treat all with respect, kindness and love.
I demonstrate peace, harmony, and helpfulness in my home.
I give what I have and experience gratitude in receiving what is given.
All I give is a gift to me.

See some ideas to begin below!

Healthy Happy Families!

Yes, you can have a happy and healthy family.
It starts with the parents, grandparents, and/or caregivers.
Children copy the adults.
Adults learn parenting from their parents.

It only requires one person to begin a new trend.
That person will be the one who reads this newsletter.
Whether young or old, rich or poor educated or not, everyone can begin a new way of relating.
People copy their own family of origin and think it is normal!!

Is there yelling in your home?
Are people threatening, demanding and rude?
Do people neglect to listen when anyone is talking?
Is there physical violence toward people, pets or things?
Do people eat together around a table?
Do family members talk with each other?
Does everyone naturally say Please and Thank you?
Does everyone share in the everyday chores?
Do people feel needed and important?
Are there shared activities and having fun?
Do family members feel valued and appreciated?
Are people encouraged to ask rather than complain?
Is there respect, responsibility and cooperation in the home?

Keys to Successful Family Partnership
When all share a common goal, they join together and participate in decisions and work.
When family members are honest with one another with no secrecy, guilt or blame, they feel safe.
When everyone helps out to the best of their ability, everyone wins and feels valued.
When all are committed to the common welfare, the family unity creates success.
When each person takes full responsibility for their part, they can easily forgive any upset.

When one person in the family begins to respect themselves and others, everyone wakes up.
When one person treats everyone as they want to be treated, everyone learn how to do the same.
When one person is truly helpful to everyone without expecting anything, others begin to help.
When one person uses respectful language and responsible behavior, people start to cooperate.

If you are the One, it is time for you to challenge yourself to begin.
You need no agreement to do the right and helpful thing no matter what.
You can calm yourself and bring peace and happiness to others.
You can love, respect and trust yourself to do what is good for all.
Loving you,
Betty Lue

If Children (and Adults) Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,

They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy. 

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.


From Dr. Wayne Dyer
What Do You Want More Than Anything For Your Children?

•           Value Themselves
•           Be Risk Takers
•           Self-Reliance
•           Freedom from Stress and Anxiety
•           Have Peaceful Lives
•           Celebrate Present Moments
•           Experience a Lifetime of Wellness
•           Creativity
•           Fulfill Their Higher Needs
•           Feel A Sense of Purpose
YOU must Demonstrate / Model:
• The ability to enjoy life.

• Be a positive example.

• Clarify what you know and how you feel.

• Be expressive (Feel–Want–Willing)

Average children do things right.
No limit children do the right thing. 

Basic Principles for Building Self-Esteem in Your Children

1.         You must model self-respect.
2.         Treat each child as a unique individual.
3.         A child is not his actions.
4.         Provide opportunities to be responsible and make decisions.
5.         Teach enjoyment of life each day.
6.         Provide praise rather than criticism.
7          We become what we think about. Our thinking determines our self-image.

To Raise A Child’s Self-Portrait (Self-Image)

1.         Encourage children to be risk-takers rather than always taking the safe road.
2.         Discourage children from all self put downs.
3.         Reduce emphasis on external measures of success.
4.         Work at reducing whining and complaining behavior.
5.         Encourage excitement about everything in life.
6.         Encourage children to choose independence rather than dependence.
7.         Teach children to be non-judgmental.
8.         Encourage children to be honest with themselves.
9.         Be aware in the importance of appearance to young people.
10.       Encourage healthy thinking.
11.       Catch children doing something right. Remind them of how terriffic they are.
12.       Treat children as total and complete, now.
13.       Hold them, touch them, kiss them.
14.       Listen carefully to your children.
15.       Give them opportunities to be unique.
16        Encourage their friends to “hang out” at your home.
17.       Read aloud with them at all ages.
18.       Be involved in their age-related activities.