Tuesday, April 14, 2015

What Are You Saying?

Affirmations:
I forgive all misperceptions, mind and others/
I choose to be conscious of my loving intention.
I pray all I say and do be used for Good.
I trust all things , even mistakes, can work together for Good.

Watch What You Say!

Words are interpreted by those listening.
Words are heard through the filters in the mind.
Words can be received with love or with fear.
Words can be hear both cloudy and clear

When you speak, speak with intention.
When you share, share with love.
When you help, help with respect.
When you give, give with gratitude.

Often people are saying only what the listener wants to hear.
Some people speak to receive approval and appreciation.
Others say what they need to hear for themselves.
Some simply talk to fill the silence.

Pay attention to the setting, private or public.
Listen for the language of the listener.
Attune to your intention to connect or disconnect.
Recognize the emotional state and language of the receiver.

Many other components of speech are done intuitively.
Often people don’t even notice who they are talking to.
If there is an agenda or intention for the communication, it may not be heard.
Often there are inappropriate times or ways of speaking with others.

Some notice body language and others tone of voice.
Some receive the message through facial expressions.
Some actually connect and believe every words.
In communication, there is no way to control what the other receives.

Communication is a fine art.
Communication is complex and often inadequate.
What we perceive is what we believe.
What we hear it translated by our past experience.

It is valuable to know our intention before we speak.
It is helpful to have some knowledge of the other.
It is useful to be clear about the desired outcome for the words spoken.
It is healthy to clarify what was actually heard by the receiver.

Some key questions for each communication:
What is the intention of this conversation, phone call or text?
What do I want to other to receive from me?
How do I want the outcome to be?
Do I need to listen first or share first?
Is this communication for a specific purpose?
Do I want to be helpful or demanding, positive or negative?
Do I just want to dump my own toxic material and hope for the best?
Am I hear to bring calm or  disturbance?
Do I want to share love or fear?

Stop before you speak and ask “What is my desired outcome?”.
When you make a mistake, it is always helpful to apologize, forgive your error and learn what is better.
Let’s respect and appreciate each communication and the words we use!
My intention is always creating a world of greater peace and prosperity for all.

Thanks for caring, 
Betty Lue

Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.

Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
Take nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.