Saturday, April 25, 2015

Mature Adult Behavior

I think, speak and act with respect and consideration for everyone.
I treat others as I want to be treated.
I live my life with respect, responsibility and cooperation with others.
I forgive all immature, emotionally reactive behavior.

Are You an Adult Yet?

Are you behaving like a mature person?
Are you able to control your emotions?
Do you respond with respect and kindness?
Are you listening to what others are really saying?

If you are the conscious adult, you will behave like a mature adult.
If you are aware of where others are coming from, you will be responsive to their needs.
If you realize that reading this email is a sign of maturity, you will move away from childish behavior.
If you recognize you are the source of Love in your relationship, you will remember to give Love.

Mature adults do not behave like children or critical parents.
Mature adults speak and act in ways that create adult responses.
Mature adults are respectful and considerate, compassionate and kind.
Mature adults seek creative solutions and offer responsible responses.

If you are a conscious adult, you will not think, talk or behave in childish ways.
If you are a mature adult, you will respond with love to those lacking in love.
If you are a conscious adult, you will give your best to everyone, beginning with yourself.
If you are a mature adult, you will remember to clear the fear and judgments with forgiveness.

If you are awake and aware, you will step away from useless arguments and fighting.
If you are respectful and responsible, you will see solutions in which no one loses.
If you are caring and compassionate, you will take time to listen and learn what is truly helpful.
If you are giving what you want to have, you will see the needs and fill them in yourself and others.

Crying, complaining, and criticizing are camouflage for what is your responsibility.
When you see a need in yourself and others, it is yours to fill.
When you feel a lack in yourself and others, it is yours to clear the limiting emotional patters.
When you hear a call for love, it is yours to find the Love in you to awaken the Love in others.

We are here to erase what calls us to be as a child, needy and dependent.
When we are waiting for someone else to do it for us, we have forgotten who we Are.
When we are blaming someone else for what is missing, we have neglected to take responsibility.
When we are allowing us to be hurt, scared and alone, we must remember what is our choosing.

We are responsible and capable.
We are good enough.
We are smart enough.
And besides people like us!!

It is time for us to grow up and take responsibility for the entirety of our lives.
No more whining, blaming and feeling sorry for ourselves.
Cleaning up the past is easy if we begin now without blaming anyone.
Start new each day with Being Clear, Certain, Consistent and Sincere.

Love being capable and responsible.
It works!
Betty Lue

Apply all of this to yourself and those around you.
If Children (and Adults) Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
From Dr. Wayne Dyer 
What Do You Want More Than Anything For YourSelf, Your Children and your Inner Child?

•           Value Themselves
•           Be Risk Takers
•           Self-Reliance
•           Freedom from Stress and Anxiety
•           Have Peaceful Lives
•           Celebrate Present Moments
•           Experience a Lifetime of Wellness
•           Creativity
•           Fulfill Their Higher Needs
•           Feel A Sense of Purpose
YOU must Demonstrate / Model:
• The ability to enjoy life.
• Be a positive example.
• Clarify what you know and how you feel.
• Be expressive (Feel–Want–Willing)

Average children do things right.
No limit children do the right thing.

Basic Principles for Building Self-Esteem in Your Children
1.         You must model self-respect.
2.         Treat each child as a unique individual.
3.         A child is not his actions.
4.         Provide opportunities to be responsible and make decisions.
5.         Teach enjoyment of life each day.
6.         Provide praise rather than criticism.
7          We become what we think about. Our thinking determines our self-image.

To Raise A Child’s Self-Portrait (Self-Image)
1.         Encourage children to be risk-takers rather than always taking the safe road.
2.         Discourage children from all self put downs.
3.         Reduce emphasis on external measures of success.
4.         Work at reducing whining and complaining behavior.
5.         Encourage excitement about everything in life.
6.         Encourage children to choose independence rather than dependence.
7.         Teach children to be non-judgmental.
8.         Encourage children to be honest with themselves.
9.         Be aware in the importance of appearance to young people.
10.       Encourage healthy thinking.
11.       Catch children doing something right. Remind them of how terriffic they are.
12.       Treat children as total and complete, now.
13.       Hold them, touch them, kiss them.
14.       Listen carefully to your children.
15.       Give them opportunities to be unique.
16        Encourage their friends to “hang out” at your home.
17.       Read aloud with them at all ages.
18.       Be involved in their age-related activities.