Affirmations:
I no longer need other’s approval. I now approve of myself.
I am highly pleasing to myself in the presence of others.
I live my life exactly the way it is highest and best for me.
I trust my choices and no longer need to complain or blame.
One reader’s amazing awarenesses:
“When
I went to see you, all I wanted was to complain about all things I felt he was
doing and not doing, that it was all blocking me from progressing, and causing
me so much pain. I was intrigued/disappointed and curious about the things you
said. You didn't want to hear about him at all. You kept bringing me back to
myself. I even felt a hint of feminist angst that manifested in thoughts such
as: "So it's all on us, women, to fix things?" and "Does
she also think I'm the only one with the problem?"
But I knew
there was more to it, it wasn't a new message, and was triggering an inner
knowing, so I let it simmer...slowly, it's sinking in me as to why you take
that approach. As long as I look outside myself, it seems I will feel weak. And
as long as I look at what's wrong. I will keep my inner power from aligning
with Creation, which is exactly what I need to do in order to accomplish
anything in this life. I need to stop this game I'm playing: being afraid of
it, yet desiring my power to arise. I'm stuck in this contradiction, wanting
and pushing it away. It's very exhausting.
No
Complaining or Blaming Please!
We
lull ourselves into the myth of victimization when everything is about what
they did or didn’t do.
We make ourselves
frustrated or inconsolable, when we keep thinking it is what they did wrong.
We cannot do our own
work, if we constantly focus on getting “him” or “them” to do their work.
How can we see
ourselves when we are constantly looking at another?
Who
is responsible for your life?
Who
is responsible for your beliefs?
Who
is responsible for your feelings?
Who
is responsible for your choices?
If
not, You, then Who is responsible?
Are
you living in the delusion that the other person is responsible for your
success or failure?
Do you honestly
believe that someone else is responsible for your happiness or unhappiness?
Have you made
someone else responsible for what you think or say or do?
Is it really true
that you think “they” made you do it?
Yes,
others have influence when we are unconscious, weak, drugged or ignorant.
Others create
opportunities to choose “NO” or “YES”.
Others are in our
space, to influence us much like subliminal advertising
But in the end, it
is ourselves who choose what to believe, what to feel and what to choose.
We are
responsible for our lives.
It is our ability to
respond that teaches us what works and what doesn’t work.
It is our
willingness to take care of our whole self that allows us to be response-able.
It is with self
honesty that we stop lying, cheating and stealing from ourselves.
When
we complain or blame, we are thinking, feeling and behaving like we are
dependent.
When we act
dependent, we allow others to tell, demand and even threaten to get what they
want.
We make ourselves
seem needy and afraid like a child needing someone to care for them.
When we weaken
ourselves by deceiving ourselves and others with words of complaint and blame.
Complaining
or whining is a habit learned usually in early childhood to get attention.
The habit is
reinforced by those who console or cajole us in meeting our needs.
Blaming,
tattling or gossiping to friends and family is another means of getting
attention.
When we use these
weak tactics learned in childhood we disempower and dilute our effectiveness.
Stop
negative weakening habits.
Start taking 100%
responsibility.
Begin with what you
can do.
Appreciate yourself
for changing your mind.
Complaining wastes energy.
Whining weakens our self image.
Blaming is ineffective.
Finding fault create guilt, withdrawal and/or retaliation.
Empower
Your Words of clarity, focus, forgiveness and affirmation.
What you
say, others hear as your truth.
Be
consistent, concise, coherent and conscious.
Your
words flavor your communication with what you want to be heard and digested.
Be
aware and affirming.
Loving you,
Loving you,
Betty Lue