Friday, November 07, 2014

Self Worth

What is best for you is best for others.
I care for me to be better able to care for everyone.
I know my best makes a difference to others.
I am more than good enough.

We have just founded a Family Center in Middletown where every child receives and gives their best.
We are an all volunteer Family Learning Center for kids, teens and adults.
All services are free and by contribution. This will pay for rent and utilities
We are seeking Sponsors for the 30 children who come to study, read and learn their best every afternoon.
Sponsors will contribute $50/mo. for each child to cover rent and utilities.

Every One Deserves Our Best!
Every Child Deserves Our Best!

Every person deserves our best.
And let us begin with our children.
It takes a village and more to raise a child.
It requires the best in each one of us.

Raising children well will require us to be our best self.
Children copy what adults do and say.
Children learn how to grow up by observing.
Children emulate what appears to be becoming a responsible adult.

Every partner, friend, student and person deserves our best.
They are watching us.
We all become like those with whom we associate.
What we do and say is projected, imprinted and communicated to everyone.

We are being observed and listened to.
Others are following our example.
We are teaching the behavior we demonstrate.
Literally, we are creating the relationships we have.

If you like the world you live in, keep saying and doing as you have been.
If you prefer something different, consider thinking, saying and doing something different.
If you want more of the same, keep being the same as you have been.
If you want something to change, the change begins in you.

If you want more joy and laughter, laugh and be joyful.
If you want more respect and appreciation, give more respect and appreciation.
If you want more arguing and fighting, keep on fighting and arguing.
If you want more quiet and consideration, be more quiet and considerate.

Misery loves company” is often why we gravitate to those similar to us.
“People sink to the lowest common denominator.” in their desire to conform.
The unconscious tendency is to become like those around us.
So in our unawareness and laziness, we become like those with whom we associate.

Raise your standards.
Break bad habits.
Associate with those who uplift and inspire you.
Be the one who leads and stop following.

Everyone wants to be appreciated and valued.
Become someone you appreciate and value.
Give kudos to those who are setting a high standard.
Openly appreciate those who teach, model and inspire a better way.

Give your best to everyone, and you will make a difference to  everyone!
Betty Lue

If Children (and Adults) Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,

They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy. 

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

From Dr. Wayne Dyer 

What Do You Want More Than Anything For Your Children? 

•           Value Themselves

•           Be Risk Takers

•           Self-Reliance

•           Freedom from Stress and Anxiety

•           Have Peaceful Lives

•           Celebrate Present Moments

•           Experience a Lifetime of Wellness

•           Creativity

•           Fulfill Their Higher Needs 

•           Feel A Sense of Purpose

YOU must Demonstrate / Model:

• The ability to enjoy life.

• Be a positive example.

• Clarify what you know and how you feel.

• Be expressive (Feel–Want–Willing)

Average children do things right.

No limit children do the right thing. 

Basic Principles for Building Self-Esteem in Your Children

1.         You must model self-respect.

2.         Treat each child as a unique individual.

3.         A child is not his actions.

4.         Provide opportunities to be responsible and make decisions.

5.         Teach enjoyment of life each day.

6.         Provide praise rather than criticism.

7          We become what we think about. Our thinking determines our self-image.

To Raise A Child’s Self-Portrait (Self-Image)

1.         Encourage children to be risk-takers rather than always taking the safe road.

2.         Discourage children from all self put downs.

3.         Reduce emphasis on external measures of success.

4.         Work at reducing whining and complaining behavior.

5.         Encourage excitement about everything in life.

6.         Encourage children to choose independence rather than dependence.

7.         Teach children to be non-judgmental.

8.         Encourage children to be honest with themselves.

9.         Be aware in the importance of appearance to young people.

10.       Encourage healthy thinking.

11.       Catch children doing something right. Remind them of how terrific they are.

12.       Treat children as total and complete, now.

13.       Hold them, touch them, kiss them.

14.       Listen carefully to your children.

15.       Give them opportunities to be unique.

16        Encourage their friends to “hang out” at your home.

17.       Read aloud with them at all ages.

18.       Be involved in their age-related activities.