Affirmations:
I am the space of freedom and trust where Love is
remembered and wholeness restored.
I seek only to be truly happy and share my happiness with
others.
I am a safe place for myself and others.
I easily and quickly forgive all errors in thought, word
and deed.
Relating
well depends on YOU!
Often folks
are waiting for someone else to fix the problem.
You are the
one you are waiting for.
Without you
and your change of thoughts, words and behavior, nothing will happen.
Everything
makes a difference.
Relationships
are sensitive to subtle changes in energy, mood, tone of voice, facial
expression and more.
All people
use cues to determine safety of interaction.
When people
and animals feel it may not be safe, they either attack or withdraw.
In
conscious relating, the primary work is to become a safe place.
To explore
resolving relationship issues, the conscious one must clear judgment and fear.
To be
willing to become safe, one must stop being defensive and learn to be open and
honest.
To become
safe, we must be willing to forgive ourselves and others and allow people to
simply be.
Safety
means holding no judgments, criticism, resentment and hurt.
Safety
means being willing to forgive, undo and release the past.
Safety in
relations means building trust over time by constant attention to being
trustworthy.
People and
animals pay attention to all the subtleties of behavior and less attention to
promises made.
Are
you safe?
Do you
remember what was done to you and by you in the past?
Do you hold
grievances against yourself and others about what you have experienced?
Are you
open to seeing and responding to all with forgiveness and love?
Are
you conscious?
Do you stop
yourself from hurtful thoughts, words and behavior?
Do you step
up providing encouragement, open-mindedness and appreciation?
Do you
listen first to understand before you try to be understood?
What you
seek you will find.
When you
seek to be conscious and considerate in your relationships, you become willing
and aware.
When you
seek to be right and determined to win, you become more unwilling and stuck in
your position.
When you
allow all things to change, transform and be treated with a positive mind, you
will see rightly.
Life is
a constant “do-over” and over and over again, until you finally let go and let
it be.
What was,
was.
Everything
is in our own best interest.
All things
work more exquisitely than we can plan.
When you
resist and negate, you will fail to open and appreciate.
So give it
up and allow, let it all go and see the good learning and healing that exists
right now.
Loving
myself and you as we are with total happiness and peace of mind.
Betty Lue
Recommendations
for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)
Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.
Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for
granted.
Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path,
your principles and values.
Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life
impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of
you.
Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get
your way.
Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for
both parties.
Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize
immediately when you forget or neglect.)
Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation
and activities.
Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you
value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship. No arguing,
pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.
As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to
what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of
each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving
all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original
agreement and consider changing roles as needed.
Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open
communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships,
there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for
ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious,
peaceful and enjoyable.
Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.
You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.
Four Agreements by
don Miguel Ruiz
Take nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.