Affirmations:
I act on my inner guidance without hesitation.
I live and love with joy and gratitude.
I do what I say and say what I do.
I respond in the most loving and helpful I know.
Are
you willing to stop your child, friend, spouse, or parent from doing harm to
themselves?
Are you
willing to take action and make the difference that saves a life?
Are you
willing to stop yourself from addiction to whatever may harm you and your life?
Are you
willing to step up and stop condoning, staying quiet, turning away or ignoring?
When
you know there is a problem, do you speak up?
When you
know there is a problem with your own dependency, do you seek help?
When you
know there is a problem, do you get information, guidance and support?
Are you
setting the highest example for others to follow?
Someone
must say “NO” to what is dangerous and doing harm.
Someone
must speak up to say “ I love you and this is not OK!”
Someone
must get help to be able and willing to be helpful.
Someone
must be willing to do what it takes to not participate.
We stop
those who steal.
We stop
those who lie.
We stop
those who abuse.
Is it
not time to stop those who harm themselves?
We want
to be helpful, but don’t know how.
We wish we
could be helpful, but feel helpless.
We feel
guilty about not helping, but withdraw.
We are here
to do something to be truly helpful.
Let’s
get information and resources.
Let’s stop
denying, condemning and neglecting the problem.
Let’s get
proactive and seek the help we need to be truly helpful.
Let’s make
our brothers and sisters important and let them know we care.
We
cannot make people do what they don’t want to do.
We can stop
condoning their secret behavior and covering their problem.
We cannot
make them stop their addiction.
We can stop
giving them money, excuses, sympathy or cover up the problem.
What
would you want others to do for you when you have a problem?
Would you
want compassion, help, information, tough love, or leave you alone?
You can ask
what they want and give what you know.
You can
stop waiting and watching, hoping and praying and do something!
Love and
speak up.
Love and
support.
Love and
educate.
Love and
demonstrate.
You can
do it!
Loving You,
Betty Lue
Everyone
need to take responsibility to show up and speak up to be truly helpful.
Do not
go along with what does harm to you or your brother or others.
Robert’s note that
inspired this reminder:
“Your advice was perfect and it is her willingness to
follow it that makes the difference. It’s just like the addict—they have to
want it. The non-addict has to want to help enough to take responsibility and
take action. They have to “hit bottom” as well, so they don’t give in or let it
slide just because they need the other person in some way or they’re afraid of
being alone.
It’s a messy world. What I see you do is work with the
ones willing
to take responsibility—regardless of
which side of the relationship they are in (addicted or the partner). I don’t
know how to make more of a difference. There are programs everywhere and often
for those willing to do something.
What you do is uncover and support their willingness and
empower them to take action. Thanks.”