Affirmations:
I release judgment, anger, frustration and impatience in
harmless and effective ways.
I forgive myself for using anger to scare, threats to get
my needs met.
I build respect and responsibility in others by being
respectful and responsible myself.
I refuse to hurt or frighten others with thoughts,
words or behavior.
We
develop habits of mind, habits of words, habits of behavior.
They may
become addictions, when we experience intermittent reward.
They may
become addictive, when we get an adrenalin high.
Time to
stop this addiction to get angry for the rush of energy or the release of
tension.
It seems
many have learned, when you get frustrated and feel helpless, get angry.
This is
much like the infant or toddler who tantrums to release their frustration.
As we are
growing up, the more attention we give to acting out, the more kids act out.
When anger
becomes the way to express ourselves to get out needs met, it becomes a bad
habit.
Isn’t
it time to recognize anger is out of control?
Anger
can be dangerous to ourselves and others.
Anger
creates more fear and anger in others.
Anger leads
to emotional reactions and violence.
Anger kills
relationships when it is uncontrolled.
What can
you do to manage your anger?
What can
you do to stop hurting others with your threats and words?
What can
you do to use your mind to create a better way?
What can
you do to break bad habits and change your mind?
Observe
your angry patterns.
Pay
attention to what happens in your mind and body.
Notice what
you can do to interrupt the pattern.
Learn to
step away and breathe.
Give
yourself a timeout from the person or situation.
Take a
pause by talking to yourself or changing your mind.
Ask what
really matters – the relationship with another or using fear to be in control.
When you
are clear it is inappropriate and ineffective to use anger, stop.
Anger is
often used by parents and others to get kids to obey.
Anger is
then used by children to get their way.
Anger
becomes bullying when we scare others.
Anger
teaches bullying when we rely on anger instead of trust.
Build
trusting and respectful relationships with your tone of voice.
Build
trusting and helpful relationships by listening to other’s ideas and feelings.
Build trust
and respect in all relationships by taking the time to respect others.
Build trust
and responsibility by learning to respond with love, encouragement, support and
respect.
Mature
adults find respectful and responsible ways to teach and foster positive
relationships.
Conscious
parents learn to be respectful in all their interactions and create positive
relationships.
Become
proactive in building trust and respect in your home and workplace.
Handle
disagreements in a way that promotes conversation with love, not confusion with
fear.
Blessing us
all in finding a better way,
Betty Lue