Affirmations:
I now live in healthy relationships.
I treat everyone with trust, respect and appreciation.
I forgive us all for neglecting care of ourselves and our families.
I undo any unhealthy habit of mind or words quickly and easily.
I love to love everyone with the dignity and respect they deserve.
(See menu bar to left for our Success Seminars this month in three locations and on line
recording.)
What is a
healthy family?
Do parents know
how to parent well?
Do we treat our
children and elders with respect?
Are we teaching
values, ethics and principles ?
Do we live
according day to day, without a goal?
Are we guided by
media, our associations or a standard that is healthy.
Do we teach our
children by our example?
Do we make mature
choices and treat ourselves with respect and appreciation?
We must have
pictures of wholeness and healthy regard for all people.
We must remember how
to sit together and be in positive conversation.
We must learn how to
listen to one another with respect and compassion.
We must discipline
ourselves to always be our best and give our best.
1.
Families become families because they share common
goals.
2.
Families are successful because they are honest and
keep confidences.
3.
Families work when everyone does their best to
participate and contribute.
4.
Families support one another by committing to what is
good for each one.
5.
Families encourage responsibility without using guilt
or blame.
If you have
never seen a family that discusses things without yelling, how could you know?
If you have never
been in a family that prepares and eats meals together, how would you know?
If you have never
witnessed a family that does their chores together, how could you know how?
If you have never
been a part of a democratic decision-making, how would you know it is possible?
Organizations,
businesses, teams, friendships, partnerships and families all can learn.
When we are willing
to do better, we will learn better ways to relate.
When we are open to
stop doing what does not work, we will be willing to explore what does work.
When we forgive
ourselves for pushing our way harder and do what is smarter, we will succeed.
Success is not
difficult, when there is no resistance.
Success in family
relationships can be achieved by one person.
Success in any
relationship requires that one person be willing to make new ways of respectful
relating.
Success in every family
comes from the willingness to forgive the past and begin again each day.
Where there is
safety, people feel loved and valued.
Where there is
stability, people feel loved and safe.
Where there is
confidentiality, people feel loved and respected.
Where there is
open-mindedness, people feel loved and heard.
There is lack of
knowledge or experience of safety, stability, confidentiality and
open-mindedness.
It is difficult to
understand and demonstrate these four qualities, when we have little experience
of them.
Healthy
relationships are defined by respect, responsibility and co-operation.
Dysfunctional
families may be unaware of what these ideals include.
Our culture must
learn to build healthy lives, healthy communication, healthy relating.
Willing to teach,
inspire and remind us all to practice everyday,
Betty Lue