Thursday, June 27, 2013

Relationships Teach Us


Affirmations:
I give and receive love and appreciation in all my relationships.
I treat everyone equally with respect and gratitude.
I forgive myself for any mistake I make and choose again for the best I know.
I easily release my judgments, fears and resentment and choose for loving kindness.

What you give you receive.
How you live is your teaching.
The way you respect and talk to yourself teaches others how to treat you.
You are living your own teaching.

The lessons that come from relationships are a reflection of what you need to learn.
The experiences you have in your relationships you have asked for unconsciously.
Your life is direct feedback for you to know what you are here to heal, learn and teach.
What happens and who we encounter is not accidental and shows us what is needed within.

When we take responsibility for being THE ONE to make the difference, we will be empowered.
When we are respectful and seek to see what is needed rather than blame or defend, we will heal.
When we are cooperative and choose to live in harmony and peace, we will forgive and be kind.
When we are grateful for all learning and teaching opportunities, we will be happy for the work we do.

Relationships show us how to live and love.
Everyone is our teacher.
Every upset is our wakeup call to notice and respond with loving kindness and wisdom.
Every encounter is healing and holy when perceived with a forgiving mind.

When we are afraid, we can step away and ask for help.
When we are critical and judging, we can step away and forgive seeking to find a more helpful way.
When we are conflicted in how to respond, we can step away to listen within for guidance.
When we are angry, we must step away to bring peace to our mind and return to love.

All relationships invite peace and gratitude, forgiveness and Love.
All relationships ask for clear intention, commitment, conscious communication and appreciation.
All relationships are either a call for Love or a gift of Love.
All relationships offer a mirror of what we are healing, learning and serving.

When in doubt, stop and listen within;
What am I to learn from this?
How does this reflect what I am healing in myself?
How can I forgive my thoughts and choose to love instead?

Everyone is doing their best, including you.
Everyone deserves the best, including you.
Everyone desires to heal and be loved, including you.
Everyone wants to succeed, including you.

What can you do to do better?
What can you do to receive the best?
What can you do to heal and be loved?
What can you do to succeed?

No one can do it for us, but we can take full responsibility for ourselves and stop depending on others.
Depend on the Goodness and Love within you to guide your way and empower you to be your best.

We can release the past and do better now.
Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships 
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. 
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.


As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.