Read only, if you want to learn how to stop being a fool and start being a mature adult.
Stop fooling around.
Stop acting foolishly.
Stop getting drunk or loaded.
Stop having affairs or live with no secrets.
Stop lying, cheating and stealing.
Stop living without caring about others.
Stop hurting people with words or deeds.
Stop holding resentful and seeking revenge.
Stop gossiping or attacking with your thoughts, words or interaction.
Stop being lazy and waiting for someone else to change or do it for you.
Stop telling others what they should do until you have done it all yourself.
Start being sober and sane!
Start letting go of fears and tears and take care of business today.
Start being faithful to your word or change your agreements respectuflly.
Start taking care of your families with respect and responsibility.
Start behaving as a mature, wise and thoughtful adult.
Start living in integrity with your principles, priorities and purpose.
Start forgiving yourself for the mistakes you have made.
Start doing the work it requires to be a person who is admired and loved.
I know you can!
I believe in you to lead the way…..Everyday in every way!
I am loving you,
Betty Lue
April 1, 2004 Loving Reminders
Childlike, Immature, Foolish or Ignorant
What is the difference between someone who is immature and ignorant?
Do you know better?
Are you lacking in education, information and experience?
Do you change how you behave when you have more information?
Do you not care about what others do or think or feel?
Do you know what is appropriate, kind, polite and helpful?
Do you do things your way without consideration for others?
What is the difference between being childlike and foolish?
Are you playful, innocent and natural?
Do you disregard or ignore your own inclination to be careful?
Do you take unnecessary risks just to get a rush of adrenalin?
Are you rude and disrespectful to others?
Do you pay attention to what offends your elders and correct your behavior?
We live in an interesting time in an immature culture. SeeMind Map Below!
I see the US as a culture of pleasers who go along, conform and act obedient.
This is developmentally the latency period (elementary school age).
There is also a large population of those who are ego driven by having the best, wanting to be admired and adored, the center of attention and are selfish (me first) in how they relate to others.
This is developmentally the toddler age (2-5 year olds).
There are those who operate from an adolescent mentality which is part toddler and part fact finder-research, unemotional and detached from caring about others.
These ways of thinking and behaving are often childish and immature, foolish and ignorant.
It is time for us to grow up as a culture.
It is time for leadership to be principle-centered.
It is time for us to seek the good for the whole.
It is time for you and I to step forward and live our spiritual principles as teachers, healers, parents, volunteers, and leaders in our communities and families.
Be innocent and playful as a child, free, spontaneous, happy , generous and creative.
Be conscious, respectful, kind, responsible, helpful, attentive and supportive of others.
Be an adult with a natural inner child who you support with your own love, respect and provision.
We all have the opportunity to re-parent ourselves, to love, encourage, nurture and enjoy our inner child.
Healing ourselves, heals our families. Healing our families heals our communities. Healing our communities heals our world. Let it begin with me and you.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
The Mind Map—A Model of Behavior and Personality
The Guerrilla Group, Inc.
The Amoral Phase
· Birth to age 2
· Needs are primarily physical (eating, sleeping, crying)
· Shuts down under stress
· Best approach = exit and return at another time.
The EGO Phase
· The “terrible twos”
· Needs are primarily mental (possessiveness, attention-seeking, control)
· Cognitive priority = status
· Competitive—everything is a contest
· Dishonesty takes the form of self-aggrandizement
· Distrust salespeople and are afraid of being taken advantage of
· Sees transactions as a contest they must win
· Unasked question = “Are you good enough” (to work with me, to be with me, etc.)
Best Approach
· Ask about achievements and awards.
· Give them the competitive edge.
· Demonstrate your leadership.
· Be assertive without being challenging.
The PLEASER Phase
· Ages four or five to age ten.
· Needs are primarily psychological.
· Gets needs met by complying with others.
· Cognitive priority = acceptance.
· Want love, approval and understanding.
· Fiercely loyal to their friends.
· Hesitant to make decisions for fear of being criticized.
· Will not reject you openly.
· Dishonesty takes the form of lies of omission.
· Unspoken question = “Do you really care about me or are you just being nice to get my business?”
Best Approach
· Be friendly. Ask about people.
· Be somewhat assertive.
· Focus on the relationship.
· Make specific recommendations.
The AUTHORITY Phase
· The teen years.
· Need rules and structure.
· Gets needs met by following procedures.
· Cognitive priority = control.
· More comfortable with numbers than with people.
· Shy, aloof, impersonal, uncommunicative.
· Will argue for the fun of it.
· Automatic dislike and distrust.
· Judgmental, opinionated.
· May suffer from paralysis by analysis.
· Unspoken question = “What are the facts.”
Best Approach
· Avoid friendly gestures.
· Appeal to systems, logic and quoted sources.
· Focus on the facts, statistics, paybacks.
The PRINCIPLE Phase
· Age thirty-something.
· Shift from rational to intuitive.
· Gets needs met by following correct principles.
Best Approach
· Open communication.
· Show you’re fair-care-share.
· Focus on collaboration and problem-solving.
The RESPONSIBLE Phase
· Usually late in life.
· Applies principles responsibly.
Best Approach
· Social, ethical and environmental responsibility.
· Stress benefits to the community at large.
The UNIVERSAL Phase
· You at your highest potential.
· Consistently live by correct principles.
The Mind Map--Summary
The Guerrilla Group, Inc.
The Inner Brain: The Primitive Reactionary Mind
The Amoral Phase of infants and certain adults who act without any morality; those who simply shut down and go away when things get rough. Best Sales Approach = reschedule and exit.
The Left Brain: The Logical Linear Mind
The Ego Phase of children and many adults who see themselves as the center of the universe; self-centered adults who are in endless cycles of fighting and making up. Best Sales Approach = show that you’re tops.
The Pleaser Phase of youngsters and some adults who survive by pleasing others, by being nice and doing good. This maturity allows Pleasers to manipulate others to get their needs met. Best Sales Approach = friendly, assertive.
The Authority Phase of teens and many adults who come to respect rules and agreements to govern their lives. On the down side, these people become excessively duty bound in their urge to do things right. Best Sales Approach = quote facts & logic.
The Right Brain: The Creative Intuitive Mind
The Principle Phase is found in mature people who know that life works to the extent that they follow principles such as being fair with everyone, really caring for others and doing more than a fair share of the task. Best Sales Approach = show you’re fair-care-share.
The Responsible Phase of mature people who know that they are the cause and the source of everything that comes into their lives. They take full responsibility for the situations in which they find themselves. Best Sales Approach = stress group benefits.
The Universal Phase of maturity is expressed by those who constantly reach their highest potential by living a principled life, balancing the right and left minds. This is the phase of one who always finds peace and success, freedom, empowerment and ecstasy. Best Sales Approach = just relax and tell your story.