Sunday, February 24, 2013

Honesty


What is honest?  What is true?
Loving me is loving you.

When we remember we are Loving ourselves, 
we can clear the fear and simply declare, 
“I Love You.”
No strings. No conditions.
No expectations. No ill will.
No clinging. No demands.
No neediness and No regrets.

The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.
How could Love create anything other than Love to give Love?
When we falsely accuse ourselves or others of being unloveable, we are condemning God.
When we neglect to erase the coverup and see the True Identity within, we are blind to what is real.

How can I condemn the one who is most needy?
How can I fail to see the fear and hurt within?
How can I turn away from the mistaken and deny my brother the Jight Truth.
People act out so they might get the correction they need and the Help they seek.

Everyone wants to hear the Loving Truth.
Everyone longs to feel seen and known.
Everyone hopes they can find a safe place to be.
Everyone is looking for the Love outside to heal the wounds within.

The Truth is “I Love You.”
The Truth is “I Am Sorry.”
The Truth is “I care.”
The Truth is “Please forgive me.”
The Truth is “I AM here.”

What keeps us staying separate?
What cause us to withhold?
What makes us want to blame?
What creates forgetting to Love?

We feel guilty for not remembering to love everyone as ourselves.
We feel afraid to really take care of those around us.
We feel confused by the worldly teaching and acceptable ways to care.
We feel distracted and ashamed of how many we have left to cry and die.

It is time to say” I Love You.”
It is time to apologize for the pain.
It is time to acknowledge “I care about you.”
It is time to ask forgiveness and forgive all others.
It is time to realize “I am here for you.” “Please trust me.”

Do not give what you do not have for yourself.
Do not sacrifice and expect repayment for your Love.
Do not surrender your identify and life Purpose.
Give that which fills you with Joy and Gratitude.

Life is for Giving.
Teach what you are learning.
Learn what you teach.
Give all Good to Have All Good.
Love EveryOne, including YOU!
Betty Lue

Relationship Healing

Yes, the primary purpose of our relationships is healing the past.
Yes, the commitment is to be the safe place where each one can heal.
Yes. It requires patience and persistence and love.
Yes, it is work for each person to heal their own stuff.

When we lay a guilt trip on each other and blame them for not changing, it is another wound to heal.
When we resent the other for not doing their own healing work, we slow or stop the healing process.
When we are fixated on what they need to do to handle their issues, we deny or avoid our own.
When we neglect our own process of healing and self love, we make matters worse.

What is revealed can be healed.
Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships 
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. 
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.