Sunday, January 20, 2013

Admiration Grows the Good in You


Those you look to with appreciation, facilitate more of the same in you.
When you appreciate, you are increasing those qualities in yourself.
Look to the Ones for whom you have love and respect.
Recognize what you see in others is also in yourself.

When you have judgmental thoughts in your mind, you will project the same onto others.
What you see in others much be a part of your own thought system or you could not see it.
When you see what you do not like in someone else, forgive and erase it in yourself.
When you see what you admire in another, appreciate and strengthen it in yourself.

Our relationships are a living demonstration of our healing work here.
In every relationship there is teaching and learning.
We can see what we want to maintain and expand.
We can also see what we want to diminish and undo.

What you perceive in others, you strengthen in your Self.
What you pay attention to increases because you have given it power.
When you give negative attention (criticism) or positive attention (appreciation) feeds the behavior.
To modify your behavior or that of others, give attention and energy to what you want to increase.

When we validate other’s negative experiences, we become more vulnerable to the same.
When we listen and forgive the negative and validate the learning and growth, we experience the same.
While misery loves company and we learn to sympathize and empathize, we will increase our own misery.
We can choose to change the flow of energy toward the Good, if we choose to value what is positive.

True empathy is listening for the healing, growth, learning and wisdom within the one’s sharing.
True empathy is calling forth what have value and is the true wholeness, Goodness and Love within.
True empathy is acknowledging the ways we are all here to clear the fear and choose to love again.
True empathy is hearing the story with an eye for the blessing and gifts within the experience.

When we appreciate the goodness, the Love and the blessings, we increase them in our lives.
When we emphasize, talk about and swell on the fear, the suffering and blame, we increase more.
We have choice in turning to the light and falling into darkness.
We can focus on what is wrong, false and bad or focus on what is right, true and good.

The flower turns to the sun and closes in the darkness.
The mind opens to the light and contracts in the fear.
We are like flowers when we allow nature to lead us.
Turn toward the Light.  Open to the Love,  Appreciate the Beauty.

We are at choice and can have the life we dare to dream.
Loving us all in admiring and appreciating the Good, the Loving, the Giving Ones.
Betty Lue

You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life

If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still

So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity

A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer

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