Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Moving On

When we are stuck with judgment, fear, pain or confusion, we need to let go to move on.
Letting go often is facilitated by forgiving or erasing and releasing our attachments.
In our need to be right, our need to protect, our need to correct another, we can get stuck.
It serves no one to hold a position which limits our freedom of movement and change.

What does it take for you to move on?
What will it take for you to let go?
What is accomplished by clinging to the past?
How can you find the freedom to live your best life?

When we believe we need another to change, apologize, return or come with us, we are limited.
When we try to make something happen for or to another, we are fixated on another’s business.
When we keep clinging to a hope for someone else to make things right, we are dependent.
When we forget our own needs and focus on another’s life choices, we lose our way.

Freedom and trust are the key ingredients of unconditional love.
When we love ourselves unconditionally, we free ourselves from limitation and trust our life choices.
When we love others unconditionally, we trust they are living their lives the best they know and we let go.
When we are committed to a life of freedom and trust, we are not dependent on another’s choices.

How do we maintain respectful and responsible relationships with freedom and trust?
Listen to your own inner voice, your guidance, your mission, goals and purpose.
Respect and respond to what you know if best for you.
Inform those who may be dependent on you and ask for their support.

Listen to the needs and wants, mission, purpose and heartfelt desires of the other.
Respect and respond with support to what they know is best for them.
Ask them to let you know when they choose or change their direction, so you can be supportive.
Communicating responsibly with others is key to cooperative relationships.

As we travel through life, we encounter many teachers, in partnership, in families, in everyday life.
When we are relating with others, we are teaching and learning.
When we are interacting with others, we are communicating through our thoughts, words and deeds.
When we relate and communicate, we are teaching others what we want the world to be.

These teaching-learning relationships are most often temporary, some brief and some for a few years.
All these relationships have healing value.
All the upsets that come up are past experiences (often very early childhood) that need healing.
Only by revealing where the wounds or hurts are can we really know what and how to heal.

So all relationships have the potential for healing.
Healing comes with forgiveness.
Healing yield letting go with peace.
Healing is being happy.

Let go and be happy and free,
Betty Lue