Monday, June 06, 2011

Successful Relationships

What does it take to have successful relationships?
This includes friendships, children, partners, business people and strangers.
When you look at your successful relationships, you will see what you do that works.
When you look at your unsuccessful relationships, you can see what does not work.

Marriage relationships have changed.
Parental relationships have changed.
Friendships have changed.
Business relationships have changed
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Have you noticed the changes?

Have you changed with those relationship changes?
Are you still defining successful relationships in the old paradigm parameters?
Are you aware of the changes and willing to respond with trust and acceptance?

The power of intention is more important than ever before.

Keep your eye on the desired end result.
Give your full attention to what you really want the outcome to be.
Give everyone your total respect, consciousness and be fully present.

With multi-tasking and fast pace, technology and communication tools, adjustments are needed.

Face to face conversations and agreements are often overlooked or omitted.
When we are busy, distracted and trying to work quickly, we forget direct communication.
When we forget to give our respect to another with our full attention, our words may not work.

Consider totally changing how and when and about what you communicate.

Clarify how you feel, exactly what you want and what you are willing to actualize your goal.
“I feel confused.  I want to understand.  I am willing to listen to what you are feeling and wanting.”
“I feel concern.  I want to trust. I am willing to ask you for help.”


When you set an intention for peace, you keep communicating and erasing until you have peace.

When you set a goal for mutual respect, you will work on yourself until you are totally respectful.
When you set your desired outcome to be what is fair, you will listen within to find the equitable solution.
When you are willing to take the time to openly listen to the other, you will hear what is really needed.

Often in our relationships, we are only working to get to our solution so we can be satisfied.
Often we are distracted by the many demands of everyday life and simply try to win the argument.
Often we are unwilling to negotiate for the most respectful and responsible outcome for all.
Often we have learned to either submit and feel hurt or demand and feel angry.


When we want “success”, we need to learn and grow, give and receive.
When we want “success”, We want peace and harmony.
When we want “success”, we need what is beneficial to all concerned.
When we want “success”, we want to be happy.


Loving you and hoping you join our relationship workshop series…..
either via email recording, CD or join one of our groups in Pleasant Hill or Brentwood.
Betty Lue


Good for All Relationships!

Singles, couples, parents , employers and more
Everyone is in relationship with themselves and others!
Improve the quality of all your relationships!
Stop fighting!

Stop feeling hurt!
Stop negative interaction!
Stop criticizing, blaming and feeling guilty!
Start respecting!
Start healing!
Start positive interaction!
Start forgiving, appreciating and feeling valued!
It only takes one.....and that is YOU!


Six Week Intensive Workshop Series

Pleasant Hill Reunion Center, Tuesdays  June 7-July 19 (Not 7/5), 7-9PM
Brentwood Unity Center,
 Wednesday Evenings July11-August 15, 7-9PM

Audio Recording available on Line (or CD) for those registering.


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