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1. Be in Love Today.
2. Forgive all lack of Love in yourself and others.
3. Be willing to give your best no matter what.
4. Live in integrity with your Self and your Values.
We cannot be upset or hurt unless we live with expectations of how it should be.The moment we step into expectation, we forget that unconscious behaviors are always changing.
We forget that human beings are unaware and often driven by their emotions in the moment.
We neglect to love ourselves with impeccable care and rely on others for approval and support.
We cannot heal what we do not reveal.
Sometimes the truth hurts, and then it sets us free.
Awareness with neutrality or peace is healing.
In order to heal, we must see things in the light of conscious awareness and cease judging.
To be afraid is to avoid, neglect, ignore, limit, criticize, correct, deny and punish.
Some are so defensive with righteousness, blame, condemnation and rejection, they fail to listen.
Some are so fearful, protective, avoidant, separate, self absorbed, they fail to see what is.
Some are so “nice” , cautious, confused, conflicted and uncertain, they fail to reveal their truth.
To transform the world of errant and misguided relating is to think, speak and act in Truth.
What it takes to heal the wounds of unconscious patterns, is to confess our own unconscious errors.
What it takes to make the world a better place for all is to be the change we want to see.
What it takes to stop the insanity, chaos and faulty thinking is to show up, speak up and let go.
Be present. (Be here now.)
Pay attention. (Observe what is.)
Tell the truth. (Share your perceptions.)
Detach from the outcome. (Step away and let go.)
When there is a values difference.
*Model the behavior you prefer.
*Share your thoughts, feelings and preferences one time only. (I feel, I want…I am willing.)—No nagging.
*Be an informed consultant, by gathering information, on all sides of the values difference.
*Serenity Prayer
God, Grant me the courage to change the things I can, accept the things I cannot change, and the wisdom to know the difference……(or the wisdom to see choices when I thought there were none.)
We are here to heal ourselves, increasing our ability to help one another and heal humanity.
Guilt and Blame continue the wounding process.
May we each stop attacking ourselves and each other.
Be the space of forgiveness, acceptance and encouragement now.
Loving us all as One,
Betty Lue
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You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.
Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered.
This shows us where we have work to do.
The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem.
It is ineffective over the long term.
The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us. When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.
This is a big job.
It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.
Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself, the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.
The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself, the more others will do the same for themselves and for others.
You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.