When we are upset, we are not upset alone.
When we are healed, we are not healed alone.
When we are confused, we are not confused alone.
When we get clear, we help others to be clear.
When we are lost, we are not lost alone.
When we are on purpose, we demonstrate how to live purposefully.
It is up to the most conscious and aware one to offer healing, clarity, direction, forgiveness.
Thank God this is so.
We are the same, you and I.
We are all in this together.
What blesses one, blessed all.
What if taking anything personally is a mistake and misleading.
What if taking others’ behaviors personally is a mistake which eliminates being truly helpful.
What if when we are personally offended or hurt, we shut down our ability to heal and bless others.
What if we are allowing the mistake to be magnified when we exaggerate its impact on us.
When we step in poop, we mistakenly blame the pooper and our own “ignorance for not seeing it.
When we experience any error, we need to trust it is ours to reveal and heal.
When we stop ourselves from letting anyone or anything hurt or offend us, we stop the offense.
When we do not allow harm, we help the offender and we stop future offenses.
Where we allow others to do harm, we help them feel guilty.
When we encourage guilt in any form, we are attacking the “right-minded” thinking of another.
When we blame ourselves and feel guilty or bad, we are limiting our own resourcefulness.
When we withhold love, and fail to instantly forgive or amplify the error, we cannot be helpful.
Being truly helpful is experiencing every unloving thing as a call for Love.
It is our responsibility and vocation to respond to everything with Love, appreciation, healing, forgiveness, gratitude, generosity, joy, service, contribution, creativity, understanding, acceptance and trust.
When we take the world’s craziness into our consciousness ( since we are a part of every thought every where), it is our response ability to heal the wounds, raise the dead, prosper the impoverished, empower the helpless, bring faith to hopelessness, forgive the sinner, educate the ignorant and reassure the fearful.
We each can clear the muddy waters of mass consciousness by laughing more and believing less.
We can support the unsupported with conscious, respectful thoughts, words and activities.
We can honor those who have been treated dishonorably by listening attentively and giving our best.
We can seek deeper understanding within when we are confused by the complexity of the worldview.
We can deliver only messages of wisdom and higher Truth to those who seem to know and not know.
We can create only beauty, goodness and Wholeness, equality and justice in our minds and in our lives.
We can take responsibility for being the ONE.
For in truth we are the One.
So love your vocation and calling.
Appreciating you!
Betty Lue
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Successful Relationships
To have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates, children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality, Commitment, Responsibility.
Joining: All parties must share a common goal or vision for their relationship. This shared vision comes from communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the future and what they share in common.
Honesty: Honest communication is sharing what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and appreciation.
Equality: When both parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality. Equality is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness to give one’s best even when it is less than the other. To quit or hold back on one’s giving creates inequality.
Commitment: To commit to the fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the relationship requires always choosing what is best for both. Decisions are based on what is a win/win for all concerned. One must be committed to what is highest and best for each party.
Responsibility: Being fully able and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining, honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible. Where there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and victimization as well as lack of responsibility.
To be successful requires staying conscious.
To be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.
To take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give., total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for the quality of the relationship.
If you want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what you can do to improve them in every way. You need not depend upon the other changing in order to increase the quality of your relating.
Blessings for choosing a better way,
Betty Lue