Can I make this simple to understand?
We are here to remember our essential nature, our wholeness and holiness.
Humanity has forgotten its own innocence and perfect nature.
Perfect Love created us a perfect Love.
Goodness created us Good.
Joy created us Joyful.
Peace created us Peaceful.
We all are created to be like our creator.
And so it is, we have forgotten our natural state.
With every relationship we have an opportunity to remember and practice the Truth.
With every relationship we can behold what really is as we forgive the rest.
With every relationship we can forgive and erase our own judgments and give gratitude.
With every relationship we can see the other as we see ourselves, a projection of our inner beliefs.
Here in Hawaii, I can see, feel and know how the rocks and trees are teaching me the truth.
I experience how the skies and the seas give me the answers that I seek about energy and healing.
I find that in quiet, without the distraction of planning, comparing and thinking, I hear answers.
I receive the life energy I need to fill me up so that I can give endlessly to all.
In our everyday relationships, we can try to get what we think we need.
We can give what we make up the other person is trying to get because they believe they are needy.
Or we can be simply willing to be present, a gift of Love, that gently gives without needing to get.
Relationship healing is to heal ourselves, so we can give without needing to get anything in return.
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When relationships are based on getting the love we want, there will be uncertainty and doubt.
When we need someone to fill us up and satisfy our needs, we are dependent on their energy/love.
When we are dependent on another, we will be satisfied when they give and hurt or angry when they don’t .
Everyone has good full days and bad empty days, where they have their own needs to fill.
Where we are unhealed, we cannot be depended on to give consistently.
Where we are needy, we cannot be counted on to give to the needy.
When we have not healed ourselves of dependency on another, we cannot be counted on.
When both parties in relationship are unhealed, there will be constant drama and uncertainty.
To continue wounding one another with our demands, threats, complaints and dependencies, will not yield healing or satisfaction for either party.
Until we take full responsibility for our own healing, we will have inconsistent commitment, giving, helpfulness and satisfying harmonious relationships.
Healing relationships are those in which both people take full responsibility for their own healing.
They make no demands on the other.
When we are healed, we are truly helpful.
When we are healed, others benefit from our wholeness.
When we are healed, we give love without ceasing.
When we are healed, we are whole, happy and free.
Thanks to all our relationships which show us immediately where we have healing work to do!
Blessings of gratitude and respect to all of us who choose to do this healing and holy work!
Betty Lue
Ten Commandments of Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep your agreements faithfully.
Communicate changes honestly and immediately.
Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.
Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example.
Apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.
Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend time, money and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.
No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.
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Life requires that we be in relationships.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.