Each person sees Truth differently.
There is no singular Truth.
Therefore there is no universal right and no universal wrong.
There are exceptions and circumstances and perceptions and viewpoints that differ.
When we want to be right, we simply focus on what agrees with our truth.
When we want others to be wrong, we simply see through our lens how we disagree.
When we want to be fair, we begin to care.
When we care about our brother, we stand in their shoes and look at life through their eyes.
This is forgiveness.
To forgive is to live seeking what is in the best interest of all concerned.
To forgive is to give the gift of willingness to let go of our selective perception and judgment.
To forgive is to be willing to listen, let go, understand and be compassionate with and for the other.
To forgive is to seek only for the Highest Truth, what is Good for one and all.
Many have learned to demand their own way, the “right” way for them.
This is the defensiveness of the ego, the singular individual wanting his/her ego needs met.
Some have learned to please the other, to give up their own needs to keep the other quiet and content.
This is the protectiveness of the ego, trying not to hurt anyone, but sacrificing themselves.
A few have learned to do what is “fair” for all by caring and sharing their truths and listening to others.
These are the mature individuals who understand that when even one loses, all lose.
To step into principle-centered living and giving requires a Higher Truth which few yet understand.
When we see to support the needs of everyone, we must learn to know our own and listen equally to all.
What is true for one, may be untrue for others.
What is true for others may be untrue for you.
To support each individual in living their truth is key for healing, growth and greater wisdom.
To respect each person’s experiences and circumstances requires knowing their intention and goals.
Children have more innocent and direct intentions, usually they are exploring the way the world works.
Teens are clear about wanting to master their own choices and learn from the consequence.
Many adults try to control the world and make things happen their way.
Mature individuals seek only to respond to others and the world in a loving and respectful way.
What is true for you?
Where are you in your life journey?
How do you try to teach others your truth?
Are you willing to let go of what you see and try walking in another’s shoes.
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Forgive and you will see things differently.
Forgive and you will seek only to be kind.
Forgive and you will live with inner peace.
Forgive and your will know the Higher Truth.
Seek first a life of Goodness, and all Good things will be given to You.“What you seek, you find for yourself.”
Loving you,
Betty Lue
This may help you understand how each individual has their own perceptions and their own “Truth”.
The Mind Map—A Model of Behavior and Personality The Guerrilla Group, Inc.
The Amoral Phase· Birth to age 2
Needs are primarily physical (eating, sleeping, crying)
Shuts down under stress
Best approach = exit and return at another time.
The EGO Phase· The “terrible twos”·
Needs are primarily mental (possessiveness, attention-seeking, control)
Cognitive priority = status· Competitive—everything is a contest
Dishonesty takes the form of self-aggrandizement
Distrust salespeople and are afraid of being taken advantage of
Sees transactions as a contest they must win
Unasked question = “Are you good enough” (to work with me, to be with me, etc.)
Best Approach· Ask about achievements and awards.
Give them the competitive edge.
Demonstrate your leadership.
Be assertive without being challenging.
The PLEASER Phase· Ages four or five to age ten.·
Needs are primarily psychological
Gets needs met by complying with others.
Cognitive priority = acceptance.
Want love, approval and understanding.
Fiercely loyal to their friends.
Hesitant to make decisions for fear of being criticized.
Will not reject you openly.
Dishonesty takes the form of lies of omission.
Unspoken question = “Do you really care about me or are you just being nice to get my business?”
Best Approach
Be friendly. Ask about people.
Be somewhat assertive.
Focus on the relationship.
Make specific recommendations.
The AUTHORITY Phase The teen years.
Need rules and structure.
Gets needs met by following procedures.
Cognitive priority = control.
More comfortable with numbers than with people.
Shy, aloof, impersonal, uncommunicative.
Will argue for the fun of it.
Automatic dislike and distrust.
Judgmental, opinionated.
May suffer from paralysis by analysis.
Unspoken question = “What are the facts.”
Best Approach
Avoid friendly gestures.
Appeal to systems, logic and quoted sources.
Focus on the facts, statistics, paybacks.
The PRINCIPLE Phase Age thirty-something.
Shift from rational to intuitive.
Gets needs met by following correct principles.
Best Approach
Open communication.
Show you’re fair-care-share.
Focus on collaboration and problem-solving.
The RESPONSIBLE Phase Usually late in life.
Applies principles responsibly.
Best Approach
Social, ethical and environmental responsibility.
Stress benefits to the community at large.
The UNIVERSAL Phase You at your highest potential.
Consistently live by correct principles.