Is there more to learn, to heal, to give?
Do you depend on the other in order to live?
Are there others involved who may be hurt?
How do you know when it is time to go?
Have you given your best and let go of the rest?
Do you take full responsibility for your part?
Have you healed your past so you can be present in love?
Some stay too long, even when the job is done.
Some leave too soon, leaving unfinished business for later.
Some linger in regret, never willing to forget.
Some move on, until they run in to the same experience once again.
Are willing to finish what you started?
Are you aware of the healing needs for all?
Have you considered all the options?
Are you honest with yourself about what you can do?
Are you willing to forgive the past?
Are you open to beginning anew?
Can you clear your mind of what went on before?
Can you see yourself powerful, loving and true?
Whether you leave or you go, all these answers are good to know.
When you leave, your past follows behind only to show up in a new place and time.
True forgiveness see with new eyes the gift and blessing in all that has gone before.
True Love trusts in the right and kind answers to every question and conversation.
I encourage you to stay until you are neutral.
I invite you to heal and release the past.
I support you finding full appreciation.
I appreciate you in having the courage to forgive and choose again.
The way of Love is the one in which no one loses.
The way of fear is the one which hurts and confuses.
Take you time to stop, look and listen within.
You are creating new territory in which to begin to be the Best You.
Loving you in all you choose to do with Love in your heart,
Betty Lue
Honorable Closure
How do you complete a relationship, a marriage, a teaching-learning experience, a job, a friendship? How do you know you are really complete?
Often people walk away without really finishing the spiritual work, because it is easier emotionally. People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is really “God be with You.”
When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.
Honorable closure acknowledges:
1) the learning and growth received,
2) challenges and difficulties experienced,
3) appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4) forgiveness and amends made.
Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.
Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.
Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission. Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together. This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.
And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.
Honorable closure always includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.
Do your part when you part.
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.
To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure. Begin now.
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace.
Betty Lue