This One is for YOU! And Me and all of us.
When your life is not working easily and well, you have forgotten your purpose!
Criticism is first about the critic, defining the critic’s relationship with themselves.
When we take another’s criticism personally, we distract them from seeing themselves.
When we are neutral (“Thank you for sharing.”), the other has an opportunity to listen to themselves.
Silence is always the best policy when being criticized or judged.
Projection is defined as seeing ones own flaws, issues and stuff in another...often the one closest to us.
When we are blaming (a form of attack), we are trying to cast guilt and responsibility onto the other.
When we blame, nag, criticize, resent, reject, withhold love from another, we are hurting ourselves.
When we hurt ourselves, we may feel depleted, guilty, sad, hostile, unloved and rejected.
What we give to others, we will receive.
When we give love and appreciation, we love and appreciate ourselves.
When we project and negativity, criticism, complaints, anger, etc, we feel guilty, separate and unloved.
When we have forsaken our natural state of Love, appreciation, joy and peace, we feel weak and afraid.
Behave in the ways you can feel pleased with yourself.
Speak with words that you would feel good about sharing with your world.
Think of yourself and others with the vision you prefer to experience.
The way you think, speak and act is what you are teaching others to be!
The behaviors I see within many family systems towards partners and children are harmful.
When we devalue another, we defeat our purpose of creating more peace, harmony and respect.
When we appreciate and love others, we empower and inspire them to be their best.
When we give our best with thoughts, words and actions, we feel Good about ourselves.
When you are feeling overwhelmed, distracted, confused, blameful and upset, be silent.
Take time out to listen within.
Ask yourself what you need to find your inner peace, creativity and ability to respond with Love.
Give yourself exactly what you need…food, rest, play, enjoyment, change of focus, etc.
If your life is not together, do something to get it together.
Clean your closet, eat healthy foods, take a walk, turn off the TV, say a prayer, laugh a little.
If your finances, relationships, health, work situation are in trouble, focus on yourself.
When we try to change the externals, the problem will simply shift to another venue.
How to have your life work! (Relationships, health, finances, family life, job, etc)
Begin and end each day with gratitude for the simple things. (food, shelter, running water, sunshine, etc)
Genuinely express love to those who love you.
Say please and thank you often. (many times a day)
Take good care of your appearance and the appearance of your home and car, especially your bedroom!
Open your important mail and email and throw the rest away without reading it.
Pay all your bills on time and say thank you for every kindness from another.
Give only what you have (time, energy and money), but never give from lack, martyrdom or sacrifice.
Waste no time on TV, internet or video games, magazines or meaningless stuff until your work is done.
Make sure you can see meaning and value in everything you think, do and say.
See first to understand the other by listening with your heart, until you fully understand their viewpoint.
Live with respect for yourself and all others.
Life can be fun safe and easy, when you live in integrity, supporting the Best in You!
Betty Lue
30 Days to Enlightenment and Waking Up
30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!
This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.
This daily practice will heal and transform your life
With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.
Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.
Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.
Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.
Daily Practice:
Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.
Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.
Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.
(No need to understand or feel anything.)
I forgive you for being mean.
I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.
I forgive my body’s limitation.
I forgive myself for being late.
I forgive everything.
Make the sound “AAAH” for 1-2 minutes.
Imagine that you are opening your mind.
Now write and say 30 Choices.
I choose to be happy.
I choose to be free.
I choose to do what I love.
I choose to forgive….
In the Evening (before bed)
Write and say 30 Gratitudes
I appreciate the energy I have.
I love being happy.
I am grateful I have you in my life.
I thank God.
Make the sound “OM” the Universal sound for Love and God for 1-2 minutes.
PS Even a few of each is better than none.
Do what you can and trust it is working.
Loving You always,
Betty Lue