What is a better way?
· One that succeeds.
· One that serves all concerned.
· One that creates more harmony and peace.
· One that is effective.
· One that builds respect and responsibility.
· One that saves time, energy and money.
· One that works.
· One that makes everyone feel valued.
When you meet resistance, are you willing to find a better way?
When what you have done is not working, are you willing to find a better way?
When you are tired, broke and depressed, are you willing to find a better way?
When you have hurt feelings, yours and others, are you willing to find a better way?
When people seem disrespectful and irresponsible, are you willing to find a better way?
When you fee cheated, lied to and at your wit’s end, are you willing to find a better way?
When you are angry, hurt or afraid, are you willing to find a better way?
When you have lost hope and run our of ideas, are you willing to find a better way?
Life offers us opportunities to learn.
When we keep doing what does not work, we are closed to learning.
When we open our minds and hearts to the possibilities of a better way, we begin to be willing.
Forgiving and erasing the past, undoing what does not work is essential in finding a better way.
Are you willing to start from the beginning?
Yes, you have a goal and maybe even a vision of the optimum outcome you see.
You also have beliefs, opinions and even list of what it will take to get there.
To the degree you are stuck on your own way, you will deny others and yourself to find a better way.
When you are not being heard, first listen and write down exactly what you hear from the others.
When you are not being seen, first really look for the Good and the willingness in the others.
When you are being treated with disdain or disrespect, seek to respect and honor the others.
When you are criticized, ask yourself how the other is afraid and criticizing themselves.
When you feel guilty, first forgive yourself and see you have given the best you knew.
When you feel afraid, first assure and love yourself with kindness and confidence.
When you feel little, lacking and limited, look within for the guidance that lifts you up.
When you feel lost and confused, first be still and in the inner quiet ask again to see the better way.
Finding the better way is a process.
First let go of what doesn’t work.
In the space of not knowing, begin to ask for help from within and from the others.
“Let’s listen to one another and together find the way that works for all of us.”
Finding the better way requires trust and freedom. (Love= Trust + Freedom)
To find the way that works for all, we must Trust one another and the co-creative process.
To find the better way, we must free ourselves to listen to all sides.
We must dialogue and share our values and what matters most to us.
We must look for the highest goal we are each trying to achieve.
We must build relationship and trust.
We must agree to disagree without arguing and fighting.
We must first seek to understand before being understood.
We must let go of the need to talk first and have the last word.
We must speak kindly to one another and be patient with the process.
We must quiet our minds and listen for the way of peace and cooperation.
We must seek a better way, one of respect, acceptance and love.
Differences in people, life paths, values and choices must be accepted to find a better way.
Yes, it is possible to find a better way.
Loving us in our families, our workplace, our governments and our world to find a better way.
Betty Lue