Wednesday, July 26, 2017

Parenting Responsibilities

I talk with children and youth as I want them to talk with me.
I ask children for help and respect.
I learn from what I see children trying to say to us.
I am open and willing to be truly helpful and respectful.

How Do You Teach Children Well?

Do you observe yourself with children?
Your children and all children deserve to be carefully taught.
Children watch adults and copy them.
Children practice the words and behaviors of adults.

Children learn the language of adults.
Children watch the manners of adults.
Children pay attention to the lifestyle of adults.
Children are imprinted by adult behavior.

Children watch TV and UTube.
They pay attention to their teachers and elders.
Children watch and listen to the parents of their friends.
Children try to do what seems to be the most accepted behavior.

Do adults learn from their children?
Do parents blame, punish, criticize and curse their kids?
Do parents see themselves In how they relate and communicate?
Instead most parents try to stop unacceptable behavior in their children.

Adults often tell their children what to do.
Adults often drink too much, swear too much and behave inappropriately.
Adults may say “Do as I say and not as I do.”
Adults may nag and shame and threaten without results.

Then children learn to tell others what to do.
They learn bullying behaviors with swearing, shaming and threatening.
Children often defy authority if they see in in adults.
Children may rebel, get even and purposely fail to upset their parents and teachers.

What is a better way?
Let the adults clean up their behavior, words and relationships.
Let the adults listen sincerely when they ask the kids, “What would work better?”
Let the adults be the examples and role models before they judge our youth and teens.

Ask yourself,
Do we like to be told what to do?
Are we motivated by being threatened and punished?
Do we respond well to angry tones or respectful requests?
Are you able to understand the need for routine schedules and regular meals?

Would we want to learn from a smiling teacher or resentful critic?
Would we enjoy our life more in a family where parents were responsible.
Would we feel more secure and appreciative with healthy meals prepared by a loving parent?
Would we like to learn how to fix a meal, do the laundry and clean up after ourselves if our parents did?

Listen to your children and all children to see what they want and need.
Observe what make children feel safe and happy and inspired to do well.
Give everyone the best you have everyday, including yourself.
You can be a better parent and a better example.

Loving every child by giving them our very best with listening, loving, learning and letting go.
Betty Lue

Responsibilities for Adults (From Betty Lue)
Suggestion: Always begin with Being as Responsible as a Child
Do you know how to think, speak and behave consciously?
Do you know how to treat others with respect and kindness?
Are you willing to learn to be responsible in all relationships?
Do you know the difference between right and wrong?

Treat others as you want to be treated.
Forgive everyone and everything, for all time, including yourself.
Be courteous and helpful.
Give your best, no matter what others do.
Make no assumptions, and recognize you do not know.
Keep your agreements and your promise to yourself and others.
Take turns in your interactions and following procedures.
Be fair in your decisions and choose what is good for all concerned.
Eliminate all cruelty or destructive thoughts, words or behaviors.

Think of others as you want to be thought of.
Stop judging, complaining and gossiping.
Stop negatively thinking about yourself and others.
Forgive and erase all thoughts and behaviors that are hurtful.

Speak to others as you want to be spoken to.
Use “please” and “thank you”, even with children.
Talk in a pleasant tone of voice to everyone.
Stop demanding and expecting: respectfully request.
Don’t pretend you know, when you don’t know.

Responsible Behaviors
Eradicate addictive behavior and create healthy choices.
Clean up after yourself, in your relationships and your home.
Follow through on your plans, projects and promises.
Clean your house and car, your mind and messages.
Treat the environment and earth with conscious respect.
Stop excessive spending and Save your money.
Be respectful of the people and possessions in your life.
No drunkenness or disorderly behavior.
No swearing or name-calling.
Never abuse unhealthy food, drink or drugs.
Stop expecting others to do for you what you don’t do.
Live with respectful words, kind thoughts and positive behavior in clean home.