Affirmations:
I
forgive myself for hurting anyone with fearful words or action.
I
choose to find and practice a better way in all my relationships.
I
choose to stop doing harm with words or actions.
I
commit to teach others by my kindness and compassion.
Stop
Hurting YourSelf!
Stop
the hurting!
Just because you may
have been hurt, doesn't mean it is ok.
Just because you
feel hurt by another, doesn't mean you need to hurt back.
Just because you
thought is would relieve your pain, stop hurting others.
Attack
only begets more attack.
Hurt causes more
continuing hurt.
Stop and give
yourself time to think.
Stop and be aware of
what you do.
Recently
I became aware.
I didn’t know………………
Grown ups often
scare and hurt their children.
Adults hit, throw
things, tantrum violently and scare their children.
I
didn’t realize ……………….
Adults think it is
ok to throw things.
Adults believe it
doesn’t do harm to swear, threaten, scare, and hurt their families.
Adults actually
think it is normal to act out like a two year old.
When
will they learn?
When will parents
realize the harm they do?
When will we all
grow up and stop abusive behavior?
When will we
understand scaring and hurting only causes more of the same?
Bullying
parents create bullying children.
The strong hurt the
weak as animals, adult and kids.
When there is no
bullying at home, it will not occur in schools.
When there is an end
to hurting and scaring in families, the world will become safer for all.
How
can it be we have not learned self-control?
How come we keep
on doing harm to one another?
How can we not
see that hurtful word are damaging?
What causes us as
a society to threaten, scare, hurt one another?
We can
try to pretend it is OK to do harm since we experienced it as children.
We can try to
justify it with “I don’t know how to get my children to obey.”
We can excuse our
childish behavior with “being tired, drunk, angry, or feeling disrespected”.
How ignorant is it
to excuse physical or psychological punishment because we don't know another
way?
Let us
commit to grow up and control ourselves.
Let us agree to
never hurt another again.
Let us stop doing
what we know is ignorant.
Let us forgive our
past experiences and find a better way.
If this
Reminder is for you, forgive your ignorance and choose again.
We can end all fear
and violence by changing ourselves.
Love yourself and
others with Love.
“Do
Unto Others What You Want Done Unto You.”
Trusting
you with peace in our families.
Betty Lue
From
Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love Yourself
1.
STOP ALL CRITICISM
Criticism
never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as
you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are
negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop
terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a
mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately
switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be
gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you
learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really
loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism
breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as
you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self
hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the
thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find
ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It
is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge
that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways
to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn
about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy
and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy?
Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look
into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself.
Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the
mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love
you!”
10.
LOVE
YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t
wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new
relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.