Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Frustration?

Affirmations:
I see what needs to be done and I just do it.
I no longer withhold my creative solutions and positive action.
I do what benefits the greater whole.
I trust myself to use my energy and emotions for all Good and only Good.

Frustration With What Seems To Be?

Are you upset with what seems to be happening in your life?
Do you want something other than what you have?
Are you angry about something or someone?
Do you wish situations were different than they seem to be?

Are relationship non-communicative or argumentative?
Are finances seemingly tight or just no working?
Do you have health issues or physical limitations?
Do you seem to have trouble getting yourself and/or others to get things done?

Anger is a cover-up for fear, grief, pain, judgment, jealousy, and other negative emotions.
Anger is an easy expressive release of unused energy.
Anger, frustration, irritation, impatience are all a build up of energy.
When angry for any reason, ask, “What Can I Do?”

It is easy to be frustrated, impatient, irritated and angry and is more difficult to know what to do!
When we withhold what we have to say, we may feel frustrated.
When we wait for someone else to act, we may be upset when they don’t do what we want.
When we are afraid to express or act, we may find ourselves holding back on our part.

When we withhold our energy, it will build up and may result in acting out in ineffective ways.
When we stop ourselves from doing what is ours to do, we may build resentment and anger.
When we claim impotence and make excuses for not expressing, we may feel guilty and blame others.
When step back to avoid conflict or confrontation, we may create conflict and hurt ourselves.

We need to see our emotions as a wakeup call inviting us to say or do something different.
We need to claim the right to express before a negative or toxic buildup occurs.
We need to write our what we want to clarify what is accurate and most effective.
We need to put out messages to ourselves and others about what we can do.

When we know and feel what we can do, we stop complaining.
When we give ourselves a list of productive action, we must begin with enthusiasm.
When we are love in action, we feel useful and effective.
When we put our energies to right use, we flow with what is next and next again.

Stifling ourselves with unnecessary waiting or complaints or blame leads to unhealthy resentment.
Opening our mind to our own willingness to do what we can do, leads to happy creative solutions.
Living our life on purpose is being willing to take full responsibility for the outcome.
Giving our energy to be used for positive and purposeful outcomes will change our emotional state.

In all circumstances of anger, irritation and frustration and impatience, ask what you can do.
When you know what  you can do, just do it, immediately.
Use your energy for right and holy purposes that benefit everyone.
If you see something that needs to be done, it is yours to do.

Just Do It and Be Happy Doing It!
Betty Lue

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Take another look  and see things differently!
Handling Criticism

Every upset is always a wakeup call.
All wakeup calls are invitation to get on purpose.
Our purpose is to live in integrity with our mission and principles.
When we are fully being  true to our authentic self ,no one can upset or hurt us.

Every criticism is always about the critic.
We can listen and be grateful for them telling their truth, their belief, their projection.
When we take it personally, we are acknowledging that we have some guilt.
When we are offended, we are confessing that we are not wholly on purpose and at peace.

When my buttons are pushed ( when I have a reaction) to what has been said, it is mine to heal.
When I am hurt or offended, I need to stop and listen to how I can respond to myself with love.
When I am defensive, attacking, upset, I need to take stock of what is the truth for me.
Always I can be aware that the critic is talking about their own need and I can forgive them.

When we hear a criticism or what we judge to be an attack, we can best forgive it all.
When we feel attacked or criticized personally, we can simply apology for the upset.
When we listen within for how best to respond, we can hear what is really needed.
The critic is always describing themselves and expressing their own need to heal.

What we give to another is given to ourselves.
When we offer forgiveness and healing to a brother, we are offering healing to ourselves.
There is no harm in doing no harm.
There is continuing upset when we try to be right.

Where we have guilt, we will be vulnerable.
When we are not true to ourselves, we can be hurt.
When we have blamed another, we will fear being blamed.
When we are afraid of someone or something, we have not yet forgiven.

All upsetting experiences are lessons, reminders or wakeup calls.
All difficulties are challenges which we can learn from.
All seeming offenses are opportunities to realign our principles and purpose.
In our defenselessness, our safety lies.

When we have nothing to hide with no secrets and no fears of being judged, criticism is a call for help.
When we are free from judging, blaming and making anyone wrong, we respond always with kindness.
When we are willing to give what we want to receive, we respond with respectful listening and love.
When we are open to giving what will bring peace and harmony to all, we forgive and love again.

And so it is, we learn and expand our capacity for Loving Kindness,
Betty Lue