Thursday, May 29, 2014

All Relationships Deserve Our Best

I treat myself and others with respect, kindness and gratitude.
I give myself my best, so I remember to always give everyone my best.
I forgive my mistakes and others’ easily and quickly.
I trust myself to keep my agreements and make no assumptions.

Did you ever wonder why people seem to give their worst to those they claim to “love”?
Do you ever see how people often ignore their children to speak with their friends?
Did you ever ask yourself why no one seems to give special care and gratitude for elders?
Do you ever ask yourself: What happened to respectful, responsible and cooperative families?

If your relationships are filled with positive attention and intention, I salute you.
If your marriage is a shining example of respectful communication and helpfulness, I honor you.
If your parents feel loved, respected, appreciated and supported by you, I appreciate you.
If you teach your children and all children respect, responsibility and cooperation, I bless you.

It is time for all of us to step up, forgive the past ignorance and neglect and choose again.
It is ours to make a difference in every relationship we have.
We can bring our best caring, listening, acceptance and response to every relationship.
Now is the time to transform the old habits into new means for inspiring respectful Love.

Do you know how to make and keep promises and agreements?
Do you understand the value of your word and your integrity?
Are you aware of how others observe you and learn what they can expect from you?
Do you watch others behavior to get an idea of who they are and what you can expect with them?

Are your relationships based on first impressions?
Do you believe “What you see is what you get.”?
Are you willing to clean up your dress, words and behavior?
Do you want to give the impression of being trustworthy and respectful?

You are making the difference you want to see and live with.
You are attracting relationships which mirror what others see in you.
You are teaching others how you want to be treated and talked to.
You are setting the tone of energy and ways to relate.

First:  Be, demonstrate and model in all your relationships what you prefer.
Remember to use your words, appearance and interactions to teach others.
Live consistently at home and work, in public and in private what you value.
Take time daily to improve yourself and your relationships.

How we relate to one another determines how others relate to us.
When we are respectful, others learn to respect themselves and us.
When we are argumentative or defensive, others prepare to argue.
When we are forgiving and move on easily, others learn to let go.

We are teaching our world with every thought, word and deed.
It is essential that we be clear about what we are teaching.
I would rather be happy that be right.
I prefer and choose to never fight.

Trusting you choose well, for the sake of Goodness and Love,
Betty Lue

Relationship Reminders: (See my  Reminders books on
Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.

Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
Take nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.

Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.

When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.