Tuesday, September 03, 2013

Stop Blaming!

Everyone deserves the BEST!
Our fall classes begin this week:
1) Secrets of Better Living
 2) Living A Course in Miracles
3) T’ai Chi chih: A Moving Meditation
Join us in Hidden Valley Lake or Pleasant Hill, CA , via online recording or CD.
Everyone is welcome.  All on contribution basis.

I no longer complain, criticize or blame myself or others.
I now affirm, accept and appreciate the Good in me and all.
I choose to forgive and release judgmental thought and words.
I trust we are all where we need to be to heal and learn and know.
The more I free myself from negativity, the more I see Who I really AM.

Stop Blaming!

Blame stops progress.
Guilt creates avoidance.
Avoidance increases fear.
Fear blocks kindness and love.

Blame is negative.
Negative thoughts, words and actions produce more negativity.
Acceptance is positive.
Positive thoughts, words and actions create more positive possibilities.

Negative thoughts generate criticism, prejudice, righteousness, demands, bullying and blame.
Negative emotions cause shaming, humiliation, attack, justification, excuses, hurt, violence.
Negative behaviors create fear, separation, disease, war, dishonesty, lying, cheating and stealing.
When we are blamed, we think, feel and act with negativity towards ourselves and others.

Blame is a symptom of disrespect.
Blame is a sign we are not responsible.
Blame is playing we are a victim.
Blame is the choice to attack another for our own miscreation and misperception.

To blame, criticize, accuse, attack, threaten another is to invite more of the behavior we judge.
To punish, humiliate, terrify and hurt others for their “wrongs”, does not correct the problem.
To learn how to be in more control and to choose more consciously, someone must demonstrate.
To improve our behavior, we need to be motivated, taught, encouraged, supported and appreciated.

The blame game elicits only negative relationships, unhappiness and dis-ease.
When we blame we weaken our selves by fearing counter-attack.
What we give to another is given to ourselves and so we fear our own self judgment.
Guilt drains positive creative responses and creates tenuous defensive reactions.

There is no desire to blame anyone. when we are filled with appreciation, acceptance and love.
The negative mind cannot see or receive what is offered, because it defends and denies.
The positive mind sees and receives only what is beneficial, healthy and possible with gratitude.
With open-mindedness and appreciation, we see always and only the Abundant Good.

I forgive myself for blaming anyone including myself.
I release the need to compare, judge and criticize.
I now set myself and others free to be, by allowing, accepting and appreciating.
I appreciate everyone as we are, doing the best we know.

Affirmation and appreciation work!
Loving you, 
Betty Lue

If You want to do the Work?
Clearing Upsets of every kind.

Every upset is a past similar.
Every upset is triggered by some ancient unhealed memory.
Every upset is revealing a wound left unattended and misunderstood.
When we do not see what is real, we cannot heal what is false.

Every fear, concern, worry, hurt, judgment, resentment, guilt has a cause in our minds.
We make up the reasons for it all, when there really is no cause other than our choice.
To perceive is to conceive and believe and receive what we have chosen unconsciously.
We see what we believe and want to see.  

To expose our miscreations and misperceptions and misinterpretations is not what the ego wants.
We must acknowledge the resistance and do it anyway to clear the emotional/physical upset.
Our lives are projections of the unfinished business of history and humanity, yours, mine and ours.
We have the freedom and responsibility to clear it all with our willingness and spiritual work.

What we believe, we will see.
What we conceive and believe, we will achieve.
What we imagine, think and speak is being created.
What we forgive, erase, release and undo we clear and complete.

The Healing Work is to calm emotional reactions and listen to the peace in your heart.

Awareness with non-judgment is healing.
First, Reveal what you want to heal.
Observe your emotional reactivity and you will see what you have imagined to be.
Observe with neutrality and you will see what you want to be.
Here is a process that works beautifully to see what needs our attention!
Write a page or more of:
The real reason I am upset (concerned, fearful, confused, hurting, etc) is:
Continue writing responses until you are empty inside, until there are not more.

Read them slowly back to yourself, crossing off whatever you know is not true.
Whatever responses are left are calling for clearing, healing, forgiving and undoing.

Look for common beliefs that infuse them all.
Ie. I am not enough.  Life is hard.  I am not capable or loveable.
Rewrite the script with a new affirmation of the Highest Truth.
I am overflowing with Goodness. 
Life is fun, safe and Easy. 
I am loveable and capable.

Write the new affirmation 20 times daily for 14 days or more, until there are no opposing thoughts.
If you have trouble finding the resisting belief or writing affirmations, email me and I will help.

You know you are clear when you no longer, judge, resent, blame, fear or get upset.
You know when you have healed the obstacle to peace, because you are at peace.
You know when you can easily take responsibility, forgive yourself and choose again.
This is the beginning of the end of emotional reactivity and the beginning of loving response ability.

Life is good and all is well.
Loving you,  Betty Lue

The Healing Work is to calm the emotional reactions and listen to the peace and love in your heart.